There are numerous reasons couples stop having sex. One of the big reasons is either the man stops initiating sex OR the woman initiates too much.
What the *^%# you say?
Yes, you read that correctly - “when the woman initiates sex too much.”
There’s no secret I’m a big advocate of women initiating sex to kick start your love life, mainly because:
- I’m a man. (Call it a conspiracy if you want)
- One of my surveys men place ‘Initiating Sex’ at the top of the list of things they wanted from their lover
MAN FACT – Men like it when women initiate sex. It makes life easy, makes us feel attractive, desired and a valued man.
BUT, if you (a woman) initiate the MAJORITY of sex your man may gradually lose interest in sex with you. Yikes!
Initiating too much could cause your man to lose his motivation, the passion for the thrill of the hunt and the rush of the conquest. Or, most likely, it could condition him to be lazy – a sort of ‘learned laziness.’
And the worst part is a man may not even realize what has happened and misinterpret it as feeling less attracted to you. Yikes x2!
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I bet you’re confused now, aren’t you? “OK, let me understand men correctly…my man wants me to initiate sex BUT I could screw up our love life if I initiate too much?!” YES you understand!
TEST Here’s the key…. Ask yourself ‘Do you initiate sex MORE than him?’ If ‘yes’ there could be a potential problem brewing.
My suggestions is to change your focus. Instead of being the 1st to initiate sex – be the 1st to give the hint to initiate – that the time is right and ready for sex. In other words, shift from being the ‘initiator’ to the ‘hinter.’
This is good news too all the women who have wrote me saying “I’m tired of initiating sex ALL the time! Why can’t he?”
Don’t misunderstand my message. YES initiate sex BUT not more often than him.
Understanding men is the name of the game – and key to a passionate love life. I hoped I helped you understanding men in relationships just a little big better
PS As always – I’d love your comments below.