The Biggest Reason Men Pull Away?
I told her that, believe it or not, some men pull away because they care about you.
Just because he’s not barrelling forward and jumping into a relationship like a pool on a blazing hot summer day doesn’t mean he’s not interested in you. With some men, it could mean the opposite.
Even though they may not show it men have emotions and they get hurt – although they’ll swear under oath that’s not true.
A man may really be interested but he can’t just follow his heart, he’s projecting himself 1-month to 3-months in the future and considering the breakup scenario.
“What?! He’s thinking of breaking up with me before we’re even serious?”
He’s considering the reality that you may not fit into his life for one reason or the other (his family doesn’t accept you, his dog doesn’t get along with your dog, it’s not working in the bedroom, etc…)
…In that case, he will have to put an end to the relationship.
Over beers and in the locker room most guys will describe this scenario to each other as “too much effort,” “a hassle” or “more effort than she’s worth.”
What men won’t admit to is the emotional pain – “It’s uncomfortable,” “It hurts” or “I don’t like making women feel bad.”
Men will avoid emotional pain at all cost. Call them pussies or cowards…men pull away because they’re afraid of emotional pain.
The guys you have to be worried about are “Hunter Gatherers.” These type of men thrive on the thrill of the hunt, stalking their prey, bagging big game and gathering trophies.
Hunter Gatherers are not concerned about your feelings now or in the future – they have a plan and it ends in your pants.
But more on Hunter Gatherers another time.
If you feel him pulling away you’ve either dealing with a nice guy OR, I hate to break it to you, he’s just not into you. In that case, have a simple conversation…
“Is it my imagination or are pulling away a bit? It’s OK, you can tell me. I won’t be hurt. I just want to know if it’s something I’ve done or if you’re just not into me.”
And that’s the good, bad and ugly truth about why men pull away…in a nutshell.