Where have all the men gone?
July 15, 2010 by Archer
Where have all the real men gone?
A friend of mine was complaining about how hard it was to meet a decent man these days (not only a good man, just a decent one).
After schooling her on some classic dating mistakes (refer to the article ‘Is technology destroying your love life?‘) I found myself empathizing with her.
This rant was inspired by all the guys I see walking paris Hilton’s dog, drinking a low fat caramel cappuccino, wearing $400 jeans, too many rings, have a shaved chest, no stubble on their face, texting on their phone to 4 different women while blubbering to his friend about how this girl he’s dating doesn’t respect him and treats him like a doormat.
This is a rant about men…
In my opinion, today single men are either totally clued out or have taken the metro-sexual thing way too far. To me, a lot of men seem much less manly today, don’t they?
An Alpha Male’s Understanding of Real Men
A real man respects women and doesn’t treat them as a conquest.
Men approach women. They don’t smile and sit there waiting for women to make a move. Yes, we get shot down sometimes. Yes it stings but that’s part of being a man.
Real men only go out with women they can be proud of.
A real man isn’t just concerned with “getting off.” He enjoys pleasuring his woman as much as getting off.
Men don’t over groom. Yes, dress well, manscape if you’re overgrown but if a man shouldn’t have more than 2 salon/spa appoiments a month or take longer than 10 min to get ready.
Men don’t walk their girlfriend’s dog.
Real men don’t walk Paris Hilton, tiny teacup type dogs. Here’s a tip – if your dog can be leashed with dental floss its not a pet – its bait! Come on, get a man dog! (Dog lovers let this one slide,OK? I’m just tired of the small dog fad…especially with men)
Question: What’s the male version of Paris Hilton?
Men spend time with other real men. Meeting his male friends will tell you a lot about him.
Real men don’t over text message or facebook – they know how to speak and use a phone.
A real man doesn’t string women along and doesn’t get hung up on a woman that’s not good for him. He knows what he wants in a woman, will date her to find out if she’s the one and be man enough to admit she’s not his type, tell her and move on. This is hard, it stings but mature and very fair.
Guys, if you’re just not into her, TELL HER. No hard feelings. Don’t string her along.
A man wants a woman like his dear mother. (Weird but true)
A real man wants to be a provider, treats a woman, but appreciates it when a woman reciprocates or sincerely attempts to pay from time to time.
Men don’t drink fruity, slushy, colourful belini drinks. (I drink single malt scotch and beer)
A real man isn’t afraid to break a sweat or get a little dirty. AKA a real man doesn’t get manicures and pedicures. Come on, guys!
A real man knows how to hit the toilet and not make a mess when he urinates. IF not, he’s got no dick control or just in inconsiderate pig!
A real man’s career is a high priority because he wants to be a provider for his family.
Man up, guys!
Once men start acting like men again (an ladies like ladies) I feel the world will get back into balance and back to normal.
(Feeeewwww! That feels better) As always I’d love to read your comments.
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Love that article. I cant stand a baby soft shaved slick all over man. I’d rather a cave man. Of course one who cares about hygiene. One thing I love on a man is rough rugged hands. That is such a turn on.
I love this article. I cant wait to share it with my fiancee’. He’ll laugh and agree with you completely.
mmmm definatley thats description of a real man GGGRRRR!
bring back the real man!!!!!!
Hi Jay, I have to comment on this one. I think REAL MEN started leaving when women’s lib started edging them out. Women have TAKEN OVER men in our society today. When someone keeps kicking you long enough, eventually it’s just best to walk away. There are a few real men left. But women now try to dominate the world, be it politics, religion, money, home, sex, whatever. They chastise men, and make fun of them. (Just listen to some of the commercials). Bring back the 50′s when men were men and women were women. Yes it’s ok for women to go after the same things as men (with a few exceptions) but they have pushed it to the point where they don’t even need a man to be around anymore, not even to have children and they have made their point loud and clear. They need to move to an all women’s planet. Let the real men come back for us. – - I love men. They were first on this earth and we (women) were made 2nd (are you listening ladies? – 2nd !!!) To be by their side, to be a helpmate, not to take over and rule. I don’t blame the men for leaving one bit. – - – I know my place in a man’s life. I’m forward at times with them and not at other times. There should be a balance here. – - – (that’s probably why there are so many women on women and men on men now-a-days). Thanks Jay for listening. I love your articles. They are right on !!! I love your male input. Sincerely, Bettyjean
I loved this article, I think I am going to post it to my facebook page and see what kind of responses I get there. This article made me laugh because it is soooo true. women complained that men were to manly and now they are complaining that they aren’t manly enough. I think or society should go back to a 50′s or 60′s society where the men worked and the women did too but they didn’t act like men, and the women were always there to pick the kids up from school and stay home and take care of them. todays women usually only see their children for maybe a few hours because they are so focused on getting that promotion or showing that they can do as much or even more than the men can that they lose sight of what is really important.
I hope you get more articles like this.
Bettyjean, spot on girl!!!!!
Jay, I love this article too – so true!!
I wanted to say thanks also for this whole site of yours – it’s bloody brilliant!! and my hubby loves the change in me!! (so do I
Jessica, thanks for the feedback. I was ify about putting this out
Bettyjean, I agree with you 100%. Balance is needed. Women are acting more like men
I agree with most of the article. Men need to be respectful to woman and not view them as a sex object. Men need to be providers for women and should take financial obligation of the household. Men should not have small dogs or take longer than a girl to get ready. Men need to get their act together and go school to become educated to start a career. Men should become more like men in the 50s’ and 60s’ and support their household! However, the average American man, today, is not raised with proper manners on how to treat a woman. Men naturally mature slower than women. It is a scientific fact. Most women are not going to sit around waiting for a man take care of her so she can stay at home taking care of a child.
Women need to go to school and become educated, because what is a women going to do when she is uneducated and men don’t find her attractive, interesting, or just not the right one. Are these type of women suppose to depend on their father to support them the rest of their life? Women need to become educated and start their own career. Women need to learn to depend on themselves in case any unpredictable event occurs, such as not becoming married or her husband dying. Real men should not become intimidated by women. Real men should want to have an intellectual conversation with his wife; however, some men these days don’t even know what the word intellectual means. Come on that pathetic!
I completely agree that women who have children should take a break from their career to raise her child to develop the relationship and foundation for that child to grow from. Mothers need to read and interact with her child so the child can develop communication skills and learn social behavior skills. However, how are mothers suppose to raise their children to become an asset to society when they can’t write a complete sentence or do simple algebra? Children need to be raised by an educated mother so their children don’t spend the first five years of their life watching Sponge Bob and MTV. Mothers need to educate them.
That is the only way our society will advance and little boys will become “real men”. Why should we take 10 steps back and convince ourselves that men want the perfect house wife, like the uneducated women in the 50s?Why can’t men apply themselves and get a job that he can be proud of and support his wife in becoming educated. Women are not taking over and trying to dominate over the house, men are becoming lazy. Women are human too; we have a survival instinct inside and will do whatever it takes to make sure our child has food in his stomach and a roof over his head. Men today should stop blaming working women for being to masculine and admit to themselves that their ashamed of themselves because they can’t be a real man.
Think about it ladies, would you tell your daughter “it’s ok to fail school as long as you know how to wear make-up, keep your man pleased, and act stupid so your husband can feel like a man.” No! there are opportunities out there for men and women. Take them and America won’t have so many idiots walking around depending on well fair and other government aid. Men need to raise their standards and start looking for real women. Trust me ladies it’s possible. I’m a professor now and graduated with my masters. I’ve been happily married for 17 years and have two children who are 12 and 14.
Jessica, well said!
Totally agree!well done!
Jessica, in simple in clear way you described the world we live in. That’s reality… and Betty.. I disagree with you, please read Jessica’s comment
Jessica, I should add you point to the list..
“real men are not intimidate by an educated women”
I’m certainly not. On the contrary – it is very important to me.
Jessica, it would be awesome if you could put that in point form so some of the meatheads i work with could understand the role of the woman in modern society! thanks.
And Betty, women cannot have been created second. An Asexual or female and male being must have been created first in order to reproduce. Unless you’re bringing religion into this. And i don’t think i’m his helpmate, we’re just both mates. neither is subordinate. unless we’re arguing. then he is :p
I agree with most of your points, except for the following:
I much prefer a man who has regular manicures and pedicures. I hate being touched by a man and scratched by rough hands/cuticles or broken nails, especially in my sensitive areas while being intimate…that hurts!! And feet that aren’t taken care of (dry, calloused, rough skin, and especially fungal nails…eeewww) look and feel awful, and simply disgust me.
A real man always pays for a woman, even if she’s just a friend. That is part of being a man. Men give, women receive. Her presence is payment enough; she simply receives graciously.
And I don’t think walking a small dog has anything to do with a man’s masculinity. If anything, it means he is more secure in it!
Laurie,
Let’s agree to disagree especially on the point about men always paying because “that’s what men do.” Ask your friends – men appreciate a woman who can contribute. And at least attempts to pay from time to time.
“Men’s job is to give and women’s to receive.” what? Who died and made you queen? I love women and respect them but I wouldn’t put up with a woman who acted like she didn’t need to give anything to the relationship.
Thats is a dangerous, “taking” attitude. The problem with that attitude is that it may work well when you are in your prime but unfortunately gets tougher as you get older competing with younger women.
(I just had a conversation about this with a beautiful 45 year old woman who would agree – and in fact brought uothr point)
Lucy, I love your reply!
Who else would like me to create a…
“20 ways to spot a Real man?”
I love this article! im gonna show it to my fiance he will very much agree……….
For awhile now, i’ve been on the site, reading, learning, growing (alway evolving ! and i have to say thank-you for the insight and education.
i am lucky enough to be in love with a real man: strong, sexy, funny, generous, confident.. he has great hands, working man hands, yes a bit calloused, but when they touch my body — oo it’s magical.
he has a warm woolly body, so lovely to cuddle up next to on cold winter nights.
he can buld a house from scratch or create a straight A replica of the body’s cell from styrofoam.
he likes big juicy burgers, ice cold beer, and a good raunchy joke!
he loves his kids and provides well for us.
i’m his trollop, his lady, his wife, his friend
i appreciate him, adore him, respect him.
he is a throwback man, old school, and so fine.
my heart skips a beat when i feast my eyes on him.
he is all man.
yes,jay, we need more of them.
digging your site!
Lisa, I’m glad to hear reading the articles you are growing & evolving. That is a high compliment.
Sounds like you have a real man on your hands. Congrats. Good catch
I have to say that I agree with a couple different responses here. I very much believe that society was much more balanced back in the day (ie the 50s or 60s). I am an old fashioned woman in some ways. I believe that the man’s role is the provider and the protector of his family and the woman’s role is to be the caregiver. I am a stay at home mother and “housewife”. I love my life, and truly believe that my children (all 6 of them) benefit more by me being at home to be here for them than by me going out to earn extra money. My man is the provider! He goes to work and provides for us, just as a man should! He deserves to come home and be able to relax, knowing that I have taken care of the household. He feels appreciated, respected, and loved having his woman caring for his home and children. Now, this is not to say that I am a submissive woman. FAR from it! In fact, I am very vocal and at times very demanding about what I want and need. I am an educated woman, and expect my children to strive for excellence both in school and in life. They are taught how to respect every person, man or woman, and what is right and wrong. I think the comment about how we should go back to the ways of the 50s and 60s may have been misunderstood. I do not think that the person who wrote it was implying that women should be uneducated submissive stepford wives. No one likes a brainless “yes dear” person. But I do think that our roles have been blurred. I have been both a working mom and a stay at home mom and I can say from experience that my children are much happier with me home. My daughter once told me she didn’t want to go to the movies anymore. I was confused and asked her why and her response was: If we don’t spend money going out then you won’t have to go to work to make the money. She was 5. I have never felt as fulfilled as I do being a “housewife”, I went to college, had a career, and ENJOYED it. But, I truly feel happier being here for my children and my man, than I ever did in my career. Not to say that working women are doing something wrong! Everyone makes the choice that is best for them. But I am willing to bet that deep down, every man would LOVE for their woman to be a true lady, and every woman would LOVE for their man to be the provider and protector. It is a HUGE turn on for me when my man comes home from work, dirty and smelling like MAN. And it’s a huge turn on that I take care of him! And you know what? His biggest turn on, is coming home to a well kept house. It shocked me too at first! But he told me that more than me getting dressed up for him, more than sexy lingerie, the thing that turns him on the MOST is knowing that I appreciate what he does, that I show him that by taking care of our home, that I take pride in staying home to care for him. Some of you may be wondering, “How old is this woman?” I’m sure I may sound older than I am by my old-fashioned views LOL I am not. I am 32 all my kids are between the ages of 13 and 4, and some people may think I am backwards or somehow go against women’s rights. I believe what I believe. My life has not been smooth or easy, I have experienced different types of lifestyles and relationships, and the life I lead now is the only one I have ever found that makes sense. SO! Men should be men! Enough of this pretty boy shit! A real man cares more about the people in his life than how he looks. And Women should be women! You don’t need to be submissive or stupid to be one! A real woman cares for her man and her family more than her career or how much money is in the bank. And now that I have rambled on and on…. I would love to hear anyone’s thoughts on this
YES YES YES!!! Give me a face unshaven sometimes, chest and the rest of your body NEVER shaved (no matter how much or how little hair…just wash properly every day…..that’s good enough for me)…..I do my man’s manicures and pedicures (even if I have to remind him from time to time that he needs one……actually he enjoys the way I take care of his hands and feet…mmmmm…..very much so .. actually…hmmmm…. come to think of it…..he asks for them more often lately……and no, there’s NO shiny sheer nail polish!!! He’d have a fit. The rest I can’t even begin to relate to ….walk my little dog? text and fb all the time? When the man texts it’s either 1) in response to something I’m asking him 2 hours later and hardly more than 4 words…..I’ve become an expert at deciphering his shorthand code…….or 2) he’s remembering last night and I’m getting a “Hey Sexy Lady” text……FB? My man has a fb page because I nagged him to get one. I thought we could communicate. It’s be cute. HA! It just sits there….he checks it from time to time only to be nosey and see what I’m doing ..if anyone puts up a message or joke or stupid smiley face hello they’ll get no response…..he thinks those are sillly…..and he’ll NEVER put up anything in “What’s on your mind” ……for what? If he wants you to know he’ll tell you when he sees you…..Caveman you say? Maybe so……….in that case I LOVE MY CAVEMAN!!! Thank GOD there are still a few around and I have one of them!!!
I agree with parts of this. I like the overall idea that many men seem to be over feminized, but some of these comments I actually find extremely obnoxious. First of all I would NEVER want to live the way that it was in the 1950′s or 60′s. First of all, so many women felt so unfulfilled that it was common practice for them to be perceived tranquilizers because they would have giant emotion breakdowns (read the Feminine Mystique, a study done back during that time).
I understand letting a man feel like a provider but I am never going to sit around letting anyone take care of me all the time.
I dont think that there should be such strict gender roles here. I don’t think that there needs to be a women’s job and a men’s job. I fully admit that I often wear makeup, girly clothes, cook dinner, and plenty of other things, but because I feel like it, not because I am taking my place as a woman. My boyfriend also doesn’t own a tiny dog or get manicures, but that is because he doesn’t feel like it, not because he is too manly for it. I am actually offended by Betty’s comments that women need to be there and let men take over. My boyfriend is not my superior and never will be. I am not going to submit myself to whatever a man wants only because he has a fucking penis. My boyfriend is my equal, and we can negotiate things and I can compromise but I do not exist solely to be his support system. I am there for him because I love him and I want to do things for him, and he does the same for me (hell, he cleans more than I do). I let him pay for me, but only because he says he wants to, and once in a while I will pay for him
Its often more attractive to the opposite sex too be more manly, or girly, and I understand this. I am often quite girly because I know that it is how to seem more attractive and appealing, but going back to the 50′s or 60′s is such a bad idea, I will never take my place as a women and I do not want a man who believes that I am there to be his “helpmate”
men and women are equal. i do not care what Betty or the bible says about women being second
I hate this crap about women who care about their careers being wrong
Getting the article a little late but I loved it and so glad I was able to read it. I only work part-time. I wish I could stay at home full time as I did when my third child was born (he started school two years ago). I love letting my husband take care of me in this way and taking care of our 3 children. The feminist movement was intentional they don’t want us to have strong family values anymore.
Wow, what a topic!!! No doubt on your slight hesitation to post this but at least your man enough to rough the backlash of it and say it. Well said for the most part.
I did notice no one has pointed out that along with just society changing as a whole, so has the cost of living. I know every generation feels they pay more then the last but lets face it, if you want to have a decent house, a good school system for your kids to attend and a few things in your house to make it a home, its going to cost you. I have spoken to friends about this and I feel there should be a major tax break on people who want to stay home and raise their children. That alone would change the “balance” of men and women. Feel free to lobby for that Archer and I’ll back you all the way!!!
I am a 28 year old stay at home mom that feels a part time job is well needed. I say this because I have grown up having a job, paying for myself for the most part and will have no problem admitting it was a major adjustment to not making my own money and depending on my fiance. I love being home taking care of my son and I know there are tremendous benefits for everyone in my house because of that. I do however miss having the secure feeling of making my own money. Plus, when I do work outside of the home, I appreciate being home more. So yes go 50′s/60′s style but we really can’t knock the woman’s movement completely. For example, my grandmother married at the age of 16 and when she told me that, I about fainted. Ladies, do you really think you could have made a great choice on who to marry at the age of 16? I really think it took the generation before me and before them to really unbalance the scales.
Either way, men truly need to be men.
For me, it took a lot of holding my ground to become a stay at home mom, mainly because my fiance’s mother is the type of woman who does it all. She works 50-60 hours a week and comes home to cook, clean and do all the normal house hold chores. I told him, no thanks. I am not the type to do all the house hold chores and work that many hours because I am unlike our mothers generation, I want to be home and raise our son. I think there en-lies the balance….some outside work and yet the man provides for the household. Women and men working side by side, taking the roles in which we can live with. I believe that within this type of situation the man would be “manly” and the woman “feminine.”
Oh I almost forgot to mention, it really is nice that my man is a mechanic so his hands are rough, he doesn’t mind getting down and dirty, love’s my sweet pit bull, and doesn’t take longer than me to get ready. I’m with you Archer that there are too many metro-sexual men out there and that’s also why there are so many single women. Metro-sexual men are friends. LOL Hell, I even know some gay men who are more “manly” then some of the straight men out there.
Meagan,
I personally think an educated woman with a career sexy. That’s my thing.
My perspective is that a relationship is a sound partnership where each partner put in 100% not 50% each.
When I was young, things were very different. I actually had to avoid certain men that I worked with because they thought it was ok to pat me on the butt when I walked by or lick their lips at me, etc. I actually had one boss tell me he was in love with me and he chased me around a desk. Men would not get away with that in the workplace today. Back then I was afraid if I said something I would lose my job and that was a very real fear.
Fast forward 30 years, and believe me it went by very fast! Now, I wouldn’t mind being sexually harassed on occasion. lol. It takes a lot of effort to look good at my age but I try. I exercise, watch what I eat, shave pretty much everything and more recently… thanks to Archer, I bleach my backdoor. I am a professional educator with a Master’s degree and I have raised 5 sons. The youngest is now 20. THANK GOD!
My husband loves me but started to lose interest in me a couple of years ago. It was tough for him to tell me that he wasn’t as attracted to me because I had gained some weight over the years. Quite a bit of weight. My first reaction was to get angry at him because he was and still is about 100 lbs overweight. Yes I said 100. His weight didn’t really bother me but that seems to be an area where men and women are very different. Otherwise, how can you explain all the beer-bellied, bald men with attractive wives. It could be money… but I think men are just programmed more towards appearances than women.
Anyway, long story short… I listened,,, joined weight watchers (have lost 35 lbs. so far), started going to tanning booths (please no lectures on skin cancer here), started getting manicures and pedicures, bought some younger looking clothes, etc. I laughingly told him that being pretty is expensive. HE DOESN”T CARE how much I spend to look good… really… it surprised me but I think it is very important to him that I look my best and I want to because I adore him and want to make him happy.
The reward has been better communication and a really good sex life. I knew he loved me all along… now he wants me and that makes the dieting, exercise and everything else worthwhile.
JM,
You sound like a very hot teacher/instructor! Wish I took your class when I was in school!
You’re right. Looking your best does take some extra tome and sometimes money but I bet the feeling is priceless, right?
Your husband is a lucky guy. Tell him I said that, ok?
J
I have been with my boyfriend, common-law, or whatever you want to call him, for quite some time.
I have done my best to keep myself well groomed, in shape, and happy -unfortunately, everything is an excuse for him to avoid the above. While I have not lost weight, I gained some muscle to tone flabbier parts of my body that had caused me problems. I regained curvature on my hips, thighs, and didn’t lose my endowments in the process. Despite his endless complaints about his own body image, he has not bothered to exercise in quite some time. He has put on twenty pounds (and he was over-weight to begin with), and now he is entirely neglecting himself, me, and his responsibilities within our household.
I have done everything in my power to get him off of the computer. I have even gone so far as to purchase new lingerie, offer him a series of strip-teases, massages, and literally throwing myself at him, begging for any kind of sex -and nothing has worked.
Despite these flaws, he is the best friend that I have ever had… Which is what makes it so difficult to tell him that I am considering ending our relationship. I am not doing this to be with anyone else, I genuinely love him -but I think that it isn’t right to continue like this. We are both young, I am nineteen, which has probably rendered this post trivial to a lot of people, yet I feel genuinely at a loss.
I have asked him, politely, after every complaint of his about himself, to follow through with his plans… Have a shower, don’t wait a week again. Have some food, you haven’t eaten anything since yesterday. I am tired of getting the feeling that he waits for me to not be around so that he can get sexual satisfaction from a box with wires.
I know this may sound insipid, but what do I do, Jay? I mean, it seemed entirely like a body image problem, so I supported him in his goals to lose weight, and I took advantage of nearly every opportunity to show my affection. I know that through reading the above that it sounds as though he is depressed or suicidal or something, and if he is, he is hiding it very well. He is always sporting a smile. I hope this hasn’t come across as whining. If it has, I apologize profusely.
Thank you for reading.
Kristi,
Some people do hide depression very well. If you do genuinely love him, maybe you could encourage him to see a doctor. I am so sad for you. Hopefully you have some girlfriends who will support you emotionally through this. I am a big fan of girlfriends talking about this stuff with each other. As a sisterhood we are able to help each other through a lot. Are you close to your mom? She could be a good resource for you too.
Yes, you are young… that doesn’t mean what you are feeling isn’t real or doesn’t hurt. My mom used to talk about young people and “puppy love.” She always said “It’s real to the puppy.” Your youth doesn’t mean your pain is not genuine.
I would shy away from sharing too much of this with another man. Sometimes men want to “fix” things immediately and I think what you need is time. Sharing this with another man could just complicate things for you, unless he is a counselor. I wish you the best. Trust me, life has it’s ups and downs. It will get better for you, whether you chose to stay with this man or not.
Wow! Interesting dialogue.
Sarah’s husband is a lucky man. Meagan makes a great point about the 50″s (from what I have learned historically). A man walking his girlfriend’s dog is a caring gesture if he’s genuinely doing something nice for her.
Krisiti,
If your boyfriend (kind of young to be common law unless you’ve been living together for quite a few years) isn’t depressed, it could be a sign of how things will be if you actually get married. Things that tend to bother you before marriage, tend to become even more annoying after marriage. However, he also sounds young. At your age, it would be nice to date a few other guys to see what it’s like to be with others with different ambitions. It took one really nice guy to show me what I should expect in a relationship. I didn’t know, and accepted disrepectful behaviors from past boyfriends. Now, I have a great husband because I wouldn’t settle for less.
And one more thing… I like Sponge Bob. That cartoon has taught my son some sophisticated dialogue. Seriously, my son has learned quite a few good vocabulary words from that show.
I try very hard to let men be men but when they don’t even know how to light a bq. I just have to step in obveous not the man for me but at least I can light a bq
i think some of the stuff said was a tad harsh, many of it too true but some not right. i mean i love men, im happily in a committed relationship and i love him no matter what he had done to his nails and what to his hair (as long as it doesnt make me late
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i think the thing about real men to some degree is being comfortable enough in your own skin to be able to do more feminine things without feeling self conscious or anything like that. because you can get some pricks out there who are thugs and do all sorts or horrible things to those seem as more camp just because they happen to be more feminine. Its these people, men who go yeah real men this real men that (no offence to you from what you said of course * ) who should have their heads bowed they have fuelled a perceived problem and made one out of nothing to begin with
* these are usually larger slap head men with stubble and lots of gold rings who hang around in bars and pubs instead of having lives
but in there lies a contradiction, what is masculine? you said real men dont wear loads of rings, but those men do and many men do, just like other men do no too things come as one
its the balance and comfort that makes a man a man
i would rather be with someone who knows who he is than someone who is too afraid to be themselves, if anything that is more unattractive that being a male barbie
just like those girls who bitch and laugh at those who look more masculine or dont look good because they arent wearing the latest this that and the other, bull-shiz
these disgusting felines are usually under a thick layer of make up and fake god knows whats and its so sad, because they would be so good if they just went easy and didnt conform.
but then again maybe that IS deep down who they are and want to be and that cant be disputed with
im lucky i managed to get a guy who scrubs up good when need be but usually only takes 5mins to get ready ive done his nails and would walk my dog (if i had one) how ever long i asked because he wants to make me happy
that is a real man
I completely agree!! Especially when it comes to smooth chins. I dislike that. I want a man with facial hair! Haha!