Comments on: Understand What Men Want

By: christina

christina — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 04:43:35 +0000

@ Danielle: It may or may not be possible to get him to tap into that mushy gushy guy side. All I can say is that sometimes you have to take some initiative. If you want to hold his hand, then hold it. Same goes for kissing, hugging, etc. I don’t see how he’d snatch his hand away or get upset over it, and if he does then you might just have to realize that he has some deep seeded issues that you can’t fix. Also, try taking extra interest in his dog. It could be the key to his lovey dovey side. Good luck! I hope this helps!

By: Jay Archer

Jay Archer — Sat, 07 May 2011 16:49:27 +0000

I have no experience with the swinging thing. But sounds like the classic case of “once you do x you can never go back.”

He lacks interest in you? He fantasizes about other women? You don’t want to be involved in his swinging games?

Anyone have some advice for Danielle?

By: Kitty

Kitty — Wed, 04 May 2011 13:54:05 +0000

I have the same problem Danielle,hell the dog get’s kissed,hugged,loved,and so much more attention than I do.He never tell’s me gee you look great today,so I give up on even trying to look nice,once in awhile i’ll get dolled up to see if I might get a response…nothing,when it come’s to sex,well it isn’t all that romantic,take’s all of 15 minute’s,and that isn’t even about me,he talk’s about having sex with other’s,how great it would be if I was sucking on another man’s cock,while he is fucking me,we used to be swinger’s,haven’t done that in along time,I just got tired of performing for men I didn’t even know,was alway’s about them.Got tired of him talking about it every time we had sex,but he still does.I tell him every day what a good looking man he is,never does he return the compliment!

By: Misha

Misha — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 12:33:27 +0000

Totally agreed with Ashley…
D same thing happens between us….
V r together for over 6 yrs nw…
N yes it happens every month….
N srsly….
It’s really very difficult to understand men….
Even more Dan it is to understnd women…:p

By: Danielle

Danielle — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 15:35:36 +0000

Ok, so what about when my bf is so emotionally unavailable that he won’t hug, kiss, or even hold my hand? I have talked to him about those things and how important to me they are and he says ” I am just not that kind of guy, I really care about you, but I am not always all toucy-feely like that.” How do I tap into his inner touchy-feely guy and get him to do it more often?

By: Archer

Archer — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 18:47:10 +0000

Meagan,

Thanks for the explanation on how men react differently to an argument. Very helpful.

TRUE in my case for sure. I guess I can’t say “I don’t know what came over me” anymore.

Archer

By: meagan

meagan — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 02:42:20 +0000

one interesting fact about men and fighting or sensitivity is that men physiologically react differently to fights. when a fight starts, a man’s biological stress symptoms (raised blood pressure, body temp, muscle tension) raise extremely quickly and they are overwhelmed by it easily. On the other hand, in women the same symptoms rise much slower and so they will fight more and often can’t understand why he cant just talk with her about it.

I know i am guilty of this a lot and i kinda found it interesting when I found this out

By: ashley

ashley — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:52:11 +0000

I absolutely agree with this article and it is just about spot on.

My boyfriend is most definately more sensitive than I am, even though you would never know it. Anytime we get into an argument, the argument will usually escalate because by me speaking up and complaining about something, he gets hurt, shuts down, won’t speak to me, I want a resolution, but then I feel he is punishing me by being quiet, but really he’s just hurt and needs to calm down before he gets out of control, I get more and more pissed because I want to get to the resolution. And if it gets really heated, he will lose control and will have to win the argument, at all costs. Even if we stay up til 4 am on a work night, he will win. And then of course apologize when he calms down the next day for saying the hurtful things he said just to win.

I’m understanding more and more everyday how to handle him, and this article kind of solidifies what I have been thinking for the last 6 months. Honestly, whether I argue to the death , or just shut my mouth, I always win really anyway.

And ladies-you will never ever change the way they are. Give it up.

By: sara

sara — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 05:29:04 +0000

this article is true in a way… but in my case im giving and showing and when I want something my way or even sex my way it never happens..

By: melissa

melissa — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:18:21 +0000

love the article.since i have started receiving these emails my love life and improved 300%.sex is ‘wow’.signed my husband up 4 ‘fasterfemaleorgasms’ and since then we finally had anal sex and i’m enjoying it(after trying 4 4yrs).thanks