What are the top, most common excuses for turning down sex?
To find out I sent a survey to thousands of women and men asking that exact question.
The answers…
Top Female Sex Excuses…
- Too tired 27%
- On period 26%
- Not in the mood 17%
Top Male Sex Excuses…
- Too Tired – 44%
- Not in the Mood 21%
- No Time 7%
Answers that made up the remainder of the 100% total were as follows… Too sore, headache, stressed, I don’t feel attractive, not enough time, we’ll wakeup the kids, no birth control…
I’m surprised so few women answered “I don’t feel attractive” because
that is the underlying tone of quite a few of the comments on Master Your Man.
The most common answer for refusing sex when people filled in the ‘other’ field was “I’m mad at him.”
I can appreciate this. I don’t like a ton of drama but know some people who create drama just to have passionate make-up sex. That’s not for me. I’ll take my sex drama free, thanks.
I’m NOT surprised both men and women share the same main reason aka excuse for turning down sex is…
Too tired & Not in the mood
Too tired and not in the mood excuses are symptoms of our culture today. We seem to be addicted to fast pace, caffeine fuelled, prescription medication and financial pressure.
It’s no wonder we feel wiped out, run over by a truck and ‘too tired’ at the end of the day. We’re burning ourselves out both mentally and physically!
Want a better sex life? Make some lifestyle changes
1. Radically reduce stress
Take a hard look at what life stresses aren’t serving you and toss them out. Get radical!
2. Reduce caffeine and sugar
Ask any doctor, nutritionist or natural healer and they’ll tell you the same thing about too much caffeine and sugar…BAD! Consistent excess of caffeine can contribute to adrenal fatigue and nutritional in-balance – Both make you feel like crap!
3. Water, sunlight and exercise
Uh oh crazy theory time…
What happens to a plant when you don’t water it, put it in a corner and deny it fresh oxygen? It looks droopy and sad, doesn’t it? Are humans that different? I don’t think we are.
4. Balance OR Prioritize Sex
Sex needs to be a priority in your daily (like going for a coffee/tea break) or weekly routine if you want a healthy relationship. NOT an afterthought or something you tack on the end of a long To Do list.
Why don’t you make a point to put it in the top 3 of your To Do list? Why not make it a goal to achieve or a reward for a life well done?
IF it’s your man tossing the old ‘too tired’ excuse & you want to know
how to turn a guy on reply with this…
“Too tired to lay back and let me _______?” (fill in blank with A. enjoy, B. you C. get f****d D. all of above E. naughtier
Next issue – Learn the #1 most effective excuse FOR having sex.
To your passion,
Jay Archer
[Editor: I don't know any man who would
turn down an offer for a good blow job ]
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…and loop back to the article that if a man is refusing it also may be from to much pressure or woman initiating too often. Man needs to feel like a man sometimes.
In an affection starved society, “too tired” is something else…in my opinion. Sometimes I have found that just intimate cuddles and kisses lead to arousal and you have nice slow love making. Don’t need whips, chains, and kinky F*cking every time. You can have it nice sometimes. I’ve had some real intimate slow sex with a strong connection that took no work and I mean to work for either of us. I could get more descriptive but…
Your brain is your main sex organ. Stimulate that and the physical work can be greatly reduced!
My husband uses all of those excuses and I’ve tried everything but he still turns it down. His favorite excuse is “I’ve went a ling time without a girl so I’m not used to a women being my first option”
Gee, I wish Christine would have gone into a little more detail : )
Slow can be so nice, as well as cuddling in front of the TV. Both ways can lead to extrodinary outcomes for me. Fast and furious is nice on occasion too. I’ve recently decided to make it a point to at least be intimate with my husband once a week. Please don’t judge too harshly, some couples don’t engage for months!
Sex does seem to change with marriage. Recently, I heard the comedian Chris Rock say, ” before marriage men get p _ _ _ y, after marriage, they get vagina.” I’m embarrassed to say I’m inclined to agree with him.
Lady Belle,
I love that bit by Chris Rock.
He also jokes that he has a same sex marriage…the same sex all the time
Back in the 80′s when I was married sometimes we weren’t in the mood either (for one reason or another). But I always “loved the touch of my man and the thought of sex,” so when the excuses came up we solved the problem by just having him inside me to let it soak. (lol) Of course sometimes our excuses didn’t last, other times we would just fall asleep that way. I ALWAYS loved being close like that. – - – Still today having a man inside me, whether we do anything or not, is VERY, VERY important to me. I want my man to be a part of me (to own my soul).
Betty,
You comment was unique, touching, and from the heart. I loved it.
I admit to forgetting I used do the same thing with an ex except just put my cock between her legs to cuddle. Sometimes it turned into sex, sometimes sleep too
Lady Belle…just for you…
In the middle of packing up my apartment my lover (now my fiancé) was sitting on my bed and pulled me to him. I straddled over him as we kissed. He loves the feel of skin on skin so he removed our clothing. Soft and sweet kisses…moving my body in slow movements over him. I felt his hands in my hair and down my back. It was intimate. I remember just wanted to feel him closer to me, in me and all around me in the same moment. I moved myself over him, keeping the tip of his cock at the entrance of my pussy while we kissed. Sometimes pressing down as if to have him enter me…then moving away. After another minute of this I lowered myself down, clenching down around him. It was so heavenly I came in that one downward stroke. It set him off in the same moment. Neither of us broke a sweat. Who doesn’t have a few minutes in a day?