4 Surefire Ways To Turn-Off Your Man In Bed

I love surveys.  They allow me to give you all the information you need about making sure your relationship and sex life is going the way you want without me coming across as a know it all.  With surveys you get real information from real men and not just my point of view.  The survey results that I want to present you with today are from men who were asked what turned them off in bed.  The results are exactly what I expected but what do you think?

First, 41% of men said that when a woman is totally silent this is a real turn off.  If you are one of these women then I have something that will help you out.  It’s called “How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid”.   This program will turn you from mute into sex goddess and believe me if you can talk dirty to your man he will do whatever you ask.  There is nothing nicer than a woman who knows how to talk dirty during sex it is a real turn on.

In second place with 24% of the votes it was women who are self conscious about their bodies.  I’m actually surprised that this didn’t score higher.  There is nothing more off putting than being with a woman who is more worried about you seeing what she calls her fat bum or fat tummy than she is about enjoying sex.  These are women who refuse to have the lights on during sex in case you might see them and to be honest it really can be such a turn off.  Men enjoy being able to see you during sex and if you are with a women who won’t be on top because she thinks she has a fat stomach it is going to get boring very quickly.

In third place with 20% of the votes it’s what we call cold fish.  These are women who don’t move at all and they just lie there and let the man do all the work.  How boring this type of sex is and to be honest these types of relationships don’t last very long.  It’s like having sex with a blow up doll, no movement, no help you have to find the hole and do all the work.  What is the point of this I ask you?

In last place with 15% of the votes it’s women who criticize their partners sexual skills.  You might not know what I mean here so I’ll give you a couple of examples:

Don’t put your hand there

What are you trying to do?

That took a long time didn’t it?

Do you need some help?

Is that it?

I’m sure you get the idea on this one

If you are prone to doing any of these things then I strongly suggest that you try to stop and become aware when you are doing them.  If you want to keep you man turned on and responsive then the last thing you want to do is turn him off isn’t it?

Until next time,

Turn him on

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The Big Turnoff

Instant Man Mood Killer

Here’s how to turn him off fast…

…express any self-consciousness you may have about your body in the bedroom. 

Man mood killer!

Inside a man’s mind — To men, women are beautiful, mystical creatures who love and crave sex. Men are in awe of women. Any behavior you display that’s contrary to the image in his head totally shatters this image he has of you. Whatever you do, DO NOT open your mouth and ruin a man’s fantasy of you. 

He wants to enjoy being with you and the sexual pleasures being together will give both of you. (Believe it or not men actually want women to enjoy sex, too)

Come on, who’s body is perfect? Who doesn’t have a few flaws. Who doesn’t want to be 10lbs lighter? Blah blah blah

Perfection is a myth – get over yourself and get on with your life at least for the next 10-40 minutes. Take a sexual vacation from your self judgements.

Body self-consciousness mood killers include but are not limited to behavior such as:

1. Insisting he turns off the light before you make love
2. Commenting that you feel fat or out of shape
3. Avoiding specific positions because they feel “unflattering” 
4. Requiring the covers to be pulled over and around you during sex. (OK, only allowed in extremely cold environments or to keep warm in a cabin)
5. Apologizing for any of your body parts you feel aren’t up to standard
6. Stick to ‘Missionary’ because it’s “aesthetically safe”
7. Saying “Oh, look how ugly that bruise is”
8. OR any excuses for they way you think you look

Making a verbal judgment is just a bad commercial interruption in a beautiful movie you’re both enjoying. Put all those comments and judgements aside while you’re in the heat of the moment with him for the sake of your love life. 

If you suffer from being overly body conscious and judgmental practice focusing on he’s making you feel. Focus on what feels good. Focus on enjoying his body. Focus on anything that gives you pleasure and stay out of your head. Your judgements are only noise. 

Life is too short to wait until your body is perfect before living the love life of you dreams. Putting things off until tomorrow when you believe things will be better or perfect is the Fool’s trap. Don’t fall into it.

Let loose and totally express yourself in the heat of passion with your lover today! He wouldn’t have it any other way.

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