4 Surefire Ways To Turn-Off Your Man In Bed
January 26, 2010 by A_man
I love surveys. They allow me to give you all the information you need about making sure your relationship and sex life is going the way you want without me coming across as a know it all. With surveys you get real information from real men and not just my point of view. The survey results that I want to present you with today are from men who were asked what turned them off in bed. The results are exactly what I expected but what do you think?
First, 41% of men said that when a woman is totally silent this is a real turn off. If you are one of these women then I have something that will help you out. It’s called “How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid”. This program will turn you from mute into sex goddess and believe me if you can talk dirty to your man he will do whatever you ask. There is nothing nicer than a woman who knows how to talk dirty during sex it is a real turn on.
In second place with 24% of the votes it was women who are self conscious about their bodies. I’m actually surprised that this didn’t score higher. There is nothing more off putting than being with a woman who is more worried about you seeing what she calls her fat bum or fat tummy than she is about enjoying sex. These are women who refuse to have the lights on during sex in case you might see them and to be honest it really can be such a turn off. Men enjoy being able to see you during sex and if you are with a women who won’t be on top because she thinks she has a fat stomach it is going to get boring very quickly.
In third place with 20% of the votes it’s what we call cold fish. These are women who don’t move at all and they just lie there and let the man do all the work. How boring this type of sex is and to be honest these types of relationships don’t last very long. It’s like having sex with a blow up doll, no movement, no help you have to find the hole and do all the work. What is the point of this I ask you?
In last place with 15% of the votes it’s women who criticize their partners sexual skills. You might not know what I mean here so I’ll give you a couple of examples:
Don’t put your hand there
What are you trying to do?
That took a long time didn’t it?
Do you need some help?
Is that it?
I’m sure you get the idea on this one
If you are prone to doing any of these things then I strongly suggest that you try to stop and become aware when you are doing them. If you want to keep you man turned on and responsive then the last thing you want to do is turn him off isn’t it?
Until next time,
Turn him on
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January 15, 2010 by Archer
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What Men Want in a Mate?
October 16, 2009 by Archer
Sex survey says…
I was shocked by men’s response to this sex survey question…
Questi0n: “What is the quality most important to you in a sexual partner?”
The majority of men responded that their sexual partner “really love sex.” That’s it!
Shocking! I could have swore that we men were much more self-centered than that response indicates. What a minute, wow, there’s hope for us, after all!
Proof men aren’t all sexually selfish – Less than 15% of respondents answered ”That I’m sexually satisfied every time” ie. “As long as I’m satisfied – you’re OK with me.” The survey did however indicate younger men are a bit more ’selfish’ in bed. A possible reason why some women prefer older men.
As a man – and lover of sex – I shouldn’t be all that surprised that men want a sexual partner who is as passionate and enthusiastic about sex as he is. After all, nothing is any fun if the other person involved isn’t really into it; Not a dance, game, conversion… or sex, is it?
Men love sex – they want a mate they’re compatible with – who loves sex as much as they do.
So if you want to be his ultimate mate & assure yourself a satisfied man you need to display one quality above all else – love sex.
Ask yourself:
- Do you truly love sex or are you just along for the ride?
- Do you enjoy sex less than you used to? IF yes, is it you or your lover you enjoy less? What do you need to do to become more enthusiastic about sex?
- If you already love sex – What can you do to enjoy it or get ‘into it’ even more?
Get Selfish
For the next 30 days get a bit selfish – try things in the bedroom that YOU want – toys, games, new positions, fantasies, rough/tender, kink/cuddling etc…
Turn HIM into your own personal little love toy (some call it a sex slave) and tell him what you want and how he should do it. (Most men will love this new you).
Head Game
By ‘Head Game’ I mean that appreciating and loving sex more may have nothing to do with the physical – it’s possible that the trick for you is mental.
Is it a…
- a low physical self image
- low self-esteem
- depression
- lack of confidence in your skills
- boredom
- low attraction to your partner
- stress
- etc…
Revisit #1-3 above and unearth the mental hurdle to free yourself – and love sex again.
The sex survey says – that you’re man will be happy when you’re as happy and sexually free. Strive for that and you and your man mate can take your love life to new levels of passion – together.
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A Powerfully Seductive Pose
June 4, 2009 by Archer
Want to seduce your man? Using a bit of animal instinct could be the trick to trigger your man’s lust.
Study any model posing in her bathing suit on the cover of a magazine or watch any professional exotic dancer – they all have one thing in common — an arched back.
Why?
Arching your back is a primal mating signal to men. It triggers an old, primal area in a man’s brain that your are open, willing and ready for mating – sex, the item at the top of the agenda for most men.
The arched back is a completely subconscious trigger to a man – he will be unable to control a feeling of arousal. Powerful info, isn’t it?
How? Notice how our model has her shoulders back, chest out slightly and back arched by tilting her hips down.
The ‘arched back’ is communicating a powerful signal to the men around her. Even if she is not ‘his type’ men will find our model arousing because of her sexual communication.
Does this mean you should walk around with your butt stuck up in the air? Probably not. You can achieve the ‘acceptance’ pose in many different ways: wearing high heels, bending over and tilting your hips down, during a seductive striptease, seated in a chair, squat with high heels, shoulders and butt against the wall etc…
Employing the pelvic tilt back arch is a powerful sexual stimulant for men – use it wisely – and on the right target.
Try it out on your man today!
I will be including more Seductive Body Language in my upcoming “Master Your Man” handbook – coming soon.
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What Women Don’t Know About Men – Part 4
December 31, 2008 by Archer
The Art of Physical Attraction
Every woman starts off with a tight booty and a pretty pair of high heel s to show off a fresh manicure. You feel sexy when the men buzz around you right? Like honey to a bee. But, a few months into a relationship, when everyone is comfortable, the sweat pants come out and you stop shaving your legs each day. It’s an easy thing to justify.
Maybe one morning you feel cramps or want to snuggle under the covers for a few extra hours on a rainy day. It’s quite natural. But, then, those sweat pants become your best friend because they don’t remind you that you gaining a few extra pounds in your thighs or that you did not need that extra pint of Ben & Jerry double chocolate chip ripple at the grocery store.
In a society obsessed with skinny young girls with too much make up and pouty lips, many women fight back against the supermodel image. Granted, all women have that day when putting their hair up in a ponytail and running to bookstore in the rain make them look like a drowned cat. They also know that men are not attracted to the homeless look!
While no one is saying that you should slither into a gold spangled evening gown to run to Starbucks, if the only time your sex appeal sparkles to the surface is on your anniversary, then you are robbing yourself of that “I’m Too Sexy for My Shirt” feeling 364 days of the year. You are robbing your man of that sexy throb that he gets when he see you. Getting your glam on does not take much extra effort and can remind your man that he is sexually important to you each time you see him.
Try these Three Simple Ways to Pump Up Your Sex Appeal for Your Man:
- Rinse and Repeat. Change your hair. If we were to poll women on how often they change their hair, most would say they have had the same style or color since high school. Go to a professional hairstylists (no…HairMasters does not count!) and talk about what style is best for your face. Getting out of the rut your hairstyle keeps you in will give you man cause to notice and show that you are interested in your appearance for his sake. HINT: Ask his opinion! He must have a fantasy hidden in there somewhere.
- Feel the Rush. Going to the gym or working out has to be the worst. Burning those calories and picking up your heart rate a few times a week has some special advantages. Not only does it keep everything firm and your body tight, but it is healthy for your heart to keep in shape. HINT: If you find working out boring, then get a workout buddy. Many couples take the time to work out together. All of that sweat, adrenaline, and muscles working can led to hot sex.
- Check in with the Pretty Girls. Gather your girlfriends and start a “pamper me” day. When you set time aside to get manicures and pedicures together, you are treating yourself to personal beauty time. If an intervention is needed, go and get a makeover together. HINT: You will love the time with your friends and he will love the results.
You will be surprised how much appreciation your man will show when you are together if his libido kicks in when he sees you. You know that funky little twist in your stomach and jump in your heart you get when you see him? For men, the kick in the pants (wink) of their sexuality is the same feeling.
When spend time practicing the art of attraction for your man, he will return the effort with the sparkle of pride you see, especially as other men admire you, by being the man on your arm. He does not want you to stay cut like a supermodel. After all, no man wants that kind of upkeep and competition. But, you can add passion to the relationship just by taking pride in yourself.
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