Top 3 Excuses For Rejecting Sex

What are the top, most common excuses for turning down sex?

To find out I sent a survey to thousands of women and men asking that exact question.

The answers…

Top Female Sex Excuses…

1. Too tired 27%
2. On period 26%
3. Not in the mood 17%

Top Male Sex Excuses…

1. Too Tired  – 44%
2. Not in the Mood 21%
3. No Time 7%

Answers that made up the remainder of the 100% total were as follows… Too sore, headache, stressed, I don’t feel attractive, not enough time, we’ll wakeup the kids, no birth control…

I’m surprised so few women answered “I don’t feel attractive” because
that is the underlying tone of quite a few of the comments on Master Your Man.

The most common answer for refusing sex when people filled in the ‘other’ field was “I’m mad at him.”

I can appreciate this. I don’t like a ton of drama but know some people who create drama just to have passionate make-up sex. That’s not for me. I’ll take my sex drama free, thanks.

I’m NOT surprised both men and women share the same main reason aka excuse for turning down sex is…

Too tired & Not in the mood

Too tired and not in the mood excuses are symptoms of our culture today. We seem to be addicted to fast pace, caffeine fuelled, prescription medication and financial pressure.

It’s no wonder we feel wiped out, run over by a truck and ‘too tired’ at the end of the day. We’re burning ourselves out both mentally and physically!

Want a better sex life? Make some lifestyle changes

1. Radically reduce stress

Take a hard look at what life stresses aren’t serving you and toss them out. Get radical!

2. Reduce caffeine and sugar

Ask any doctor, nutritionist or natural healer and they’ll tell you the same thing about too much caffeine and sugar…BAD! Consistent excess of caffeine can contribute to adrenal fatigue and nutritional in-balance – Both make you feel like crap!

3. Water, sunlight and exercise

Uh oh crazy theory time…

What happens to a plant when you don’t water it, put it in a corner and deny it fresh oxygen? It looks droopy and sad, doesn’t it? Are humans that different? I don’t think we are.

4. Balance OR Prioritize Sex

Sex needs to be a priority in your daily (like going for a coffee/tea break) or weekly routine if you want a healthy relationship. NOT an afterthought or something you tack on the end of a long To Do list.

Why don’t you make a point to put it in the top 3 of your To Do list? Why not make it a goal to achieve or a reward for a life well done?

IF it’s your man tossing the old ‘too tired’ excuse & you want to know
how to turn a guy on reply with this…

“Too tired to lay back and let me _______?” (fill in blank with A. enjoy, B. you C. get f****d D. all of above E. naughtier

Next issue – Learn the #1 most effective excuse FOR having sex.

To your passion,
Jay Archer

[Editor: I don't know any man who would
turn down an offer for a good blow job ]

Popularity: 27%

The Taste Grosses Me Out

Q: My boyfriend and I do pretty much anything in bed… no limits or boundaries… well bar one.

The one thing that turns him on in bed is something I just can’t do – no matter how much I try and prepare…

He loves to watch me lick my own cum off his cock mid-way through sex.

I’m happy to do anything (and I mean anything) but that. I don’t know why it grosses me out so much but it does.

Any help to overcome this would be appreciated.

– Miss M

A: Thanks for the Q.

Everyone’s sexual tastes are different and so are everyone’s taste buds. Some women enjoy the taste of themselves on their man’s penis. For some it’s the naughtiness, for others it’s the taste.

I assume it’s not a mental thing since as you said “I do pretty much anything in bed.”

Here’s what I suggest, Miss M.

Use a Natural Water Based Lubricant

Using a natural, water based lube with your favourite flavour will likely mask your own taste.

Many water-based sex lubes can be scented and flavored – making them especially appetizing for oral sex. Water-based lubes clean off easily with just warm water and a little bit of soap and don’t leave a sticky residue like some kinds of sex lubes can. Water-based lubes also don’t leave stains on your clothes or bed sheets. The only real drawback is that water-based sex lubes tend to wear off faster than other types of lubes – meaning you might need to reapply the lube once or twice before you’re finished.

Water-based lubes can be used safely with any type of adult toy or condoms and used for oral sex, vaginal or anal penetrations, masturbation or for massages.

Water based sex lubes really shine when you give a blowjob, or for going from vaginal to oral sex and back again making it easier and better tasting.

In my experience, flavoured lubes can be a bit tacky, sticky, a bit more messy and some brands of cherry, to me, taste like medicine. I prefer the natural ‘unflavored’ options as they still have a tiny bit of taste. But it’s all personal preference.

Remember, the lube you want is…

1. Natural, Water-based (not silicon, or oil-based)
2. Flavour is personal preference
3. Brands I prefer: I-D, Astroglide & Wet
4. Do NOT get KY – it’s pretty terrible across the board.
5. Check-out at water-based lube selection here

I’m with your man on this one – seeing your lover enthusiastically devour your cock right after you rocked her with a powerful orgasm is highly arousing and like saying ‘Thank you! Thank you! Oh thank you!” A nice reward for a job well done.

NOTE: I used Commonwealth spelling today…Flavor = Flavour, Favorite=Favourite – for my UK, European, Australian, New Zealand and Canadian friends for a change. I’m also a Canadian.

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[ Editor : Bad blow jobs are almost as bad as no blow jobs.
Want to learn how to give a great blow job? ]

Popularity: 35%

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha – 12 Highlights

by Kim Conant

Great title and creative angle … but, what I liked most about Geisha is that it was surprising bang on the money!  She echoes most of my own beliefs about healthy sex and relationships.

As a man, I can’t argue with too much of what she’s teaching. All I can say is…her man, Mr. Conant, must be very happy.

Feminist will NOT like this book. It can easily be misunderstood as being submissive to your man and giving away your power. I disagree. I think it’s more about building power by building up your femininity.

1) Develop the Geisha Mindset

Yin is feminine energy. Yang is masculine.

Men love and are attracted to the opposite Yin feminine energy. Therefor to be Geisha is the expertly develop your Yin or feminine side. Yang is attracted in Yin.

But some people make the mistake of trying to force, manipulate or mold their lover into being the ‘way they want.’ Geishas understand it is much better to ‘inspire’ using her personality, kindness, beauty and femininity to treat her like a worshiped woman.

Ah ha! This could be the reason some men fall all over themselves for some women and not others….some are overtly more feminine than others….and are expert at displaying it.

2) Stay sexy, feminine and beautiful

Above all do what is required to be and stay your feminine best and ladylike.

Although Kim discusses strategies for smart eating, weight loss and keeping ‘fit’ she says it is not necessary to be ‘thin’ to be feminine.

Bottom line…want to attract a/your man you need to cultivate and develop your femininity.

ie. ‘Build it and men will come!’

3) Give all credit for your orgasms to your man.

I’ll give Kim credit, she knows men. She’s right on the money with this one and I’ve mentioned it often. She realizes its important to do this because nothing boosts a man’s ego more than truly pleasing his woman.

If you claim all the credit for your orgasm you can damage his already delicate male ego. It’s such a small thing to ask to make a man happy. Give him the credit! Why not? You already got the orgasm…do your really need the credit, too?

4) Enthusiasm

Basically, if his enthusiasm for sex is unmatched (and visa versa) there will likely be problems. Match his enthusiasm. If your man senses an lack of real enthusiasm or passion in the bedroom he’ll likely translate it as ‘you’re just not into him.’

5) Discover your g-spot (if you haven’t already) & learn female ejaculation (squirting)

Kim knows how to squirt. She goes into great detail about her own female ejaculation, how wonderful it is, how much men enjoy it and how it was desirable even in ancient times BUT doesn’t get into detail about how to squirt.

6) Ancient Sex Advice About Pubic Hair

Su Nu, one of at least 3 sex advisors to Chinese emporer Huang Ti in 2678 bc ( it’s good to be king) advised that the desirable female lover has a hairless Venus (vagina). So I guess mowing the front lawn is not as new as I thought.

She also suggest to look at your vagina and be proud of it. (She actually uses the C word. Geez!)

7) Use Toys But…

Kim empowers women to own their pleasure and orgasms. She is is a big advocate of watching adult videos (she even says ‘the kind without stories’)  and sex toys. BUT again, just because you got a battery operated assist you still need to give him all the credit for your orgasm.

4 Characteristics of a Good Man

1. He has good values
2. He is aware, conscious and responsible. (I hope so, especially #2 lol)
3. He’s nice and supportive of you
4. Positive optimistic and happy.

Make a list of what each characteristic and specifically what it means to you.

Key: Pay attention to what you does NOT what he says

Be on the lookout for this man, always. When dating Discover if he has these things ASAP…before wasting time, money, energy and reputation on him.

Reputation…I’d agree that I’ve lost interest in a few women after learning about a past love interest. “She went out with that douche bag? Gross!”

9) Single Ladies: Speak up for your need to get married.

Take it from a guy…men will delay getting married (if you let him get away with it) for as long as he can unless you apply at least a little bit of pressure.

Kim suggests telling him you expect to be married within 12-18 months and he should be ready to propose 2 months of your suggestion OR he’s not a good man, ready to commit or dragging his feet. Either way you deserve his commitment.

10) Sex Before Marriage

Kim is OK with sex before marriage BUT not without commitment.

She explains that Geisha are primarily for companionship not sex. In fact, sex is bad for business. If a Geisha sleeps around with any and all clients, especially some of ‘social lower status’ it lowers her worth. She must therefor save the privilege of sex for the 1 client with the ‘highest status.’ Other men may pursue but never achieve the prize if she wants to stay in business long-term.

Geisha lesson for women who want to get a guy to commit to her…HOLD OUT and make him work for it, prove himself with his actions and pursue.

How long? She suggests waiting several weeks or months. (I’d agree that would weed out most guys looking to just get their rocks off with you)

She also emphasized, wisely, that don’t get commitment in the heat of the moment ie. when his pants are around his ankles and he’s throbbing. “Do you love me and promise to marry me?”

Kim says…“you definitely want to avoid having sex at any time with any man who is not a Good Man”

…doing so will increase your social ‘stature’ to other ‘Good Men’

11) His Greatest Fear is that you’ll change after you get married

I don’t think I need to explain this one. You likely have the same fear about your man.

12) Be Different And Better than other women

I know a woman who’s goal it is to always to be the most feminine and beautiful woman in the room for her man. Great goal…takes hard work and determination but good goal. I believe men and women have the ability to age like a fine wine or scotch.

‘Create a Shrine To His Cock’ – LOL!

OK, frankly, I think this is kind of overboard and I’m not on board with this suggestion of Kim’s.She suggests to literally ‘build a shrine’ with photos and candles.

Yikes! I hope her worship doesn’t involve blood sacrifice. I don’t think I’d like to wake up looking at my own personal cock shrine.

What I think she’s getting at is learn to love HIS cock and express it to him.

MORE

Kim has some great ideas on eating, grooming, beauty and personal development that I confess to just glancing over.

Kim also has guidelines for men too like wearing his wedding ring 24/7, let her spend time with her girlfriends and doing chores to name a few.

[Editor Jay Archer: As always I welcome and look forward to your feedback below]

Popularity: 26%

My Man Loves It When I…

Ladies, start your keyboards! Share a tip on how to satisfy your man

Why?

1. Based on some of the comments I’ve read there are some pretty knowledgeable lovers among us.
2. Sharing tips is fun, isn’t it?

How to Satisfy Your Man?

How? Finish this sentence… “My man loves it when I…”

Now, let ‘er rip!

Remember to come back and feel free to comment on tips.

[Editor: I will do my best to stay on top of comments and put my Alpha Male seal of approval on deserving tips. To ALL contributors - thanks in advance]

Popularity: 24%

How To Squirt Course

Popularity: 6%

A Unique Way To Please Your Man

Editor Archer: Lucy, a lovely reader emailed me …

[Editor Jay Archer: 1. This is Lucy's 1st article. She chose the topic and I haven't edited a word. (Yikes - this should stir interesting reactions) Please give her feedback, below]

PLEASE DON’T SHOOT THE MESSENGER … ie. ME! As always, your valuable feedback, comments and ratings will guide future content. Thank you all.

Guest Article by Lucy

There are many unusual activities to please a man…

…Stand at the door naked with just on your high-heels to welcome him when he comes back at home, put on a sexy dress without undies when he takes you out for dinner or some party, allow him to kiss you and touch your private parts in public, have an energetic sex on bed, give an intimate blowjob, swallow his cum, etc. Besides these, the most intensified way to please him is “Cum-facial”.

Everyone knows that men love to cum on a girl’s pretty face – and why not? Cumfacial is an enjoyable activity for both. It is a demand of a man and a desire of a woman. Most of the girls like the feeling of cum on their face. And it’s only on girls’ hand to make it look good. You just need to make a little effort to please him with Cum-facial.

Follow these guidelines to make it effective and beautiful:

1. Cumfacial looks good only on beautiful faces. So, each girl must do some make-up and beautify herself before attempting it. Put on a red or pink coloured lipstick, long earrings, darken your eye-lashes, hair open or a nice bun and use bronzers (if necessary).

2. Usually guys prefer to shoot their load on a bare body, but a nice sexy black dress is a turn on – especially when he notice the stains of his cum later.

2. Most important part – position – you must be in a correct pose when he shoots. There are three best positions: 1) when on your knees – Open mouth, tongue touching right at the tip of the cock and make eye-contact open. 2) If you don’t want to open your mouth and eyes, close them, but make sure your lips are just below the cock-head so as you may get cum on your lips and chin. And 3) lie down and let him sit on you or stand beside while shooting.

4.  Some guys lose their control while ejaculating – thus they don’t know where cum is falling, so you need to adjust your face accordingly and make sure cum hit all around and across your face. Cum on both cheeks, nose, eyes, lips, chin, forehead & hair makes a good facial.

After the cum-facial, don’t spoil the mood of you man by wiping it off with a tissue-paper or towel. Guys cum on your face, because they like to see their cum dripping down your chin. They like to see what they have done to you.

5. Laugh or giggle after cum-facial often spoils the romance away. Give him a sweet and sexy smile – it’s a turn on. Tell him you liked it. Trickily show him that you even have his cum on your tongue. Take the dripping cum on your finger and suck it and wink at him.

[Editor Archer: I'm not convinced this is medical fact OR humor, but it's pretty funny.] And it’s medically proven fact that wiping or washing the cum off instantly is harmful for the skin. So better keep it there on you face for 10-15mint.

[Editor Archer: Don't agree BUT leaving it in just to see your comments - LOL] Add-ons: guys would also like if you go and fetch him water with cum on your face or you cooking with cum-facial on. Show him that you really like and don’t care if cum is on your face.

You can be more innovative and creative to these ideas and make your Him please with CUM-FACIAL.

Guest Article by Lucy

[Editor Request: 1. Please give your feedback to Lucy by commenting below. 2. Tell me if you would you like to see more guest articles?]

Popularity: 9%

Female Ejaculation – Fact or Fiction?

To squirt or not to squirt – for some – that is the question.

I’m sure I am bound to get a lot of comments on this post so if I am wrong let me know and if I am right let me know too.

Female ejaculation is commonly referred to as squirting and women who squirt quite literally exploded onto our screens thanks to those pornstars who began squirting on camera.  I’ll be completely honest with you here and say that men find this amazing and they would love every single woman they are with to be able to do it too.  This squirting proves to men that:

1. You are not faking your orgasm which is a common problem for a lot of men.  There are women who pretend that they are having an orgasm and to be totally honest sometimes men really can’t tell the difference.  With female ejaculation men know for certain that you have had an orgasm and that you have enjoyed yourself.

2. You are so turned on by them and what they are doing that you are literally exploding with excitement.  Yep the male ego kicks in here too and we love to know that we are doing something that you are really enjoying, what better way to end a late night session that to see the woman you are with losing all control and squirting.

There is no scientific evidence when it comes to female ejaculation but according to surveys carried out between 35 and 50% of females have experienced this at one time or another.  Some do it during an orgasm others don’t.  I’m not an expert here so please feel free to comment and correct any of my information and maybe you could even let us all know exactly what it feels like too.

So really the question that we are trying to explore here today is whether or not women can actually ejaculate like a man and if so what the $&*” is this all about and when did it start to happen.  According to Wikipedia the history of women actually squirting goes right the way back to the ancient world and there are even reports of this in the bible.  There are also mentions of female ejaculation in Indian texts and of course the Karma Sutra.  Even as far back as Greek and Roman times this was mentioned so there really must be some truth to it and of course if seeing is believing then we have all seen it on porn films.

NOTE: Some of movies cheat and use fake squirters. It’s easy – just cut camera – insert water from bottle – roll camera – fake orgasm and commence fake squirt.

Now that you know the ins and outs of female ejaculation and how to squirt all you have to do is get in some practice and make it happen for you.

QUESTION I’m curious to know – are you at all interested in learning how to squirt or completely put off by this idea? Tell me, below.

[ Editor Update July 25, 2010:: I just completed the Squirt
Trainer Unlocking The Secrets to Learn How to Squirt ]

Popularity: 11%

How To Ride Your Man – 3 Great Positions

If you want to know how to ride your man and gets some great benefits too then this post will explain the top 3 positions you can use and the benefits that both of you will enjoy.

Riding your man is first and foremost fun but did you know that it is a great way to get some exercise too especially for the thighs, butt and stomach.  That should be enough to get you interested in riding your man.

The first position is chest to chest.

For this one the man is on the bottom and you are one the top.  The benefits that you will receive are that you get great clit stimulation using this position so if you find it difficult to achieve orgasm in the military position then riding your man in this position could really help.  This position will work your leg muscles and your buttocks too and you don’t need to balance yourself because you will be lying on top of him.  For him the benefits are that he can relax and just enjoy the fact that you are taking control.

The second position is called the cowgirl.

Yee Hah ridem cowgirl.  This is a great position and from a man’s point of view it looks great too and you really can give him a good show.  You will need to lean backwards and support yourself with your arms for this one and while you are doing that he can either enjoy the show or play with your breasts.  He can also rub your clit if you like.  You have full control with this position and it is also one of the best for hitting your g-spot too.  You can always add a cowgirl hat and some boots to this one for even more fun and if he’s into it you can use a riding whip too.

The third position for riding your man is the most difficult and it is called the frogger.

This is a crouching position and it can be a little tiring and hard on your legs.  It is a great exercise though so if you want to tone up your bottom half give this one a try.  This position is visually fantastic for men so if you are planning on giving him a sexual treat then you should try this one.  It allows for great penetration and most men will literally blow up if you practice this position.

Now that you know how to ride your man the next thing is of course the fun bit and that is practice.  Practice, practice, practice and believe me you will have no objections for your male partner on this one either.  Just think of all the fantastic benefits that you will achieve.

Sexual pleasure for both, amazing orgasms and a fab toned bottom half too.  You can always add your own little variations to these positions too once you get the hang of them.

Have any more great ideas on how to ride your man?

Popularity: 28%

So You Want To Start Pegging Your Husband

WARNING: Kinky content. This post is ONLY for the kinky at heart and sexually adventurous. You’ve been warned so NO complaining. (I’m just responding to reader demand)

In the past while I have received a number of questions from people wanting to know about pegging so I decided it was time to do a post on this topic.  If you are looking for information or you are interested in pegging your husband then this one is for you.

What is pegging?

I’m sure you’re all familiar with anal sex right?  Well pegging is basically anal sex for a man.  What you are going to be doing is having anal sex with him using a strap on.  This might not appeal to everyone but if you are one of the ladies who has been sending in questions then you definitely need to keep reading.

To Peg Or NOT to Peg Your Man? That is the Question

If you’re reading this your husband may have already asked for some pegging. If not, the first thing you need to do is make sure that he is keen on the idea. A surprisingly large number of men are interested – at least 1x – if pushed and prompted a little.

If he reacts with “WTF! I ain’t gay!” You can put his male mind at ease by telling him that sex experts, therapists and wikipedia assure us it doesn’t make him gay.

He may have a strong reaction either way – but I can tell you he will likely respect your sense of sexual adventure. Hey, nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?

Note: some men secretly fantasize about this but are too ashamed to ask. Some men like to be dominated and actually fantasize about  how sexy their partner would look wearing a strap-on. It’s a combination of the role reversal and domination.

If you’re keen to try and HE is the reluctant one – try the give and take tactic. “Hey, if you want in my back door – it’s only fair that I get to try yours, right?” Who can argue with that logic?

If you have read about pegging your husband on the internet you will have received the female point of view and how enjoyable it is for you to be in control and your man to be submissive.

You are going to need plenty of lubrication and I would suggest that you get in a bit of practice before you decided to go full force with your strap-on.  The anus is a tight little sucker and you can’t just stick something up there.  Then again, I’m sure you already know this.

Pegging  Please Your Husband – Pleasure Not Just for Him

So back to the pegging thing.  Take your time and really enjoy the experience.  Plenty of lubricant and slowly does it.  I would suggest that you start using your fingers first and once he’s loosened enough you can move on to your strap on.  Something that you might not know about is the male G-spot and this is located in the anus.  It is actually the prostate gland and if you can stimulate this then oh baby your man is in for one hell of a time.

Remember you are in full control when pegging your husband and you need to really go gently at first.  He will definitely tell you very quickly what he is looking for and how much he can take.

Pegging Your Husband – Pleasure Not Just for Him

Wikipedia.org describes pegging pleasure…. “In terms of physical pleasure, women may get direct stimulation from the base of the dildo, or in the case of a double-ended dildo, from vaginal penetration. A woman can use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her clitoris, to get pleasure from pegging. Men may find stimulation of the anus, rectum, and adjacent organs, and particularly the prostate, enjoyable, which can lead to an anal orgasm. Some men enjoy masturbating (or being masturbated) during pegging”

Pegging your husband?

Pegging is perfect if you are thinking getting totally adventurous, kinky, becoming more dominant in the bedroom, or fulfilling his secret fantasy.  Look into the different shapes and sizes of strap-ons available and your sex life may never be the same again.

[ Editor Jay Archer : If you're interested in learning more about pegging your man,
strap-on sex and how to unleash his passion I recommend looking at this tutorial and guide ]

Popularity: 8%

His & Hers Vibrating Rabbit Cockring

His & Hers Rabbit Vibrating Cockring

We review another winning sex toy for couples. A close cousin to the Rabbit Vibrator made popular by ‘Sex and the City’, the ‘Rabbit Cockring‘ is a toy you can BOTH enjoy!

Her Pleasure…

• Gently stimulates the clitoris & other erogenous zones (see video)
• Quicker, more frequent orgasms
• More powerful orgasms

For Him…

• Longer, harder erections
• More intense orgasms
• Gently stimulates his testicles
• Delay ejaculation and last longer in bed

Watch This Video -  “Vibrating Rabbit Cockring”

Learn More About the ‘Rabbit Cockring’

Advantages:

• More powerful vibration in its class
• More durable silicone
• Longer battery life

Learn More About the ‘Rabbit Cockring’

Popularity: 4%

Romantic Mood Killers For Men

Don’t want to be the one to kill the romantic mood?

Most women know how to get a man going but do you know that there are some little things that you do that can be a real romantic mood killer.  It doesn’t matter whether you are just dating or in a serious relationship if you do these things you are essentially turning him off.

When asked about romantic mood killers the top answer from most men was:

1. When she wants to have a “talk”

Yep, that’s it.  We’re all ready for a nice romantic evening.  We have it all planned out in our minds.  The nice dinner (just to help put you in the mood), the bubble bath, the sexy lingerie, the new handcuffs, yes it’s all planned out and we can’t wait and then you says those four little words: “Can we talk?” and our fragile male world crumbles.

The romantic mood – gone, the anticipation of a night of pure indulgent sex – gone.  Why do you have to do it?  Do you even realize that you are?

When you say “let’s talk”, it’s as if you have just dropped a brick right into our crotch.  Yes it’s painful.

Come on we’re planning to have a nice romantic evening why do you have to spoil it by wanting to TALK.  When women say TALK it’s never about something trivial and nice and nine times out of ten it’s the serious talk when you want to know about getting married or having children.  We really don’t want to talk about those things on a romantic night.  When we do you will be the first to know believe me.

SECRET : Here’s the truth about men – we don’t want to THINK about love or how we feel OR use our memory to recall how you or we were feeling at a certain place at a specific moment. Gaaaaa!

Men communicate through physical actions. Being intimate with a woman is the secret to how men tap into their deepest emotions – allowing themselves to really feel – and really CONNECT with YOU! Sad but true. Sorry ladies. But that’s the way it is.

If you want to ‘have the talk’ I suggest you keep it light and talk about what you plan on doing to him later on and what he can do back to you.  I guarantee you won’t spoil the mood and you will have the best romantic night ever.

2. Running to the bathroom to ‘clean up’

When you rush away to clean up any stickiness or sweat – you’re sending the message “Yuk, boy germs!” which sends him straight back to grade school.

After lovin’ – don’t panic , it won’t leave a stain just give it a few minutes and enjoy being next to him. Heck – snuggle next to him and let him enjoy his own sticky mess! With luck he’ll ask you to go clean up – LOL!

Until next time,

Less talk – more inter-action

Popularity: 3%

How Long Do Men Want Sex To Last?

Have you ever wondered how long men really want sex to last?

I recently carried out a survey where I put this very question to a group of men.  The results were amazing and the time duration that men specified didn’t include foreplay either.

If you are looking to really put a smile on your man’s face then take note of these results and try helping him to reach that goal.  It’s a great experiment to try and of course there is a lot of fun to be had trying it too.

Survey Results:

50% of men said they wanted sex to last 30 minutes
25% of men said they wanted sex to last 15 minutes
21% of men said they wanted sex to last 60 minutes
4% of men said they wanted sex to last 10 minutes

As you can see from these results under 10 minutes doesn’t even feature.  Men really do want the whole sex thing to last longer than what most reports claim.  I know that there are a lot of reports and articles out there that say the average time couples spend actually having sex is five minutes and if this is true then there really are a lot of very unhappy men out there.

Why not try an experiment.  Time your next sex session and see what the results are.  This will give you are starting point to work from.  IF you fall under the 10 minutes then might I suggest that you find ways to make him last longer.  There are plenty of thing that you can do.  You might want to try buying a penis ring.  These are great for helping a man last longer and for you ladies the good news is that they also make him feel a lot bigger too.  Us men love these cock rings because they enhance the sensations of sex too.  You can buy these from all sex shops and if you really want to make it fun might I suggest that you get one that has a vibe built in so that you can maximize your own pleasure too.

When all is said and done, the reason you visit this blog and read these posts is so that you can pick up some valuable tips and information on how to please your man and have the best sex ever.  I tell it like it is and with that said here’s a little tid bit for you to chew on.

There is a really strong correlation with the frequency of sex and your health and happiness.  The reason for this is that sex is a high intensity exercise and therefore the longer you spend doing it the better it is for you.  Makes sense right?

So my advice for today:  Get a stopwatch, time your next sex session and then work on getting up to at least 30 minutes or more.

Believe me he will love you for it and a happy man means a lot more pleasure for you too.

To passion,

Archer

PS as always – Please comment. I love your comments, questions and feedback.

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4 Tips To End Sexual Boredom

If you have been with your partner for a while (let’s say years) then there is bound to come a stage where both of you are going to get bored.  You might not mention it to one another but believe me if you have been doing the same position every time for the past year or so then your partner is bored stupid.

The fact of the matter is that sex should be exciting and passionate and there is nothing exciting or passionate about constantly doing the military position and not even attempting to try anything else.  Couples can get lazy.  You find a comfortable sex position that you enjoy and that brings you to orgasm and that’s it.  Every other position goes out the window and you don’t even want to try it.  Don’t get me started on this ladies.  The point is you need to spice up your sex life because if you are not both enjoying it what’s the point.

What I have devised for you is 4 great tips on how to break the sexual boredom, routine, rut or whatever you want to call it.  These tips come from real men and there are the results of my latest survey.

Tip #1:  Have Sex More Often

This was the top answer amongst the men I surveyed.  It seems like after the honeymoon period most men are lucky if they get to have sex once a week.  This just won’t do, come on, sex once a week, that is just ridiculous.  When you start seeing someone you are probably have sex once a day if not more so why is it that when you get comfortable you take away this pleasure.  I have a question for you ladies – do you not enjoy sex after the initial first couple of months with someone?

Tip #2:  Have Sex At Different Times

If you only ever have sex when you go to bed at night then you will at some stage get bored.  Why not try having sex first thing in the morning.  Most men myself included love having sex first thing in the morning.  It is a great start to the day.  A quickie at lunch time, when the dinner is being prepared or whenever you can fit it in is a sure fire way to remove any boredom.  Why not try grabbing your partner when he comes home from work and trying this out.  I guarantee any boredom will soon be removed.

Tip #3:  Use More Sex Positions

There are so many different sex positions to try and yet most of the women I know tend to find one they like and stick with it  Boring…..Here’s a challenge for you.  For an entire month you are not allowed to use your normal sexual position.  Are you up for the challenge?  Do you think you will be able to do it?  I guarantee that if you take up this challenge you will find some really great positions and if there was any boredom or routine in your sex life it will have vanished by the end of the month and your relationship will be so much better too.

Tip #4:  More Oral Sex

Oral sex is an important part of sex for both men and women but often when a relationship reaches the comfortable stage the oral sex takes a back seat.  Why is this?  I have heard women say things like, “I only gave you a blowjob because I was trying to impress you.” Or “That was when we first met.”  Is there a rule that says you only give blowjobs when you first start having sex with your partner and then you can stop?  I don’t think so.  What is wrong with oral sex?  You enjoy it don’t you?

If you have reached a plateau in your sexual life and you find that you are stuck in a routine then it is up to you to change it.  You can see from the survey results what men want more of so why not take the initiative and put some of these tips into action.  You’ll be surprised how quickly that boredom will fade.

FEEDBACK: What bores YOU in the bedroom? And/or share your suggestions below

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4 Surefire Ways To Turn-Off Your Man In Bed

I love surveys.  They allow me to give you all the information you need about making sure your relationship and sex life is going the way you want without me coming across as a know it all.  With surveys you get real information from real men and not just my point of view.  The survey results that I want to present you with today are from men who were asked what turned them off in bed.  The results are exactly what I expected but what do you think?

First, 41% of men said that when a woman is totally silent this is a real turn off.  If you are one of these women then I have something that will help you out.  It’s called “How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid”.   This program will turn you from mute into sex goddess and believe me if you can talk dirty to your man he will do whatever you ask.  There is nothing nicer than a woman who knows how to talk dirty during sex it is a real turn on.

In second place with 24% of the votes it was women who are self conscious about their bodies.  I’m actually surprised that this didn’t score higher.  There is nothing more off putting than being with a woman who is more worried about you seeing what she calls her fat bum or fat tummy than she is about enjoying sex.  These are women who refuse to have the lights on during sex in case you might see them and to be honest it really can be such a turn off.  Men enjoy being able to see you during sex and if you are with a women who won’t be on top because she thinks she has a fat stomach it is going to get boring very quickly.

In third place with 20% of the votes it’s what we call cold fish.  These are women who don’t move at all and they just lie there and let the man do all the work.  How boring this type of sex is and to be honest these types of relationships don’t last very long.  It’s like having sex with a blow up doll, no movement, no help you have to find the hole and do all the work.  What is the point of this I ask you?

In last place with 15% of the votes it’s women who criticize their partners sexual skills.  You might not know what I mean here so I’ll give you a couple of examples:

Don’t put your hand there

What are you trying to do?

That took a long time didn’t it?

Do you need some help?

Is that it?

I’m sure you get the idea on this one

If you are prone to doing any of these things then I strongly suggest that you try to stop and become aware when you are doing them.  If you want to keep you man turned on and responsive then the last thing you want to do is turn him off isn’t it?

Until next time,

Turn him on

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We Vibe 2 – A Revolutionary New Sex Toy For Couples

We Vibe II ‘Sex Toy of the Year’

Thank you Techies! This little piece of technology is a pleasure breakthrough and is sure to rock your love live.

The We Vibe hands-free design stimulates BOTH the clitoris and the g-spot – at the same time. Plus – the man will never feel left out, jealous or inferior to your new tech friend. In fact, he can enjoy it too – again – at the same time! As the designers say “Worn while you make love” Unlike traditional vibrators and even a step above the popular Rabbit vibrator.

The ‘We Vibe II‘ is a true pleasure technology marvel! Thank-you technology!

Watch This Video -  “How & Why To Use the We Vibe 2″

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Learn More About the We Vibe here…

A Revolutionary New Sex Toy For Couples

• Replacing cock rings as the ultimate sex toy for couples!
• features enhanced power and vibrations for even more pleasure while you make love with your partner!
• Stimulate the clitoris PLUS G-spot at simultaneously

The new model We Vibe II

- Made to be used during sex
- Hugs a woman’s natural curves and a man’s penis
- Completely hands-free
- 9 different vibration speeds and patterns
- Dual vibrating motors for extra power
- Water resistant
- WeVibe Vibrator measures 3.25 inches long and 1 inch wide
- Rechargeable so you don’t have to worry about batteries
- Storage bag included

We Vibe is simply blowing away everyone who tries it. Check out ‘WeVibe II’ here…

Share your experiences with the We Vibe below…

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The Hottest Thing You Can Say To Your Man

When it comes to communicating with your man there are a few things you can say to really turn him on and make him feel extra special.  I am not talking about telling him how much you love him but how to speak to him so that he knows you really want him especially during sex.

What I am talking about is talking dirty and if this is something that is new to you then I hope this post will inspire you.

[ Talking dirty is something that is very easy to learn and this is a really great program that is called How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid. ]

The problem for a lot of women when it comes to talking dirty during sex is that they feel silly or so I have heard.  I remember one of my girlfriends telling me that she was afraid that she would sound stupid, say the wrong thing or that I would laugh at her.  No matter how much I tried to reassure her that this wouldn’t happen she refused point blank.  It wasn’t the end of the world but it did kinda put a dampner on things in the sex department though.  She just didn’t have any sexual confidence and this wasn’t what I was looking for.

If you want to know what the hottest things that you can say to your man during sex are then here are a couple of examples to give you an idea.

“I want you inside me” – this is such a turn on and talk about letting a man know that you are enjoy yourself.  When you say this to your man you really are pushing his buttons and letting him know that you are just as excited about what he is doing as he is in doing it.

“F**k me now” – again this is a real turn on and a way of telling the man you are with that he is doing all the right things and that you are ready and very anxious for him to be inside you.  It is a great way to let him know that he is doing the right thing and that he has you really hot.  If you whisper this in his ear it’s all the better and you will really see some hot action.

“You’re so hot” – Another great phrase to boost any man’s ego especially during sex.  We all want to know that we are turning you on and exciting you so whisper this or saying it out loud in bed is great.

here are plenty more great hot phrases that you can shout or whisper during sex

Until next time, can you say hot?

[ If you would like to learn more then don’t forget to check out
the great program I mentioned How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid ]

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Top 5 Christmas Sex Treats

If you really want to spice things up this Christmas then why not try out some of the amazing sex toys and couples toys that are available from plenty of online stores this Christmas.  For the purpose of this post I have created a list of the top 5 Christmas sex treats.  Christmas sex treats can be anything from tying each other up to playing sexy games or trying out the latest vibrator.  It is a matter of taste for each couple but this list is the top 5 selling sex treats so you can take you pick or pick all of them the choice is yours.

1. We-Vibe II New Model Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator

I have to admit this sex toy looks a little strange but it has been featured in so many magazines and my partner loves it so what does appearance matter?  According to the manufacturer not only does this little toy provide intense clitoral vibrations and pulsations but it also stimulates her G-spot at the same time too.  Can’t be bad right and I’m sure your partner will be only too happy to help you test it out.  Even better he can slip right in there with it thanks to its super smooth shape and believe me the vibrations that he feels are great too.  A definite must have this Christmas.

2. Phillips Candlelight’s and Warm Vibrating Intimate Massager Set

This is definitely a couple’s treat and it is the second highest selling item this year.  What you get is some electric candles and a great massager that can be used all over including your most intimate areas.  This is a great gift and perfect for both partners to enjoy.  The electric candles are wonderful too and the massager has a range of speed settings.

3. Love Honey Bada Bing Ring Extra Thick Cock Ring

This is a definite stocking filler and it’s very cheap too.  It has a sturdy ring unlike some of the cock rings that you see that break easily.  The vibrating piece on this is great too and it actually works.  My partner loves it says it is perfect for keeping her going when we are actually having sex because she gets to have much better orgasms.  I’m only reporting what she says so please don’t have a go at me on this one.

4. Mantric Sysil Edge Adjustable Vibrating Silicone Double Dildo

This little beauty is used for pegging which is something that more and more couples are trying out.  This is a couple’s toy and she inserts the shorter shaft which massages her G-spot.  He then enjoys the penetration of the longer shaft which in turn stimulates the male P-spot.  This sex toy also has a hinge in the middle so that you can adjust and angle it for any position you want.  This doesn’t have to be a two person toy either, it can be used like a regular vibrator where the female inserts the longer shaft and then stimulates her clitoris with the short shaft which also contains a vibrating bullet.  You can really do with it what you want; I’m not going to spoil your fun.

5. Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner’s Bondage Tape Double Pack

This is the perfect Christmas treat for the more kinky couple or those who want to see what all the fuss about bondage is.  This is a great kit and the best thing about the tape is that you won’t accidentally remove any of your partner’s hair because the tape only sticks to itself.  The tape can be reused too so if you like it you can keep doing it.

That’s the top 5 Christmas sex treats list hope you enjoyed them as much as I did and I’m off now to place my order in plenty of time for Christmas.

Until next time,

Buy your sex treats

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3 Christmas Lingerie Ideas To Excite Men

Want more holiday lovin’ from your man?

When it comes to buying lingerie women always complain about what men buy but what about when women buy lingerie to excite their men.  Do you think they get it right?

Christmas is a great time of year to spoil your partner and buy them a special treat and today I want to tell you about lingerie to excite men.  You already know that we are extremely visual creatures but touch is an important part too.  We like to see and feel the sexy lingerie and this is probably why we get it so wrong when we buy it for women. When women choose lingerie it always seems like they buy stuff that will cover bumps and bulges instead of focusing on the actual lingerie itself.

Any man will tell you the best  lingerie is the kind you can leave on during sex.

Anytime he has to fumble around to remove your outfit could backfire and make him a bit put off or frustrated. It’s best to select lingerie that can just be tugged aside and left on for him to enjoy looking at during sex. NICE!

[ Boost his arousal 10X higher by giving him a naughty, teasing striptease
while you're wearing the lingerie!  Learn How to Strip & Give a Lap Dance ]

The top 3 lingerie ideas to excite men are as follows:

Sexy Santa: Christmas is nearly hear and that means plenty of great red sexy lingerie.  Sexy Santa is so easy to do, red panties (crotchless or a thong), red stockings, and a little red baby doll and your all set.  Don’t forget the red high heels though especially if you are wearing stockings.  They make the outfit.

Bra and Panties: If you are more the bra and panties type of woman then be adventurous with this too.  Red lace, see thought or even nippleless will really excite your man.  There is nothing nicer than feeling that lace whilst still being able to suck on your nipples and if you team this sexy bra with some lacy panties to match then heck his Christmas will be perfect.

Corset with Matching Stockings and Suspenders: Corsets are great but they are hard to remove all those fastenings on the back can be a little frustrating.  If you are a corset lady then might I suggest getting one of the ones that don’t include a bra section.  That way you can have a separate bra which is easily removed and still keep the sexiness of the corset.  If you are buying a corset why not go the whole hog and get stockings and suspenders too these are really hot and your partner is really going to enjoy trying to open them with his teeth too.

If you want to excite your man using lingerie then the best advice that I can give you is to keep it simple and enjoy it.  If you feel sexy and hot in your lingerie then you are a success.  The more sexy you feel the better the result you will have.  We really can tell when you are not comfortable so start feeling sexy in your lingerie.

How to Work It:

Presenting yourself in front of him with your sexy new lingerie is great. However, IF you just stand in front of him you will begin to feel judged and somewhat self-conscious – “Does he like it? Did I make the wrong choice? Ah, I feel stupid. Why isn’t he saying/doing anything?” etc…

Solution: You need something to do. In short – You need to work it!

1. Be confident (or at least act confident)

2. Run you hands slowly over your body and lingerie. Enjoy both. No really – enjoy it and concentrate on how it feels.

3.  Show him all sides and angles. Front, side, back, cleavage.

4. Slowly bend over (facing him or turned away – depending on what ‘asset’ you’re most proud of) and touch your foot, shin or ankle and gently caress as you slowly rise up.

5. Look down at your body while you’re caressing yourself – enjoy it – and look up at him in the eyes. Enjoy him watching you.

6. Take control – do not let him touch or caress you until you say so. Slap his hand away – “Naughty boy! Wait your turn.”

NOTE: Moving while in front of him will dissipate the nervous you may be feeling.

Take this gift to the next level by adding music and giving him a hot and heavy striptease.

KEY: Wear it with confidence and tease tease tease.  Move about to showcase your assets and dissipate nervous energy and add a lap dance equals = a romantic gift he will never forget!

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3 Cheap Romantic Gift Ideas For Men

What does your man really want this holiday?

Our survey tells you exactly what he secrets asks Santa for.

It is getting close to Christmas and for many of you ladies out there that means buying that special someone in your life something extra special.  I am hoping that you haven’t already purchased your Christmas gift because over the next couple of weeks I plan on bringing you some great posts on romantic gift ideas for the man.

Part of the fun of this blog is the fact that I get to carry out lots of surveys and today it’s all about the romantic gifts men would actually like to receive.  The results may or may not surprise you.

By far the most popular voted top by 45.5% of the men surveyed was black lace lingerie.  This really is no surprise.  I know that you are probably thinking that red lingerie is more appropriate for this time of the year but black lacy lingerie wins according to our survey.  The feel of the lace, the fact that it’s see through and of course the fact that it comes in so many different varieties….

[ BUT, it's what you do with the lingerie that really counts. How about
giving a naughty holiday dance?  How to strip & give a lap dance ]

Just one thing though….let him run his hands over it before slowly peeling it from your body…it’s part of the fun and build up you know. You’ll have him eating out of your hands and up for doing anything you fancy.

In 2nd place with 27% of the votes was a kinky costume.  This is another of the great romantic gift ideas that you can use when getting your Christmas gift this year.  Now when thinking about kinky I can picture a whip, black leather/pvc, and a matching set of handcuffs too.  Add a blindfold to the mix and you will really get him going.  What man wouldn’t like to be tied up, blindfolded and gently whipped by a woman dressed in black leather?

There are of course plenty of other kinky costume ideas and a tiny little Santa piece will also do the trick just make sure you wear it after midnight on Christmas Eve or better yet wake up extra early put it on and wake him up for a real Christmas day surprise.

If you sit him down then pop out with dressed as a sexy Mrs. Claus, Naughty Nurse, Police Officer, School Girl, Cowgirl, etc… — I’ll tell you from my own experience – something of his will POP-UP.

3rd -  26% of men voted for a vibrator or vibe ring.  Ok, so this gift will probably give you a lot more physical enjoyment but if we can get in on the action then that is enough.  Just watching the pleasure that you get from that vibrating rabbit and seeing you squirm as you come over and over again will please any man.

If you opt for a vibe ring instead then make sure it is one that comes with long lasting batteries because once he wears it once and sees the effect it has you can guarantee it will be something he will want to use all the time.  If you haven’t tried one of these vibe rings then you are in for a surprise they work wonders and I can only say that they are like having a penis with built in vibrator.  That buzzing sensation really is great….

The last of the romantic gift ideas is to buy your man a sex toy and attach a note to it telling him he has to use it on you.  You can put whatever you like on this note but might I suggest something like – looking forward to seeing what you can do to me with this xxxxx

Oh yes this is going to have him so excited and he will probably sit there and examine it for a while thinking about all the things he is going to do with you before grabbing you and dragging you back up the stairs.  There is a huge range of choice for this one so take a good look before choosing.

Romantic gift ideas don’t have to be boring and with the result of this survey you can see exactly what us men would like to see under the Christmas tree.  Have you taken note of these?

What the heck why not buy them all and that way you can be sure of the best sex ever this Christmas season.

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The Number 1 Way To Boost Your Sex Life

When couples are together a while the first thing that seems to slip is the sex life and believe me I know.  Some couples have children and so a decrease in sex is probably something to be expected but sometimes sex just seems to take a back seat after a while regardless of whether or not children are involved.

In a survey a number of men were asked “What’s the 1 thing that would boost your sex life?”

Here are the results:

According to 30% of men having sex more frequently would work.
29% a very close second claimed that breaking the routine and having sec at different times and in different places would help.
20% of men wanted to try new positions.
19% wanted to have more oral sex.

All of these items would in fact improve your sex life but if I had to pick the number one way then I would definitely have to agree with the 30% of men who said having sex more frequently.

Do you remember back to when you first started seeing your partner?  Sex was a major thing.  You went to bed for sex.  You woke up in the middle of the night for sex.  You had sex in the morning.  You had sex….

Do you remember the different positions you tried out?  The ice cream antics, the neighbours banging on the wall, the laughter as you both fell out of bed in the throws of passion and of course the amazing sex.

If you can think back to that and then look at the way your sex life is now I’m sure you will notice some differences.  You see the things is that women seem to get comfortable, they find a sexual position that they enjoy and they just stick to it.  It’s as if sex becomes regimented and scheduled and to be quite honest with you this is not the way it should be.  Men don’t get comfortable not in the way women do. We don’t just pick a position we like and stick to it we love trying out new ones.  We love spontaneous sex, we love quickies, and if anything all we want is to keep sex as fun and exciting as it once was.

Is having sex more frequently a big deal?  I don’t think so.  Do we have to schedule it with you? We shouldn’t.

If you want to spice things up in your relationship then why not try doing some of these things.  When was the last time you tried a different position or had sex outside the bedroom? When was the last time you gave your partner a blowjob?  If you can’t answer these questions straight off then you need to do some serious work on your partner.  It’s time to break out the baby oil, send the kids to a family member and re-christen the rooms in your home all over again.

Sex is important and if you want to have great sex with your partner then first and foremost you need to have sex.  I will leave you with this – start remembering what it was like and start doing it again.

Until next time,

Have plenty of sex

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Do Men Enjoy Phone Sex? Hot Or Not?

If I were to ask you if you thought phone sex was hot what would you say?  To phone sex or not to phone sex that really is the question at hand here and ladies today I want to give you the answer according to men.

A number of men were surveyed and asked if they couldn’t be with their partner would they like phone sex with them.  Here is what the results were:

52% of men said no
48% of men said yes

Now I know that most of you ladies reading this blog are probably shocked by these results and you probably assumed that most men would love the idea of phone sex.  Well yes the idea is great but what you need to remember is that us men really are visual characters….we need to see things…why do you think they give us porn mags when it comes to giving a sperm sample?  We need to be able to see the images, the flesh, the sexy lingerie…the whole lot.  If we can’t see it then you really do need to explain it in detail.

If you are planning on having phone sex with your partner then here are a few pointers that should ensure that all goes well.

Always keep in mind that men are visual creatures.  You ladies may be able to visualise and fantasize easily but for us we do need that visual stimulation.  That is why we prefer to watch porn and you prefer that romance movie.

When you phone your partner for phone sex you need to be really descriptive.  There is no point in saying:

“Hi baby, I’m feeling very horny you want to play?” and then  proceed with something like

“I’m wearing a black bra and panties.”

This is no good.  What type of black bra is it?  What type of panties are you wearing?  Is it a thong?  Is it lace?  Is the bra a half cup or full cup?  Do you see what I am getting at here?  We need details.

A good idea might be to wear a piece of really sexy lingerie that you have already made use of with your partner.  Maybe you will be wearing that really sexy red two piece outfit that you wore the time you too had the chocolate body paint experience.  Make it something that he can resonate with and something that he knows.  That way when you phone him and say:

“Hi baby, I’m feeling very horny you want to play?” followed by “I’m wearing my little red number” he will know exactly what you are talking about and the images will automatically appear in his mind along with the memories of the great time he had last time you wore this outfit.

Throughout your phone sex conversation you need to keep this descriptive language up.  Don’t say something like I’m feeling very hot that just isn’t going to do it, you need to detail every little thing you are doing.

“I’m running my hands slowly over my breasts, circling my nipples, oh it feels so good and I am imagining that my hands are yours.”  You can follow this up with a few little moans before asking your partner what he would like to do to your body next and what he would like you to do to him.  As he gives you instructions on what he would like to do to you all you have to do is follow through giving his a full and very detailed running commentary.  Remember he can’t see what you are doing but he will know by your description and the tone of your voice how well it is going and this is what is going to excite him.

If you want to make phone sex a success and please both yourself and your partner at the same time then you need to get to grips with describing how you please your body and be able to verbalise this.  The I am feeling my breast and my stomach just won’t cut it nor will I am now entering my private parts.  Come on ladies you need to tell us exactly what you are doing if you want to turn us on.  If not you have just wasted your phone call.

Time to get descriptive and learn to give your man the images he wants when he can’t see what you are doing.  Remember ladies practice makes perfect and we all know practice is fun right?

Until next time,

Start Phoning

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3 Things Men Like to Watch

Sometimes the best way to get a mans attention is to shock his senses…Give him a jolt to his “sexual nervous system.”

How do you give him a jolt?

When guys were asked “What’s the sexiest thing you love to watch a woman do?”

…they didn’t answer “doing taxes” or “changing a flat tire” even though they are very helpful activities.

What did men say was the sexiest sight to their eyes?

#1  Over half of men said “A woman touching herself in front of him”

Touching yourself = self pleasure, ie. masturbation.

It’s simple…He wants to see you enjoying your body and sex. He wants to know you enjoy pleasuring yourself as much as he does. He wants to see you enjoying yourself and your body – they way he enjoys your body. PLUS…it’s just a bit of naughty fun, isn’t it?

I’d recommend to start by touching yourself over your panties then slowly graduating to masturbation with your fingers and then possibly to a toy. Don’t neglect the other sensual parts of your body.

Challenge yourself. Can you bring yourself to climax in front of him? You’ll score big points if you do.

For some women touching themselves in front of him seems a bit too … exposed. Get over it! The first minute may feel a bit awkward but time cures all.

Tip: When you are  pleasuring yourself, close your eyes for a few moments and focus on how good it feels. The “weirdness” feeling will pass and after a minute are two you’ll begin to enjoy yourself…in front of him!

#2 Making eye contact as she touches his penis

Without eye contact you might as well be making love to a mannequin.

The only thing men like more than having their penis touched … is having a beautiful woman look into his eyes when she does it! Honestly, it makes your heart beat fast and quickens the breath.

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone who is looking away or avoiding your eyes? Weird, isn’t it?

Your eyes are your connection to him and him to you. Looking into someone’s eyes is very powerful but 10X more powerful during moments of intimacy and sincerity.

#3 Doing a sensual, slow striptease for him

Remember the jolt to the system I was talking about?

Imagine how visually stimulated your man will get when you combine :

- a sensual striptease

- with touching yourself

- and eye contact?

( Checkout to “Lap Dance Unleashed” to learn how to strip tease for your man with total confidence )

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A Man’s Favourite Sexual Surprise Ambush Revealed

Have you ever really wanted to turn your partner on by surprising him but then didn’t because you weren’t sure exactly what to do? If so then I urge you to keep reading as I reveal the top four ways that you can ambush your partner with a sexual surprise.

This post includes statistics so you don’t just have my word for it you have the word of all the men that were surveyed too.

So not to keep you waiting here is the number one way that you can turn us on and surprise us with your sexual treats.

#1 Voted top by 43% of men was first thing in the morning in bed. Yes this gets top votes and is my favourite too. There is nothing nicer than being woken up in bed by a really rock solid hardon that has been caused by my partner massaging me out of my sleep. Talk about waking up ready for action this is definitely a sure winner. Ladies if you are looking for the best way to surprise me then this is definitely it and if you want to take it a step further and really wake me up with a smile how about using your precious lips to wake me up and yes I do mean down there.

If you’re not a morning person then maybe number 2 will be for you….but I do strongly urge you to give number one a go you won’t regret it.

#2 Number 2 on the list is in the shower. This got 25% of the votes and yes this is a wonderful surprise too. If your partner is in the shower why not sneak up on him whip your clothes off and jump into the shower and surprise him with some wet slippery action. Yes nothing better than getting all soapy together.

#3 was very close and this one got 23% of the votes and it is at the door when he gets home. Yes as soon as he comes through that door just tell him what you have planned. Maybe even start taking his clothes off for him as he comes in the door or better still greet him naked or wearing some sexy lingerie. If he’s had a bad day he will love you for this.

#4 Last but not least on this list with 11% of the votes was in the car. I have to say this is a real turn on. You can just stretch your hand across and rub his groin whilst he is driving and this is sure to get him going. One word of advice though, be sure to stop the car before you start doing anything else and be careful where you park too you don’t want to get caught like the Hugh Grant now do you. Being groped in the car really is a big turn on for most men but unfortunately with the law the way it is we don’t always get what we want. But it still gets the votes so don’t rule it out.

So ladies there you have it some great ways to plan a sexual surprise ambush for your man. There are four ways listed here so you have four ways to have a lot of fun and really treat your man and let’s face it we deserve it because we are always treating you. Isn’t it time you gave some back.

Until next time,

Start ambushing

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What Men Want in a Mate?

Sex survey says…

I was shocked by men’s response to this sex survey question…

Questi0n: “What is the quality most important to you in a sexual partner?”

The majority of men responded that their sexual partner “really love sex.”  That’s it!

Shocking! I could have swore that we men were much more self-centered than that response indicates. What a minute, wow, there’s hope for us, after all!

Proof men aren’t all sexually selfish – Less than 15% of respondents answered  ”That I’m sexually satisfied every time” ie. “As long as I’m satisfied – you’re OK with me.” The survey did however indicate younger men are a bit more ‘selfish’ in bed. A possible reason why some women prefer older men.

As a man – and lover of sex – I shouldn’t be all that surprised that men want a sexual partner who is as passionate and enthusiastic about sex as he is. After all, nothing is any fun if the other person involved isn’t really into it; Not a dance, game, conversion… or sex, is it?

Men love sex – they want a mate they’re compatible with – who loves sex as much as they do.

So if you want to be his ultimate mate & assure yourself a satisfied man you need to display one quality above all else – love sex.

Ask yourself:

1. Do you truly love sex or are you just along for the ride?
2. Do you enjoy sex less than you used to? IF yes, is it you or your lover you enjoy less? What do you need to do to become more enthusiastic about sex?
3. If you already love sex – What can you do to enjoy it or get ‘into it’ even more?

Get Selfish

For the next 30 days get a bit selfish – try things in the bedroom that YOU want – toys, games, new positions, fantasies, rough/tender, kink/cuddling etc…

Turn HIM into your own personal little love toy (some call it a sex slave) and tell him what you want and how he should do it. (Most men will love this new you).

Head Game

By ‘Head Game’ I mean that appreciating and loving sex more may have nothing to do with the physical – it’s possible that the trick for you is mental.

Is it a…

• a low physical self image
• low self-esteem
• depression
• lack of confidence in your skills
• boredom
• low attraction to your partner
• stress
• etc…

Revisit #1-3 above and unearth the mental hurdle to free yourself – and love sex again.

The sex survey says – that you’re man will be happy when you’re as happy and sexually free. Strive for that and you and your man mate can take your love life to new levels of passion – together.

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2 Tips To Start His Engine

Want a nearly fail-safe way to start your man’s engine tonight?

Combine the 2 tips below and you’re nearly guaranteed to get his engine started — and get what you want.

Male Engine Starter #1

Just over 35% of men surveyed replied that the key to getting them turned on and starting their engine was — A really long, passionate, steamy kiss.

This would be especially true for people in longer relationships. If you have been in a long relationship think about it. When was the last time you kissed your lover for more then a quick peck?

Next time you want some action surprise your man (make sure your breath is fresh) by grabbing him around his neck or the back of his head or giving him a long, deep passionate french kiss.

HINT: Put your kiss on steroids by gently sucking his lower lip while your run your fingers through his hair. There are millions of sensitive nerve endings in the scalp so it will make him feel very ‘tingly.’

Male Engine Starter #2

Just under 35% of men surveyed replied with an answer that made sense to any male brain – just go straight for his cash and prizes and “Grab his crotch.”

No muss no fuss. No mis-communication, no second guessing, no messing about – be gentle but clear in what you want.

Combine the KISS with the CROTCH and you have a near guaranteed way to get him turned on.

Popularity: 2%

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