“Men never approach me”

“Men never approach me!” she insisted.

“It’s your fault!” I replied.

Hear me out.

A friend of mine is a tall, exotic beauty who is unhappy she’s single and isn’t meeting any men.

“Hey! What am I?” I protested? “Taken!” she said. And she’s right but that takes me to my first point.

First, I pointed out that she does meet men just not the kind she considers relationship material.

Being clear is so important in getting what you want and attracting a man.

Second, most men are intimidated by beautiful women and want to approach but choke up.

Third, men often assume that beautiful women are in a relationship already so the attitude can sometimes be “why bother.”

Fourth, if you look high maintenance some men will consider you a lot of effort, upkeep and work.

Are you ‘high maintenance?’ Ask around but not your back patting friends, OK?

Here’s my advice to her:

1. Create the opening

Getting men to approach you is mostly about creating an opening or giving them a good excuse for them to approach and start conversation.

This allows you yo be a women and him the man – but really it was all you, girl!

2. Learn to approach

She needs take responsibility fo her single status and learn to approach men she suspects are relationship material.

Ten years ago a beautiful women approached me to ask how long until the ferry boat to the island arrived. That simple question turned into a night of passion and a fantastic 3 year relationship. And we continue to be friends to this day.

Sometimes, ladies, you have to approach them.

3. The biggest secret

Smile!

I’m not talking about going around grinning like someone who was raised on a daily diet of paint chips.

Throw generous and genuine smiles at targeted men. If he doesn’t take the bait he’s either gay, taken or a complete pussy.

Nothing ventured nothing gained. Smile – cast out your man bait and see what you can reel in.

Truthfully,
The Alpha Male

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How To Reject Your Man

…Without hurting his feelings

It’s 7:30 in the morning, my friend Chris tells me, and was feeling frisky so he starts to give his girlfriend, Kim,  a gentle back-rub. He tells me, his back-rub is gold for getting her in the mood.

Not a bad to wake up though, is it?

After a minute she snaps “Chris! Give it a rest, OK? God! That’s it. I can’t stay over weekdays anymore.”

[Whimper. Tail between legs]

Male Translation - “Nice try buddy! Sex with you isn’t as good as what I’m doing now OR nowhere close to being good enough to justify the effort. Beat it!”

OK, maybe she’s not a morning person and she may have been legitimately tired. (I’ll be the first to admit I’m not exactly a ray of sunshine in the A.M.)

What’s funny is this women will be emailing me next month saying…“He never wants sex, what do I do?”

Now, as dumb as we men are we DO learn some things pretty quickly – especially when we get hurt. (Hard to believe but we have feelings too)

Rejection is just one of the reasons men can lose interest in sex with their mate.

It’s OK to reject his sexual advances. My suggestion? Reframe your rejection as a delay or postponement not a big red ‘stop sign.’

Kim could have said. “Honey, that feels so good! Why don’t you give me X more minutes and I’ll be ready to go, OK?” or “I love it. Why don’t we snuggle for 10 more minutes first?”
(I’ve got a dozen of these handy little phrases)

You’ve acknowledged him and his effort, encouraged him, said ‘yes’ but with a fair and easily attainable condition and time.

Result – he won’t feel like you slapped his male ego in the face and threw a drink on his passion.

What happened to Kim and Chris? Well…they broke up 1 week later.

NO! Not because of that 1 incident. Men aren’t THAT sensitive. They had only been going out for 3 months and that was just the straws that broke the male camels back. BUT it certainly was one of the factors.

Reframe your ‘rejection’ and he won’t feel … rejected.

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He Never Wants Sex!

QUESTION:  What if you’re completely comfortable with your body like few of us women are, BUT  your boyfriend never seems to want sex?

How long should you wait before you jump him? In two months he’s never even tried sliding his hand under my top. He always says stuff like he’s too tired or just drinks so much he passes out. – Carmy

ANSWER:

Carmy, let me get this straight – you’ve only been together for 2 months, you love your body and want to have lots of sex BUT he’s not interested, is that right?

Aaahhh…why are you with this guy?!

No sex?! Might as well spend your time with your good girlfriends or a gay man.

Don’t invest too much time in this guy, OK? Seems to me like your boyfriend is either depressed, stressed or straight-up has a drinking problem.

It’s hard not to take things like this personally – but sometimes it’s not about you. He could have deeper personal issues that you can’t help him with.

One suggestion is to take the lead. Get passionately inspired about your life, work, play, relationships. If he doesn’t follow your lead you may find he doesn’t fit into your life. PLUS the above idea is just a great way to live, isn’t it?

Who knows, your new improved life may help you find that new improved man…who loves passionate sex with you.

My alpha male advice…Get real, get inspired or get rid of him!

Don’t ‘jump him’ – dump him!

And that’s the Alpha Male answer.

[ If a better blow job doesn't get him inspired - nothing will! Check his pulse! How to give a better blow job ]

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Alpha Male: Do Men Notice Wrinkles, Bumps & Bulges?

QUESTION:  “Do men even notice these wrinkles, bumps and bulges?” How can an aging woman still come across sexy with a less than perfect body? *sigh*

ANSWER: Ask yourself  ”Do you notice HIS wrinkles, bumps and bulges?”

Oh, you do? Congrats! All systems go…you have eyes and a sense of touch.

Next.

I’ll tell you right now, the ONLY time this will be an issue with 100% of men is when it gets in the way of  having frequent, hot sex.

The more of a big deal your lumps and bumps are to you – there more they will be to him. Period. So make a choice about what you’ll do right now and stick to it.

Do you find yourself attractive? NO? We men don’t want to hear about it. Really! We just want good old fashioned sex. Just do something about it…anything that makes YOU FEEL more attractive….and leave us out of it.

IF your lumps and bumps make YOU feel less attractive you either accept them as part of who you are and stop making excuses and feeling bad about it right now. OR do something about it. Sexy is all in the mind.

Today, we are bombarded by the media with sexy, female images – Combine this with today’s easy access to porn. Admittedly, the bar  has been set very high for women. No wonder female body image is much more of an issue for women. (Men have more of an issue around money)

When men were surveyed about what they appreciate about their lovers body – the respondents happiest in their relationship replied “She takes care of herself.” What these men are really saying is – they really appreciate and find attractive a woman who puts in effort to be more slender, fit and put together than other women in their age group.

That’s the Alpha Male’s answer.

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How do men feel about an aging woman’s body?

No Holds Barred, No B.S., Straight Answers from an Alpha Male

QUESTION: How do men feel about an aging woman’s body? Cellulite (even though i work out regularly), a “taken care of body” but not a taute 20 year olds’ and other similar concerns.

ALPHA MALE ANSWER: Men feel the same way about an aging woman’s body as women feel about an aging man’s body. That’s fair, isn’t it?

In general, is a 20 year-old woman’s body more attractive than a 45 year old woman’s? Most men will say ‘Yes.’

Can a woman in her 40′s and beyond have the body of a woman in her 20′s? Not without a little disciple and some effort.

Can a 20 year-0ld woman rival a 45 year-old women in sexual experience and know-how? Probably not.

Can a 20 year-0ld woman rival a 45 year-old women intelligence? Well, a 20 year-old thinks she can but I’m going to go with …NO.

Do most 45 year-old women know what they are attracted to and what they want? Usually – Yes.

In my experience, older women can be extremely sexy.

Why? They know what they want, they don’t play games, are straight-forward about what they want in and out of the bedroom.

Sexually, older woman really have advantages over younger women – they are way better in bed because they are more adventurous, more giving, and because older women generally know how to have orgasms men find being with them more sexually gratifying. TRUST ME!

I’ll tell you right now, the only time YOUR BODY is an issue with men 100% of the time is when it gets in the way of  having frequent, hot sex! Got it?

You wrote that you ‘work-out regularly’ which means you’re putting in effort to look the best you can. That’s what matters to your man.

The big turn-off for both men AND women is when one of the lovers in a relationship gets complacent and ‘lets themself go’ – then complains about it OR lets it effect their sex life.

Men are most concerned with the same thing you are … putting in effort to look the best you can.

As for the cellulite.

Remember the

Honestly,
The Alpha Male

PS I’d love your comments.

PPS —  Part II – Next Week. The Alpha Male answers “Does he notice my lumps and bumps?” and what you need to know…

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