Let’s face it.  Men are not geared for the typical 30,000 words that women speak in a day.  For the most part, they fall back into rote responses like “uh huh” and “if you want” without listening to the discussion out of sheer survival.  Women often feel that asking questions is a good way to learn information from men; however, most men feel integrated and fall back into the need to lie about their thoughts.

While it is not secret that men and women do not communicate in the same way, there are some relationship-killer questions that every man hates.

Some of the most dreaded questions on the planet include:

• How many women have you had sex with?  This is the ultimate trick question for most men.  While their male ego will not admit a low number, there sense of survival will not let them tell you the truth.  For some women, 5 partners can seem like a lot.  For others, 5 partners will seem inexperienced.  At best, this is the catch22 question that sends off warning signals of escape in the male brain.
• Do you fantasize about sex with any of my girlfriends / sisters / female family members (or anyone you know)?  This is the “lie to me” question.  Most men are smart enough never to tell the truth when asked this question.  And really, you don’t want to know if he has sexy thoughts about your best girlfriend in a horizontal position.  What is most important is that he is into you enough not to act on those thoughts.
• Where do you see this relationship going?  This question is so open-ended that there does not seem to be a right answer.  With unlimited answers from the short-term of attending a movie and dinner with some friends to a romantic getaway to a hotspot of choice for some rest & relaxation, the literal male mind goes haywire with the possibilities of providing a wrong answer.
• When are we going to move in together / get engaged / get married?  Ahhh….the deadline question!  Whenever a woman asks this question, the pressure is on for a man to set a date in stone and move forward in the relationship.  More than that, it is like reaching into the air to set a date on something he has not considered.  The pressure and stress alone cause him to have to make up an answer to make you happy.
• Do you think about other women while you are having sex with me?  OK.  Many women are tempted to ask this question.  Some women even jump across the boundaries to common sense to slip these words of disaster into a conversation.  Realistically, every woman wants to hear a man say “No!”  And men, knowing that is the right answer, say “No!”  In truth, if you want the truth, everyone fantasizes about someone else occasionally during sex.  That is why these thoughts are called fantasizes instead of late night movies.
• Bonus:  Anything to do with masturbation!   Realizing this is not a question, it is here anyway because men consider this a highly sensitive topic.  Most men would rather discuss any of the above questions than whether their extra time in shower is really less about getting clean and more about getting dirty.  Proceed with extreme caution.

With a strong understanding of the pitfalls of inquiry for a relationship, know where to wait for an invitation to share information and where to stomp all over shaky ground can be a true asset as well as a sign of maturity.  Plus, knowing that these are not questions you would want to answer yourself goes a long way toward applying the golden rule of don’t ask, don’t tell!

If you have any suggestions for other questions men hate, then please share!

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