Romantic Mood Killers For Men
February 23, 2010 by A_man
Don’t want to be the one to kill the romantic mood?
Most women know how to get a man going but do you know that there are some little things that you do that can be a real romantic mood killer. It doesn’t matter whether you are just dating or in a serious relationship if you do these things you are essentially turning him off.
When asked about romantic mood killers the top answer from most men was:
1. When she wants to have a “talk”
Yep, that’s it. We’re all ready for a nice romantic evening. We have it all planned out in our minds. The nice dinner (just to help put you in the mood), the bubble bath, the sexy lingerie, the new handcuffs, yes it’s all planned out and we can’t wait and then you says those four little words: “Can we talk?” and our fragile male world crumbles.
The romantic mood – gone, the anticipation of a night of pure indulgent sex – gone. Why do you have to do it? Do you even realize that you are?
When you say “let’s talk”, it’s as if you have just dropped a brick right into our crotch. Yes it’s painful.
Come on we’re planning to have a nice romantic evening why do you have to spoil it by wanting to TALK. When women say TALK it’s never about something trivial and nice and nine times out of ten it’s the serious talk when you want to know about getting married or having children. We really don’t want to talk about those things on a romantic night. When we do you will be the first to know believe me.
SECRET : Here’s the truth about men – we don’t want to THINK about love or how we feel OR use our memory to recall how you or we were feeling at a certain place at a specific moment. Gaaaaa!
Men communicate through physical actions. Being intimate with a woman is the secret to how men tap into their deepest emotions – allowing themselves to really feel – and really CONNECT with YOU! Sad but true. Sorry ladies. But that’s the way it is.
If you want to ‘have the talk’ I suggest you keep it light and talk about what you plan on doing to him later on and what he can do back to you. I guarantee you won’t spoil the mood and you will have the best romantic night ever.
2. Running to the bathroom to ‘clean up’
When you rush away to clean up any stickiness or sweat – you’re sending the message “Yuk, boy germs!” which sends him straight back to grade school.
After lovin’ – don’t panic , it won’t leave a stain just give it a few minutes and enjoy being next to him. Heck – snuggle next to him and let him enjoy his own sticky mess! With luck he’ll ask you to go clean up – LOL!
Until next time,
Less talk – more inter-action
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Ouch! I”ve been known to commit all of these fopas. I need to memorize this list and then take an exam to make sure I have learned it completely. Thanks A_man.
Dear A_man,
While I was out shoveling snow, thoughts of conspiracy started running through my mind. I began to wonder if A_man is really the “ambassador of get some for men”. I started worrying that women all over the world might begin to believe that every man, or some smuck looking for a one night stand wants to have sex with her so he could “connect”, or be with her to express some deeper emotion. I know that is not the intent of the article. It’s still very helpful; especially in a committed relationship.
Where are these men?
Somehow I find the men that aren’t as into sex as I am. And romance???? Apparently the idea of a romantic evening is TOTALLY different to my husband that sweet, sexy, dinner, blah, blah, blah….if all of this is SO true…….what am I doing wrong when I’m not trying to talk, and I LOVE cum…so I don’t mind being covered in it!
Its just the opposite for us! My boyfriend jumps up to go clean up. I would love to snuggle or just lay there and relax for five minutes or so
I hate men!
I’m with Linsey, what do you say about men who do that?
If you have a partner that does not like the sticky mess tell them to just lay there and wait for just a minute.Then return with a very warm wet cloth and lay it across their genitals for a minute.Then proceed to clean up the rest of the mess.If it is you that doesn’t like the mess tell your partner that you heard how good it feels and you would like them to try it on you..or..do it for your partner and while you are warming up the cloth give yourself a quick wipe down.
As a woman I can tell you that it feels amazing,particularly after a round of good old fashioned raunchy sex.
I am sure that men aren’t in as much need of the warm soothing qualites it offers but I have been told that it does feel really good for them too
Well, I have a question then. Since a relationship is about ( or should be about) fulfilling the needs of TWO people, not just the man; and sometimes women truly need to talk about stuff: when is a good time to talk? Talks have to take place because keeping emotions & worries under wraps is a recipe for disaster. Or do men expect us to just stuff it and do our best to fulfill them sexually while we are not being fulfilled emotionally? Face it, most women can’t enjoy sex if they feel their emotional needs are being ignored. We feel used. So, again, how IS one supposed to get her man to talk without spooking him?
Thank you for this topic, i am going on an outing tomorrow and talk was on my list of to dos……. your ideas are always welcome
carrie ann he’s just saying don’t bring up talks on your date nights. i don’t think he means all talking is off limits.
I agree.. there are times when it should be left alone and times when talking is needed. But on a night of romance, the last thing you want to do is talk about marriage or children or anything like that. It’s about being there with each other and experiencing that. If you’re already married, then those nights are about keeping that fire burning, keeping the passion there. You don’t want to ruin a passionate moment by saying “let’s have a baby”. While children are a blessing on this earth, some things are not meant for those nights. But they are definitely important and perhaps setting aside a time to have that kind of discussion is the way to go.
Well put.
How can you get a man to be more spontaneous?
My boyfriend and I are going to his dad’s house this weekend in the bay area. I recommended that we stay at his dad’s Friday night then maybe drive to San Francisco and get a nice hotel for some “time alone” for dinner, bubble baths, and lingerie. He says that the weekend would be to expensive and he doesn’t want to spend the money (even though I said I’d pay for the hotel) when we can just stay with his dad…How can I convince him or how can we have a romantic weekend at his dad’s?
I have been told over and over again that men can have connection free, guilt free, emotional free sex.
I don’t believe for a second that they have sex to “connect” or “show their emotions”.
I know they don’t want to talk about their feelings, but it doesn’t seem fair that we are tip toeing around their feelings and desires.
How am I suppose to know what direction he would like the relationship to go in?
Tip Toe,
what direction do you want it to go and have you made it clear to him? Now ask yourself and him is it going in that direction? Pretty simple.
You’re not a mind reader.