How to Make Everything Better

Want to give him a better lap dance? Be a better, more passionate lover? Even make relationships with everyone around you better?

There is a simple but powerful habit you need to practice.

The importance of this habit hit me when I was watching a musical theater performance last night. Watching one of the female performers do a hot, sensual, teasing number I thought to myself…

“She’s good; very sensual BUT there was something special missing that would make it outstanding.”

That something was ‘connection’ with the audience.

Sure, she was beautiful, knew her lines and dance routine but she was stuck in her head – thinking, judging, analyzing…

“Do I look stupid? I feel stupid! I wonder if they think I’m good. What’s my next line? I feel fat! etc.”

She never fully let go, enjoyed herself or saw the audience reactions to her. She was just going through the motions. Empty.

When your attention is focused on yourself and away from the person you’re trying to communicate with you might as well be talking to yourself because there is no connection.

We’ve all had the experience of trying to stay interested and polite while listening to someone but your mind is wandering, right? You’re disconnected! And most humans can sense it in others.

To avoid the impersonal, disconnected way we usually operate in the hustle and bustle of daily living practice going into a situation with a simple and clear objective.

1) I want to ________ my boyfriend/husband.

For example “I want to AROUSE my husband” or “I want to TEASE my boyfriend”

2) While you’re doing whatever it is your doing – talking, dancing, stimulating, stripping – continue to look at him and check in with your objective. Are you achieving it? Are they responding? Do you need to change tactics to achieve your objective?

The information you’re looking for to fulfill your objective lies with him NOT in your head. So this simple but powerful practice forces you to put you focus on the other person – to connect – and get out of your judging, analyzing, critical mind.

So – set an objective, focus your attention on the other person and connect, check-in “is this landing with them?”

Developing this habit will not only help in your love life but in all interpersonal relationships, parenting and in business.

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