4 Surefire Ways To Turn-Off Your Man In Bed
January 26, 2010 by A_man
I love surveys. They allow me to give you all the information you need about making sure your relationship and sex life is going the way you want without me coming across as a know it all. With surveys you get real information from real men and not just my point of view. The survey results that I want to present you with today are from men who were asked what turned them off in bed. The results are exactly what I expected but what do you think?
First, 41% of men said that when a woman is totally silent this is a real turn off. If you are one of these women then I have something that will help you out. It’s called “How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid”. This program will turn you from mute into sex goddess and believe me if you can talk dirty to your man he will do whatever you ask. There is nothing nicer than a woman who knows how to talk dirty during sex it is a real turn on.
In second place with 24% of the votes it was women who are self conscious about their bodies. I’m actually surprised that this didn’t score higher. There is nothing more off putting than being with a woman who is more worried about you seeing what she calls her fat bum or fat tummy than she is about enjoying sex. These are women who refuse to have the lights on during sex in case you might see them and to be honest it really can be such a turn off. Men enjoy being able to see you during sex and if you are with a women who won’t be on top because she thinks she has a fat stomach it is going to get boring very quickly.
In third place with 20% of the votes it’s what we call cold fish. These are women who don’t move at all and they just lie there and let the man do all the work. How boring this type of sex is and to be honest these types of relationships don’t last very long. It’s like having sex with a blow up doll, no movement, no help you have to find the hole and do all the work. What is the point of this I ask you?
In last place with 15% of the votes it’s women who criticize their partners sexual skills. You might not know what I mean here so I’ll give you a couple of examples:
Don’t put your hand there
What are you trying to do?
That took a long time didn’t it?
Do you need some help?
Is that it?
I’m sure you get the idea on this one
If you are prone to doing any of these things then I strongly suggest that you try to stop and become aware when you are doing them. If you want to keep you man turned on and responsive then the last thing you want to do is turn him off isn’t it?
Until next time,
Turn him on
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What really turns me off is when just after orgasm, she gets a towel to clean up right after. I never considered sex fluids as dirty, but it really diminishes the experience.
Yes! As a real woman who happens to celebrate her sexuality I am so encouraged to read these results…
Ladies, lovemaking is one of our most wonderful opportunities to be vocal animated,sensual,creative,inventive,inspirational,experimental,
uninhibited, and naughty… and ultimately appreciated beyond belief!
Oh, and by the way… real men make love to real women not to a “body type”! We are all Sexy Divas! ;~)
Amen to that!
CS, you are absolutely bang-on! Couldn’t have said it better myself!
Thanks
brilliant article and so true…i really feel sorry for women who are lacking in the confidence to talk dirty or even let their partners see them during sex….i think its about time for women to start embracing what they have been given and relish in the fact they are having sex with someone who they care for instead of focusing on the negatives…for me theres nothing more of a turn on than talking dirty to my man and his eyes on my body as we have sex…very empowering…
I totally agree with CS…unfortunately JK, I am the chick that dosent want the sticky love juice on me, lol. But my guy is sensitive to that and he gets the warm towel and gets it off me, I don’t and never had to say a word. And I really appreciate that!
I’m with a guy who wants me to be silent, not move, & sometimes covers himself up (ghost-style) with a blanket during sex, what’s w/ that?!
Seriously, having a baby didn’t do my body any good at all! But my hubby thinks that me being a MILF is the sexiest thing ever. To be a full time mom and still have a enough energy for an AMAZING love life…..nothing better =)
I agree with your husband – MILF’s are very hot!
Thats fine to say a man gets turned off when you want to hide your body but when you are listening to comments all the time from men about women and their shapes it makes you feel that way and your husband is one of those men and then when you get into bed and he tells you how great you look all you hear is those comments in your head and then you try and hide those bits of your body that you are conscious of because you think he is seeing those things that he gives out about all day and assume it it me he is talking about.
Keywords I’d like to highlight from your comment:
- in your head
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- assume
Good news! It seems to me that since these thoughts are in your head that it’s totally in your control to transform your sex life whenever you want, don’t you?
All that’s required of you is to choose a better sex life by choosing to change your thoughts.
Congrats, you are more powerful than you thought and an instant away from better sex.
I suppose you are right and I will try not to be so conscious of myself. Thanks
Instead of getting all worked up not being “perfect” I point out my hot qualities like my ass,hips, ext. to the guy and have them focus on that and add a little sexy remark about it! It makes u feel confident and even more daring!
What if you’re completely comfortable with your body like few of us women are, but your boyfriend just never seems to want sex.
How long should you wait before you jump him, in two months he’s never even tried sliding his hand under my top.
He always says stuff like he’s to tired or just drinks so much he passes out.
Carmy,
Seems to me like he’s either depressed, stressed or has a drinking problem.
It’s hard not to take things personally – but sometimes it’s not about you. Could be deeper personal issues here (as with anything in life).
Take the lead. Get passionately inspired about your life, work, play, relationships. If he doesn’t follow your lead you may find he doesn’t fit into your life. PLUS the above is just a great way to live, isn’t it?
Who knows, your new improved life may help you find that new improved man!!