Q: I am not that sexually experienced. I want to be damn good in bed so I’ve read all these articles on the net and but i haven’t tried them because I’m not confident, at all. I masturbate all the time and it feels so damn good that I cum all over the place. But, when I’m with my man in bed I just lay there because my mind isn’t into it. I know I’m a big freak deep down and i want it to come out, but how??
A: By ‘let your freak out’ I assume you mean how to let go in bed.
In your case, Tammy, I’d put you on a masturbation free diet for 2-weeks. No masturbating. None. Are you freaking out?
You’re highly sexual and orgasmic, which is good. But, as you said, most of your sexual experience is by yourself – a classic case of “Nobody knows how to make love to me like myself.”
After the 7-days you CAN have sex with your man…but still NO masturbating.
You’re going to experience some extremely pent up energy. Instead of releasing it by masturbating like you typically do, unleash your pent up sexual energy and passion on your man. (Lucky guy. He’s not going to know what hit him)
Being a professional masturbater you probably very experienced climax (like most women) by direct clitoral stimulation. So I want you to get on top and ride your man by straddling him. Instead of moving your hips up and down you’re going to sit down and focus on directly stimulating your clitoris by rubbing it against his pubic bone (I recommend using some lubrication to avoid rug burn) by moving your hips back and forth (tilt your hips toward his toes then up towards his chest).
Notice the difference in bed with him after your masturbation fast. Also notice the difference in week 2 as you stay masturbation free but are having sex. You’re inner freak will begin to start showing herself.
Initially, close your eyes and use the same visualization you practice when you masturbate to help you achieve orgasm. Once you get the hang of it and want to take the intensity of your orgasms to the next level, open your eyes and connect with your man. The orgasms you experience while you’re present and connected with him will blow any have alone out of the water.
Going on a masturbation diet, refocusing your pent up sexual energy on your man and using the technique I laid out will help you learn how to let go in bed and free your inner freak. I promise.
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