How To Keep A Man Interested

On February 22, 2011, in Attract a Man, by Jay Archer

One of the most frequent concerns I hear from women aside from how to attract a man is how to keep a man interested.

Most women I talk to want to discuss all the different possibilities, nuances and different kinds of guys. But as I say over and over – men are simple creatures with simple wants and desires.

Over think men at your own risk.

The correct answer is usually the simplest.

The simplest and most important way to keep a man interested is to have sex 4+ times per week. That’s all you have to do to satisfy most men. Some men on the my survey indicated that they desired sex 7+ times per week. That’s setting the bar kind of high in my opinion.

Far more important than variety, experimentation, skill or kinkiness is the frequency you have sex.

Sure, when you’re having sex nearly everyday you will probably want to experiment with different positions to keep things from getting boring but your man’s most concerned with the quantity than quality.

I often say…

“Tell me how often you have sex and I’ll tell you how good your relationship is.”

Frequent, consistent sex keeps him sexually fulfilled and less prone to stray because he is being ‘fed’ at home.

So, how often are you having sex?

[ Editor Jay Archer : Share your tips and secrets on how to keep a man interested by commenting below ]

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29 Responses to How To Keep A Man Interested

  1. Anonymous says:

    Well it’s sad because I am the one wanting sex 4-6 times a week and only getting it twice a month. If I’m lucky. I could understand if I was unattractive, over weight, our had something sexually wrong with me. But I dont. I take very good care of myself (I’m a nurse) and Im at the gym faithfully.
    Everything else in my relationship is good. Minus the sex.
    Sexually frustrated.

  2. Lexigirl says:

    I am 51, he is 54. We have sex at least 5 out of seven days. He jokes and says I have the sexual prose of a 20 year old woman! We have been together for 16 years. We have NEVER had a boring sex life! Neither one of us has ever had a ‘headach’, never!

  3. Jamie says:

    With my man Ive found that simply allowing him to please me (no reciprication necessary) is totally satisfying to him. He loves to please me. Yes a minimum of 4x a wk is great. However for my man simply giving a quick bj will make him happy even if not to completion. Giving him any sort of sexual attention makes him happy. Even if its allowing him to hump on my ass while i drift off to sleep. The best though is a special bj wakeup.

  4. lisa says:

    The thing is, the more sex you get, the more you want…so it’s easy for 4x a week to turn into more. But frequent sex can get pretty rote if you don’t mix things up a bit. My guy really likes it when I initiate, so I make a point of it at least a couple of times a week. I also make sure there’s plenty of variety with different times of the day, positions, places, oral, handjobs, etc. Not only does he stay interested, I do, too.

    I’m not so worried about him straying–he’s not that sort of guy–but the way I see it, assuring his sexual satisfaction assures mine, as well.

  5. Gloria golnick says:

    I am a 48 year old single woman and I have gone out with men. My problem is that I would rather be in a relationship. But I am finding the pond empty. Any sugestions on how to attrach that kind of man.

  6. huzailko says:

    Sexual satisfaction is not the only thing that matters in a relationship, but it is very important. I like sex and so does my man, but because we don’t see each other during the week, we have to roll all 4 or 5 times into the weekend. It’s never boring, a bit kinky and a whole lot of fun!

  7. Cha_Ching says:

    I am the one that probably wants sex more frequently in our relationship. I will initiate 80% of the time but we do it quite regularly anyway, about 4 times a week on average (sometimes more =P but hardly ever less unless he’s away for school but I make sure i give him enough to last 5nights away the weekend before he leaves =D ) We’ve been together 5years also so its not like we are in that ‘young love’ stage, we just love it!! He loves when he makes me orgasm by clit before we have sex, its the best foreplay I could ask for! Thats almost his satisfaction there and then. The secret is just keep spicing things up abit. We even watch porn (weekend afternoons mainly) and act it out ourselves just to make it that bit more exciting =D

  8. rose says:

    I know we are fairly young. (im 19 & he’s 20)
    But I am lucky if I can have sex once a week.
    most of the time, once every 2 or 3 weeks.
    If it was up to me, we’d have sex any time. (We dont live together so that would vary between 4 / 6 times a week )
    I tried to talk to him, he just says he doesnt feel the need.
    He is happy whenever he is with me, sex is not a neccesity.
    it has been like this from the start.
    and I am not trying to push him into having sex.

    can you give me some advice?
    is this even possible to be healthy?

    • Jay says:

      It would be cool in your mind to have sex at least four times per week but he is not into that right? well stop putting it on him. let him yearn a bit. Then make up for that lost time with a session of hot hardcore steamy sex when he is into it.
      Please bear in mind though that at his age contrary to popular belief he will have interest in other things besides sex. So try not to come across as wanting to get in the sack with him every time you are together.
      start an innocent game and wittingly weave sex into without actually giving away that that is what you are doing. Good luck

    • Megan says:

      Well I have been married to a man just like this.. He says sex is over rated….He has always been this way from what his family says, so… if your NOT married, don’t do it, fair chance he will NOT change and you will either be miserable or become that way also…. (smile)

  9. Lisa says:

    My husband and I have been married for eleven years and together for twelve, we have seven children and we still have sex at least every other day. I seem to want it more often then he does, but he never turns me down. I find that being intimate without the sex helps us stay connected, what I mean by that is that we always stay communicating even while we’re both at work we text “I love you” and “I miss you” all day long, and sometimes we mix it up with some naughty texts. But the key is that we never lose touch and are constantly telling eachother how we feel, it makes for a solid relationship, and much better sex because our emotions are in it.

  10. Anonymous says:

    when i had a boyfreind we had sex probably on average 3-6 times a week our senior year in high school, now we are freshman in college and we are no longer together we have sex 1-4 times a week on average.

  11. Jessica says:

    I’ve gotten sex maybe 2 times in the last month. My husband just started 12 hours a day at least 5 days a week, so I’m pretty sure that’s a big reason for no sex, but holy crap I miss it.

  12. christina says:

    sadly, that is not always the case. my ex and i had sex twice a day everyday and he’d still cheat on me if i was away for one day! can you explain how that works?

  13. sage says:

    wow i love sex an love to give bj my boyfriend died a yr ago
    now i find i want sex so so bad. but haven’t met anyone that
    turns me on all the men i meet just make me sick with they
    fat bellys an the personalitys they have. am i still looking for
    someone like my dead boy friend? who was so fast wit an
    was so skinny but had my heart and soul such a good lover

  14. Yum says:

    My man is 50 and confirmed low testosterone, so daily sex doesn’t appear to be an option these days. He hasn’t been able to give me a double shot in years – but I’m wondering if men are like women – the more we do it – the more we can do it!

  15. angie says:

    we have sex at least once everyday and sometimes 2 to 3 times a day we have an awesome sex life and it gets better every time we always try something new to keep it interresting

  16. Leslie says:

    So i want sex pretty much all the time tho i try to not nag since he does work 10hr everyday.. seems like when he wants to have sex half the time hes more concerned about making me try to deepthroat or stick it in my butt..and i dont like doing it bc he just trys to force me.. i love the man but he always talks about cheating on me asking if he can cheat on me and starting to put nude girl pics as his background that guys from work send him.. ive tried sending my own nude pics..try to just give him pleasure even tho he is a very selfish lover.. do whatever i can but he just seems to like to mess with my head and say hateful things and do hateful things to hurt me.. ive told him the pics bother me but and hell stop for a few months then randomly start up agian..

    • diana says:

      babygirl,
      we’re in the same boat. this is what i did with my x boyfriend i acted like it didnt bugg me, even tho it was killing me in side. guys are funny when they all get together; it seems they enjoy compairing their love life just to see who has the most bazar love making the night b4.

  17. diana says:

    im feeling the same i desirer my man but here lately his seems hes lost jis love making for me whats wrong with me? i give it to him any way he wants it. he keeps telling me its not me its him!!!! he works days and i work nights , he has the weeekend off and i work 4 on and 4 off so on my nights off he works and too tried i dont believe he cheating on me. But who knows any more.

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