He Never Wants Sex!

On February 10, 2010, in Alpha Male Answers, by Jay Archer

alphamaleAnswers-logoQUESTION:  What if you’re completely comfortable with your body like few of us women are, BUT  your boyfriend never seems to want sex?

How long should you wait before you jump him? In two months he’s never even tried sliding his hand under my top. He always says stuff like he’s too tired or just drinks so much he passes out. – Carmy

ANSWER:

Carmy, let me get this straight – you’ve only been together for 2 months, you love your body and want to have lots of sex BUT he’s not interested, is that right?

Aaahhh…why are you with this guy?!

No sex?! Might as well spend your time with your good girlfriends or a gay man.

Don’t invest too much time in this guy, OK? Seems to me like your boyfriend is either depressed, stressed or straight-up has a drinking problem.

It’s hard not to take things like this personally – but sometimes it’s not about you. He could have deeper personal issues that you can’t help him with.

One suggestion is to take the lead. Get passionately inspired about your life, work, play, relationships. If he doesn’t follow your lead you may find he doesn’t fit into your life. PLUS the above idea is just a great way to live, isn’t it?

Who knows, your new improved life may help you find that new improved man…who loves passionate sex with you.

My alpha male advice…Get real, get inspired or get rid of him!

Don’t ‘jump him’ – dump him!

And that’s the Alpha Male answer.

[ If a better blow job doesn't get him inspired - nothing will! Check his pulse! How to give a better blow job ]

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10 Responses to He Never Wants Sex!

  1. Dimitra says:

    nice one.

    i had the same question, although my bf had serius problems with his family(health). i shall say this: After a while, when he realised the situation and that nothing could be done, and with me there helping him, he’s started again to find his passion on his own.

    BUT he knew i wouldn’t stay forever there without sex or if you want, love. It just tore me apart to think he wouldn’t have sex with me. I say you talk to him seriously once, give him some time(you know how much) and if you see improvement stay or else… So many men so little time. I know it’s not that easy but just think: others would be delighted to have a woman like you. Good luck, best wishes :)

  2. EM says:

    I always love the alpha male answers :) rock on!

  3. LorieD says:

    I definitely agree.. If he doesn’t fit your time line find someone else that does :)

  4. Danni says:

    I had the exact same situation. Now 8 months later and more of the same. I feel like cheating and I am nor have I ever cheated on anyone, but it does make a women feel undesired, in addition it if it is this way in the biggining (the best it’s supposed to be in the beginning of the relationship) it’s only down hill from here. Trust me I’m just getting more of the same. I personally think my guy prefers to masterbate. The problem is he does it before he sees me therefore he isn’t horney around me. I’m losing interest fast and I am seeking a more suitable partner in more ways than one.

  5. Theresa says:

    Sounds like me ex, and trust me, that guy was seriously messed up. Dump him, it’ll save yourself a lot of heartache because you’re only going to start feeling bad about yourself (which can sometimes be a tactic of a controlling guy so that way he’ll deliberatly knock away at your self confidence so you won’t leave him).

  6. Emma says:

    I so hear you, my boyfriend never wants sex either, he says he just has no sex drive. We’ve been together for 15 years, so ‘getting rid of him’ is not really something I want to do..

  7. Lilia says:

    Thank a lot Jay for helping us, always very insightful to read an advise of such a smart guy as you, kisses from Mexico

  8. Danielle says:

    I know how you feel! My boyfriend is the same way. It isn’t just with me tho. He was that way with his ex wife too. He was more interested in the Playboy channel than his girl. And he still is. I love him and don’t want to find anyone else. I don’t have any other complaints except that he isn’t physically affectionate towards me. There HAS to be a way to tap into that somehow and show him how much better our relationship could be if he’s just be a little more attentive in that area.

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