How To Ride Your Man – 3 Great Positions

If you want to know how to ride your man and gets some great benefits too then this post will explain the top 3 positions you can use and the benefits that both of you will enjoy.

Riding your man is first and foremost fun but did you know that it is a great way to get some exercise too especially for the thighs, butt and stomach.  That should be enough to get you interested in riding your man.

The first position is chest to chest.

For this one the man is on the bottom and you are one the top.  The benefits that you will receive are that you get great clit stimulation using this position so if you find it difficult to achieve orgasm in the military position then riding your man in this position could really help.  This position will work your leg muscles and your buttocks too and you don’t need to balance yourself because you will be lying on top of him.  For him the benefits are that he can relax and just enjoy the fact that you are taking control.

The second position is called the cowgirl.

Yee Hah ridem cowgirl.  This is a great position and from a man’s point of view it looks great too and you really can give him a good show.  You will need to lean backwards and support yourself with your arms for this one and while you are doing that he can either enjoy the show or play with your breasts.  He can also rub your clit if you like.  You have full control with this position and it is also one of the best for hitting your g-spot too.  You can always add a cowgirl hat and some boots to this one for even more fun and if he’s into it you can use a riding whip too.

The third position for riding your man is the most difficult and it is called the frogger.

This is a crouching position and it can be a little tiring and hard on your legs.  It is a great exercise though so if you want to tone up your bottom half give this one a try.  This position is visually fantastic for men so if you are planning on giving him a sexual treat then you should try this one.  It allows for great penetration and most men will literally blow up if you practice this position.

Now that you know how to ride your man the next thing is of course the fun bit and that is practice.  Practice, practice, practice and believe me you will have no objections for your male partner on this one either.  Just think of all the fantastic benefits that you will achieve.

Sexual pleasure for both, amazing orgasms and a fab toned bottom half too.  You can always add your own little variations to these positions too once you get the hang of them.

Have any more great ideas on how to ride your man?

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So You Want To Start Pegging Your Husband

WARNING: Kinky content. This post is ONLY for the kinky at heart and sexually adventurous. You’ve been warned so NO complaining. (I’m just responding to reader demand)

In the past while I have received a number of questions from people wanting to know about pegging so I decided it was time to do a post on this topic.  If you are looking for information or you are interested in pegging your husband then this one is for you.

What is pegging?

I’m sure you’re all familiar with anal sex right?  Well pegging is basically anal sex for a man.  What you are going to be doing is having anal sex with him using a strap on.  This might not appeal to everyone but if you are one of the ladies who has been sending in questions then you definitely need to keep reading.

To Peg Or NOT to Peg Your Man? That is the Question

If you’re reading this your husband may have already asked for some pegging. If not, the first thing you need to do is make sure that he is keen on the idea. A surprisingly large number of men are interested – at least 1x – if pushed and prompted a little.

If he reacts with “WTF! I ain’t gay!” You can put his male mind at ease by telling him that sex experts, therapists and wikipedia assure us it doesn’t make him gay.

He may have a strong reaction either way – but I can tell you he will likely respect your sense of sexual adventure. Hey, nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?

Note: some men secretly fantasize about this but are too ashamed to ask. Some men like to be dominated and actually fantasize about  how sexy their partner would look wearing a strap-on. It’s a combination of the role reversal and domination.

If you’re keen to try and HE is the reluctant one – try the give and take tactic. “Hey, if you want in my back door – it’s only fair that I get to try yours, right?” Who can argue with that logic?

If you have read about pegging your husband on the internet you will have received the female point of view and how enjoyable it is for you to be in control and your man to be submissive.

You are going to need plenty of lubrication and I would suggest that you get in a bit of practice before you decided to go full force with your strap-on.  The anus is a tight little sucker and you can’t just stick something up there.  Then again, I’m sure you already know this.

Pegging  Please Your Husband – Pleasure Not Just for Him

So back to the pegging thing.  Take your time and really enjoy the experience.  Plenty of lubricant and slowly does it.  I would suggest that you start using your fingers first and once he’s loosened enough you can move on to your strap on.  Something that you might not know about is the male G-spot and this is located in the anus.  It is actually the prostate gland and if you can stimulate this then oh baby your man is in for one hell of a time.

Remember you are in full control when pegging your husband and you need to really go gently at first.  He will definitely tell you very quickly what he is looking for and how much he can take.

Pegging Your Husband – Pleasure Not Just for Him

Wikipedia.org describes pegging pleasure…. “In terms of physical pleasure, women may get direct stimulation from the base of the dildo, or in the case of a double-ended dildo, from vaginal penetration. A woman can use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her clitoris, to get pleasure from pegging. Men may find stimulation of the anus, rectum, and adjacent organs, and particularly the prostate, enjoyable, which can lead to an anal orgasm. Some men enjoy masturbating (or being masturbated) during pegging”

Pegging your husband?

Pegging is perfect if you are thinking getting totally adventurous, kinky, becoming more dominant in the bedroom, or fulfilling his secret fantasy.  Look into the different shapes and sizes of strap-ons available and your sex life may never be the same again.

[ Editor Jay Archer : If you're interested in learning more about pegging your man,
strap-on sex and how to unleash his passion I recommend looking at this tutorial and guide ]

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Understanding Men Books

There are a lot of women out there who turn to books when it comes to satisfying their men and I thought that it was about time that I had a look at these books to see if they really were worth reading or just more hype to get you to part with your money.

Here are 3 Understanding Men Books that I have reviewed:

1. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey
2. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray
3. The Women Men Adore and Never Want To Leave by Bob Grant

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey  - I like this guy because he gives advice like me – a man. His understanding men book is cited as being a funny, honest and foolproof guide to all women who really want to know what men think about love, sex and commitment.

The reviews on Amazon for this book sounded promising and women were raving about it. So what did I think? Actually I must admit I really did enjoy what Steve had written and I think he really does hit on a lot of things that women miss when it comes to sex and us men. It gives very practical and realistic advice and if you are looking to learn a few home truths about us men and sex this is well worth the read.

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is an all time classic when it comes to the male female relationship and this is a book I have never read. I have to admit though that the parts about men and how they relate in relationships really did make sense and I picked up some good tips about women too and how to get what I want.

The reviews for this book are amazing and most women swear by it and I can’t blame them. John Gray really does hit the nail on the head when it comes to explaining men in relationships but if you want to take things a little bit further and focus more on sex and satisfying your man then I recommend that you check out Mars and Venus in the Bedroom when you finish this book. Mars and Venus in the Bedroom takes things a little further and tells you all about men and sex and believe me most of it is spot on.

The final book that I read was called The Women Men Adore and Never Want to Leave by Bob Grant who is also known as the Relationship Doctor.

This book is amazing even if I do say so myself. The reviews for the book were excellent but seeing as though it was a sales page and not on Amazon I was a bit skeptical. I needed have been. This book is great and I even discovered why I am attracted to certain type of women too. I know I was doing research to help all you ladies out but this book also has some great information for men too. You could definitely use this book to your advantage though because once you know what men look for in relationships you really will have the upper hand. I probably shouldn’t have even mentioned this book because a lot of women are going to discover some of our little secrets when they read this one.

I have to say, self help books on relationships are not at all what I thought they would be and I was shocked and surprised to find that these understand men books really can help. If you are having a hard time understanding exactly how to satisfy your man both in and out of bed then these self help books can work wonders. I would definitely recommend all three but if you want to go for just one then I would suggest you read Bob Grant’s book first as you might not need another one after you implement his suggestions.

OR keep reading my posts on this site to ‘Master Your Man’

[Editor - Jay Archer :: 1. Please comment below 2. If you would like me to do a very short (as best I can) summary of the book and my comments - also please comment below ]

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Romantic Mood Killers For Men

Don’t want to be the one to kill the romantic mood?

Most women know how to get a man going but do you know that there are some little things that you do that can be a real romantic mood killer.  It doesn’t matter whether you are just dating or in a serious relationship if you do these things you are essentially turning him off.

When asked about romantic mood killers the top answer from most men was:

1. When she wants to have a “talk”

Yep, that’s it.  We’re all ready for a nice romantic evening.  We have it all planned out in our minds.  The nice dinner (just to help put you in the mood), the bubble bath, the sexy lingerie, the new handcuffs, yes it’s all planned out and we can’t wait and then you says those four little words: “Can we talk?” and our fragile male world crumbles.

The romantic mood – gone, the anticipation of a night of pure indulgent sex – gone.  Why do you have to do it?  Do you even realize that you are?

When you say “let’s talk”, it’s as if you have just dropped a brick right into our crotch.  Yes it’s painful.

Come on we’re planning to have a nice romantic evening why do you have to spoil it by wanting to TALK.  When women say TALK it’s never about something trivial and nice and nine times out of ten it’s the serious talk when you want to know about getting married or having children.  We really don’t want to talk about those things on a romantic night.  When we do you will be the first to know believe me.

SECRET : Here’s the truth about men – we don’t want to THINK about love or how we feel OR use our memory to recall how you or we were feeling at a certain place at a specific moment. Gaaaaa!

Men communicate through physical actions. Being intimate with a woman is the secret to how men tap into their deepest emotions – allowing themselves to really feel – and really CONNECT with YOU! Sad but true. Sorry ladies. But that’s the way it is.

If you want to ‘have the talk’ I suggest you keep it light and talk about what you plan on doing to him later on and what he can do back to you.  I guarantee you won’t spoil the mood and you will have the best romantic night ever.

2. Running to the bathroom to ‘clean up’

When you rush away to clean up any stickiness or sweat – you’re sending the message “Yuk, boy germs!” which sends him straight back to grade school.

After lovin’ – don’t panic , it won’t leave a stain just give it a few minutes and enjoy being next to him. Heck – snuggle next to him and let him enjoy his own sticky mess! With luck he’ll ask you to go clean up – LOL!

Until next time,

Less talk – more inter-action

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How Long Do Men Want Sex To Last?

Have you ever wondered how long men really want sex to last?

I recently carried out a survey where I put this very question to a group of men.  The results were amazing and the time duration that men specified didn’t include foreplay either.

If you are looking to really put a smile on your man’s face then take note of these results and try helping him to reach that goal.  It’s a great experiment to try and of course there is a lot of fun to be had trying it too.

Survey Results:

50% of men said they wanted sex to last 30 minutes
25% of men said they wanted sex to last 15 minutes
21% of men said they wanted sex to last 60 minutes
4% of men said they wanted sex to last 10 minutes

As you can see from these results under 10 minutes doesn’t even feature.  Men really do want the whole sex thing to last longer than what most reports claim.  I know that there are a lot of reports and articles out there that say the average time couples spend actually having sex is five minutes and if this is true then there really are a lot of very unhappy men out there.

Why not try an experiment.  Time your next sex session and see what the results are.  This will give you are starting point to work from.  IF you fall under the 10 minutes then might I suggest that you find ways to make him last longer.  There are plenty of thing that you can do.  You might want to try buying a penis ring.  These are great for helping a man last longer and for you ladies the good news is that they also make him feel a lot bigger too.  Us men love these cock rings because they enhance the sensations of sex too.  You can buy these from all sex shops and if you really want to make it fun might I suggest that you get one that has a vibe built in so that you can maximize your own pleasure too.

When all is said and done, the reason you visit this blog and read these posts is so that you can pick up some valuable tips and information on how to please your man and have the best sex ever.  I tell it like it is and with that said here’s a little tid bit for you to chew on.

There is a really strong correlation with the frequency of sex and your health and happiness.  The reason for this is that sex is a high intensity exercise and therefore the longer you spend doing it the better it is for you.  Makes sense right?

So my advice for today:  Get a stopwatch, time your next sex session and then work on getting up to at least 30 minutes or more.

Believe me he will love you for it and a happy man means a lot more pleasure for you too.

To passion,

Archer

PS as always – Please comment. I love your comments, questions and feedback.

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4 Tips To End Sexual Boredom

If you have been with your partner for a while (let’s say years) then there is bound to come a stage where both of you are going to get bored.  You might not mention it to one another but believe me if you have been doing the same position every time for the past year or so then your partner is bored stupid.

The fact of the matter is that sex should be exciting and passionate and there is nothing exciting or passionate about constantly doing the military position and not even attempting to try anything else.  Couples can get lazy.  You find a comfortable sex position that you enjoy and that brings you to orgasm and that’s it.  Every other position goes out the window and you don’t even want to try it.  Don’t get me started on this ladies.  The point is you need to spice up your sex life because if you are not both enjoying it what’s the point.

What I have devised for you is 4 great tips on how to break the sexual boredom, routine, rut or whatever you want to call it.  These tips come from real men and there are the results of my latest survey.

Tip #1:  Have Sex More Often

This was the top answer amongst the men I surveyed.  It seems like after the honeymoon period most men are lucky if they get to have sex once a week.  This just won’t do, come on, sex once a week, that is just ridiculous.  When you start seeing someone you are probably have sex once a day if not more so why is it that when you get comfortable you take away this pleasure.  I have a question for you ladies – do you not enjoy sex after the initial first couple of months with someone?

Tip #2:  Have Sex At Different Times

If you only ever have sex when you go to bed at night then you will at some stage get bored.  Why not try having sex first thing in the morning.  Most men myself included love having sex first thing in the morning.  It is a great start to the day.  A quickie at lunch time, when the dinner is being prepared or whenever you can fit it in is a sure fire way to remove any boredom.  Why not try grabbing your partner when he comes home from work and trying this out.  I guarantee any boredom will soon be removed.

Tip #3:  Use More Sex Positions

There are so many different sex positions to try and yet most of the women I know tend to find one they like and stick with it  Boring…..Here’s a challenge for you.  For an entire month you are not allowed to use your normal sexual position.  Are you up for the challenge?  Do you think you will be able to do it?  I guarantee that if you take up this challenge you will find some really great positions and if there was any boredom or routine in your sex life it will have vanished by the end of the month and your relationship will be so much better too.

Tip #4:  More Oral Sex

Oral sex is an important part of sex for both men and women but often when a relationship reaches the comfortable stage the oral sex takes a back seat.  Why is this?  I have heard women say things like, “I only gave you a blowjob because I was trying to impress you.” Or “That was when we first met.”  Is there a rule that says you only give blowjobs when you first start having sex with your partner and then you can stop?  I don’t think so.  What is wrong with oral sex?  You enjoy it don’t you?

If you have reached a plateau in your sexual life and you find that you are stuck in a routine then it is up to you to change it.  You can see from the survey results what men want more of so why not take the initiative and put some of these tips into action.  You’ll be surprised how quickly that boredom will fade.

FEEDBACK: What bores YOU in the bedroom? And/or share your suggestions below

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4 Surefire Ways To Turn-Off Your Man In Bed

I love surveys.  They allow me to give you all the information you need about making sure your relationship and sex life is going the way you want without me coming across as a know it all.  With surveys you get real information from real men and not just my point of view.  The survey results that I want to present you with today are from men who were asked what turned them off in bed.  The results are exactly what I expected but what do you think?

First, 41% of men said that when a woman is totally silent this is a real turn off.  If you are one of these women then I have something that will help you out.  It’s called “How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid”.   This program will turn you from mute into sex goddess and believe me if you can talk dirty to your man he will do whatever you ask.  There is nothing nicer than a woman who knows how to talk dirty during sex it is a real turn on.

In second place with 24% of the votes it was women who are self conscious about their bodies.  I’m actually surprised that this didn’t score higher.  There is nothing more off putting than being with a woman who is more worried about you seeing what she calls her fat bum or fat tummy than she is about enjoying sex.  These are women who refuse to have the lights on during sex in case you might see them and to be honest it really can be such a turn off.  Men enjoy being able to see you during sex and if you are with a women who won’t be on top because she thinks she has a fat stomach it is going to get boring very quickly.

In third place with 20% of the votes it’s what we call cold fish.  These are women who don’t move at all and they just lie there and let the man do all the work.  How boring this type of sex is and to be honest these types of relationships don’t last very long.  It’s like having sex with a blow up doll, no movement, no help you have to find the hole and do all the work.  What is the point of this I ask you?

In last place with 15% of the votes it’s women who criticize their partners sexual skills.  You might not know what I mean here so I’ll give you a couple of examples:

Don’t put your hand there

What are you trying to do?

That took a long time didn’t it?

Do you need some help?

Is that it?

I’m sure you get the idea on this one

If you are prone to doing any of these things then I strongly suggest that you try to stop and become aware when you are doing them.  If you want to keep you man turned on and responsive then the last thing you want to do is turn him off isn’t it?

Until next time,

Turn him on

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The Hottest Thing You Can Say To Your Man

When it comes to communicating with your man there are a few things you can say to really turn him on and make him feel extra special.  I am not talking about telling him how much you love him but how to speak to him so that he knows you really want him especially during sex.

What I am talking about is talking dirty and if this is something that is new to you then I hope this post will inspire you.

[ Talking dirty is something that is very easy to learn and this is a really great program that is called How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid. ]

The problem for a lot of women when it comes to talking dirty during sex is that they feel silly or so I have heard.  I remember one of my girlfriends telling me that she was afraid that she would sound stupid, say the wrong thing or that I would laugh at her.  No matter how much I tried to reassure her that this wouldn’t happen she refused point blank.  It wasn’t the end of the world but it did kinda put a dampner on things in the sex department though.  She just didn’t have any sexual confidence and this wasn’t what I was looking for.

If you want to know what the hottest things that you can say to your man during sex are then here are a couple of examples to give you an idea.

“I want you inside me” – this is such a turn on and talk about letting a man know that you are enjoy yourself.  When you say this to your man you really are pushing his buttons and letting him know that you are just as excited about what he is doing as he is in doing it.

“F**k me now” – again this is a real turn on and a way of telling the man you are with that he is doing all the right things and that you are ready and very anxious for him to be inside you.  It is a great way to let him know that he is doing the right thing and that he has you really hot.  If you whisper this in his ear it’s all the better and you will really see some hot action.

“You’re so hot” – Another great phrase to boost any man’s ego especially during sex.  We all want to know that we are turning you on and exciting you so whisper this or saying it out loud in bed is great.

here are plenty more great hot phrases that you can shout or whisper during sex

Until next time, can you say hot?

[ If you would like to learn more then don’t forget to check out
the great program I mentioned How To Talk Dirty Without Feeling Stupid ]

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Top 5 Christmas Sex Treats

If you really want to spice things up this Christmas then why not try out some of the amazing sex toys and couples toys that are available from plenty of online stores this Christmas.  For the purpose of this post I have created a list of the top 5 Christmas sex treats.  Christmas sex treats can be anything from tying each other up to playing sexy games or trying out the latest vibrator.  It is a matter of taste for each couple but this list is the top 5 selling sex treats so you can take you pick or pick all of them the choice is yours.

1. We-Vibe II New Model Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator

I have to admit this sex toy looks a little strange but it has been featured in so many magazines and my partner loves it so what does appearance matter?  According to the manufacturer not only does this little toy provide intense clitoral vibrations and pulsations but it also stimulates her G-spot at the same time too.  Can’t be bad right and I’m sure your partner will be only too happy to help you test it out.  Even better he can slip right in there with it thanks to its super smooth shape and believe me the vibrations that he feels are great too.  A definite must have this Christmas.

2. Phillips Candlelight’s and Warm Vibrating Intimate Massager Set

This is definitely a couple’s treat and it is the second highest selling item this year.  What you get is some electric candles and a great massager that can be used all over including your most intimate areas.  This is a great gift and perfect for both partners to enjoy.  The electric candles are wonderful too and the massager has a range of speed settings.

3. Love Honey Bada Bing Ring Extra Thick Cock Ring

This is a definite stocking filler and it’s very cheap too.  It has a sturdy ring unlike some of the cock rings that you see that break easily.  The vibrating piece on this is great too and it actually works.  My partner loves it says it is perfect for keeping her going when we are actually having sex because she gets to have much better orgasms.  I’m only reporting what she says so please don’t have a go at me on this one.

4. Mantric Sysil Edge Adjustable Vibrating Silicone Double Dildo

This little beauty is used for pegging which is something that more and more couples are trying out.  This is a couple’s toy and she inserts the shorter shaft which massages her G-spot.  He then enjoys the penetration of the longer shaft which in turn stimulates the male P-spot.  This sex toy also has a hinge in the middle so that you can adjust and angle it for any position you want.  This doesn’t have to be a two person toy either, it can be used like a regular vibrator where the female inserts the longer shaft and then stimulates her clitoris with the short shaft which also contains a vibrating bullet.  You can really do with it what you want; I’m not going to spoil your fun.

5. Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner’s Bondage Tape Double Pack

This is the perfect Christmas treat for the more kinky couple or those who want to see what all the fuss about bondage is.  This is a great kit and the best thing about the tape is that you won’t accidentally remove any of your partner’s hair because the tape only sticks to itself.  The tape can be reused too so if you like it you can keep doing it.

That’s the top 5 Christmas sex treats list hope you enjoyed them as much as I did and I’m off now to place my order in plenty of time for Christmas.

Until next time,

Buy your sex treats

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3 Christmas Lingerie Ideas To Excite Men

Want more holiday lovin’ from your man?

When it comes to buying lingerie women always complain about what men buy but what about when women buy lingerie to excite their men.  Do you think they get it right?

Christmas is a great time of year to spoil your partner and buy them a special treat and today I want to tell you about lingerie to excite men.  You already know that we are extremely visual creatures but touch is an important part too.  We like to see and feel the sexy lingerie and this is probably why we get it so wrong when we buy it for women. When women choose lingerie it always seems like they buy stuff that will cover bumps and bulges instead of focusing on the actual lingerie itself.

Any man will tell you the best  lingerie is the kind you can leave on during sex.

Anytime he has to fumble around to remove your outfit could backfire and make him a bit put off or frustrated. It’s best to select lingerie that can just be tugged aside and left on for him to enjoy looking at during sex. NICE!

[ Boost his arousal 10X higher by giving him a naughty, teasing striptease
while you're wearing the lingerie!  Learn How to Strip & Give a Lap Dance ]

The top 3 lingerie ideas to excite men are as follows:

Sexy Santa: Christmas is nearly hear and that means plenty of great red sexy lingerie.  Sexy Santa is so easy to do, red panties (crotchless or a thong), red stockings, and a little red baby doll and your all set.  Don’t forget the red high heels though especially if you are wearing stockings.  They make the outfit.

Bra and Panties: If you are more the bra and panties type of woman then be adventurous with this too.  Red lace, see thought or even nippleless will really excite your man.  There is nothing nicer than feeling that lace whilst still being able to suck on your nipples and if you team this sexy bra with some lacy panties to match then heck his Christmas will be perfect.

Corset with Matching Stockings and Suspenders: Corsets are great but they are hard to remove all those fastenings on the back can be a little frustrating.  If you are a corset lady then might I suggest getting one of the ones that don’t include a bra section.  That way you can have a separate bra which is easily removed and still keep the sexiness of the corset.  If you are buying a corset why not go the whole hog and get stockings and suspenders too these are really hot and your partner is really going to enjoy trying to open them with his teeth too.

If you want to excite your man using lingerie then the best advice that I can give you is to keep it simple and enjoy it.  If you feel sexy and hot in your lingerie then you are a success.  The more sexy you feel the better the result you will have.  We really can tell when you are not comfortable so start feeling sexy in your lingerie.

How to Work It:

Presenting yourself in front of him with your sexy new lingerie is great. However, IF you just stand in front of him you will begin to feel judged and somewhat self-conscious – “Does he like it? Did I make the wrong choice? Ah, I feel stupid. Why isn’t he saying/doing anything?” etc…

Solution: You need something to do. In short – You need to work it!

1. Be confident (or at least act confident)

2. Run you hands slowly over your body and lingerie. Enjoy both. No really – enjoy it and concentrate on how it feels.

3.  Show him all sides and angles. Front, side, back, cleavage.

4. Slowly bend over (facing him or turned away – depending on what ‘asset’ you’re most proud of) and touch your foot, shin or ankle and gently caress as you slowly rise up.

5. Look down at your body while you’re caressing yourself – enjoy it – and look up at him in the eyes. Enjoy him watching you.

6. Take control – do not let him touch or caress you until you say so. Slap his hand away – “Naughty boy! Wait your turn.”

NOTE: Moving while in front of him will dissipate the nervous you may be feeling.

Take this gift to the next level by adding music and giving him a hot and heavy striptease.

KEY: Wear it with confidence and tease tease tease.  Move about to showcase your assets and dissipate nervous energy and add a lap dance equals = a romantic gift he will never forget!

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3 Cheap Romantic Gift Ideas For Men

What does your man really want this holiday?

Our survey tells you exactly what he secrets asks Santa for.

It is getting close to Christmas and for many of you ladies out there that means buying that special someone in your life something extra special.  I am hoping that you haven’t already purchased your Christmas gift because over the next couple of weeks I plan on bringing you some great posts on romantic gift ideas for the man.

Part of the fun of this blog is the fact that I get to carry out lots of surveys and today it’s all about the romantic gifts men would actually like to receive.  The results may or may not surprise you.

By far the most popular voted top by 45.5% of the men surveyed was black lace lingerie.  This really is no surprise.  I know that you are probably thinking that red lingerie is more appropriate for this time of the year but black lacy lingerie wins according to our survey.  The feel of the lace, the fact that it’s see through and of course the fact that it comes in so many different varieties….

[ BUT, it's what you do with the lingerie that really counts. How about
giving a naughty holiday dance?  How to strip & give a lap dance ]

Just one thing though….let him run his hands over it before slowly peeling it from your body…it’s part of the fun and build up you know. You’ll have him eating out of your hands and up for doing anything you fancy.

In 2nd place with 27% of the votes was a kinky costume.  This is another of the great romantic gift ideas that you can use when getting your Christmas gift this year.  Now when thinking about kinky I can picture a whip, black leather/pvc, and a matching set of handcuffs too.  Add a blindfold to the mix and you will really get him going.  What man wouldn’t like to be tied up, blindfolded and gently whipped by a woman dressed in black leather?

There are of course plenty of other kinky costume ideas and a tiny little Santa piece will also do the trick just make sure you wear it after midnight on Christmas Eve or better yet wake up extra early put it on and wake him up for a real Christmas day surprise.

If you sit him down then pop out with dressed as a sexy Mrs. Claus, Naughty Nurse, Police Officer, School Girl, Cowgirl, etc… — I’ll tell you from my own experience – something of his will POP-UP.

3rd -  26% of men voted for a vibrator or vibe ring.  Ok, so this gift will probably give you a lot more physical enjoyment but if we can get in on the action then that is enough.  Just watching the pleasure that you get from that vibrating rabbit and seeing you squirm as you come over and over again will please any man.

If you opt for a vibe ring instead then make sure it is one that comes with long lasting batteries because once he wears it once and sees the effect it has you can guarantee it will be something he will want to use all the time.  If you haven’t tried one of these vibe rings then you are in for a surprise they work wonders and I can only say that they are like having a penis with built in vibrator.  That buzzing sensation really is great….

The last of the romantic gift ideas is to buy your man a sex toy and attach a note to it telling him he has to use it on you.  You can put whatever you like on this note but might I suggest something like – looking forward to seeing what you can do to me with this xxxxx

Oh yes this is going to have him so excited and he will probably sit there and examine it for a while thinking about all the things he is going to do with you before grabbing you and dragging you back up the stairs.  There is a huge range of choice for this one so take a good look before choosing.

Romantic gift ideas don’t have to be boring and with the result of this survey you can see exactly what us men would like to see under the Christmas tree.  Have you taken note of these?

What the heck why not buy them all and that way you can be sure of the best sex ever this Christmas season.

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The Number 1 Way To Boost Your Sex Life

When couples are together a while the first thing that seems to slip is the sex life and believe me I know.  Some couples have children and so a decrease in sex is probably something to be expected but sometimes sex just seems to take a back seat after a while regardless of whether or not children are involved.

In a survey a number of men were asked “What’s the 1 thing that would boost your sex life?”

Here are the results:

According to 30% of men having sex more frequently would work.
29% a very close second claimed that breaking the routine and having sec at different times and in different places would help.
20% of men wanted to try new positions.
19% wanted to have more oral sex.

All of these items would in fact improve your sex life but if I had to pick the number one way then I would definitely have to agree with the 30% of men who said having sex more frequently.

Do you remember back to when you first started seeing your partner?  Sex was a major thing.  You went to bed for sex.  You woke up in the middle of the night for sex.  You had sex in the morning.  You had sex….

Do you remember the different positions you tried out?  The ice cream antics, the neighbours banging on the wall, the laughter as you both fell out of bed in the throws of passion and of course the amazing sex.

If you can think back to that and then look at the way your sex life is now I’m sure you will notice some differences.  You see the things is that women seem to get comfortable, they find a sexual position that they enjoy and they just stick to it.  It’s as if sex becomes regimented and scheduled and to be quite honest with you this is not the way it should be.  Men don’t get comfortable not in the way women do. We don’t just pick a position we like and stick to it we love trying out new ones.  We love spontaneous sex, we love quickies, and if anything all we want is to keep sex as fun and exciting as it once was.

Is having sex more frequently a big deal?  I don’t think so.  Do we have to schedule it with you? We shouldn’t.

If you want to spice things up in your relationship then why not try doing some of these things.  When was the last time you tried a different position or had sex outside the bedroom? When was the last time you gave your partner a blowjob?  If you can’t answer these questions straight off then you need to do some serious work on your partner.  It’s time to break out the baby oil, send the kids to a family member and re-christen the rooms in your home all over again.

Sex is important and if you want to have great sex with your partner then first and foremost you need to have sex.  I will leave you with this – start remembering what it was like and start doing it again.

Until next time,

Have plenty of sex

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Do Men Enjoy Phone Sex? Hot Or Not?

If I were to ask you if you thought phone sex was hot what would you say?  To phone sex or not to phone sex that really is the question at hand here and ladies today I want to give you the answer according to men.

A number of men were surveyed and asked if they couldn’t be with their partner would they like phone sex with them.  Here is what the results were:

52% of men said no
48% of men said yes

Now I know that most of you ladies reading this blog are probably shocked by these results and you probably assumed that most men would love the idea of phone sex.  Well yes the idea is great but what you need to remember is that us men really are visual characters….we need to see things…why do you think they give us porn mags when it comes to giving a sperm sample?  We need to be able to see the images, the flesh, the sexy lingerie…the whole lot.  If we can’t see it then you really do need to explain it in detail.

If you are planning on having phone sex with your partner then here are a few pointers that should ensure that all goes well.

Always keep in mind that men are visual creatures.  You ladies may be able to visualise and fantasize easily but for us we do need that visual stimulation.  That is why we prefer to watch porn and you prefer that romance movie.

When you phone your partner for phone sex you need to be really descriptive.  There is no point in saying:

“Hi baby, I’m feeling very horny you want to play?” and then  proceed with something like

“I’m wearing a black bra and panties.”

This is no good.  What type of black bra is it?  What type of panties are you wearing?  Is it a thong?  Is it lace?  Is the bra a half cup or full cup?  Do you see what I am getting at here?  We need details.

A good idea might be to wear a piece of really sexy lingerie that you have already made use of with your partner.  Maybe you will be wearing that really sexy red two piece outfit that you wore the time you too had the chocolate body paint experience.  Make it something that he can resonate with and something that he knows.  That way when you phone him and say:

“Hi baby, I’m feeling very horny you want to play?” followed by “I’m wearing my little red number” he will know exactly what you are talking about and the images will automatically appear in his mind along with the memories of the great time he had last time you wore this outfit.

Throughout your phone sex conversation you need to keep this descriptive language up.  Don’t say something like I’m feeling very hot that just isn’t going to do it, you need to detail every little thing you are doing.

“I’m running my hands slowly over my breasts, circling my nipples, oh it feels so good and I am imagining that my hands are yours.”  You can follow this up with a few little moans before asking your partner what he would like to do to your body next and what he would like you to do to him.  As he gives you instructions on what he would like to do to you all you have to do is follow through giving his a full and very detailed running commentary.  Remember he can’t see what you are doing but he will know by your description and the tone of your voice how well it is going and this is what is going to excite him.

If you want to make phone sex a success and please both yourself and your partner at the same time then you need to get to grips with describing how you please your body and be able to verbalise this.  The I am feeling my breast and my stomach just won’t cut it nor will I am now entering my private parts.  Come on ladies you need to tell us exactly what you are doing if you want to turn us on.  If not you have just wasted your phone call.

Time to get descriptive and learn to give your man the images he wants when he can’t see what you are doing.  Remember ladies practice makes perfect and we all know practice is fun right?

Until next time,

Start Phoning

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A Man’s Favourite Sexual Surprise Ambush Revealed

Have you ever really wanted to turn your partner on by surprising him but then didn’t because you weren’t sure exactly what to do? If so then I urge you to keep reading as I reveal the top four ways that you can ambush your partner with a sexual surprise.

This post includes statistics so you don’t just have my word for it you have the word of all the men that were surveyed too.

So not to keep you waiting here is the number one way that you can turn us on and surprise us with your sexual treats.

#1 Voted top by 43% of men was first thing in the morning in bed. Yes this gets top votes and is my favourite too. There is nothing nicer than being woken up in bed by a really rock solid hardon that has been caused by my partner massaging me out of my sleep. Talk about waking up ready for action this is definitely a sure winner. Ladies if you are looking for the best way to surprise me then this is definitely it and if you want to take it a step further and really wake me up with a smile how about using your precious lips to wake me up and yes I do mean down there.

If you’re not a morning person then maybe number 2 will be for you….but I do strongly urge you to give number one a go you won’t regret it.

#2 Number 2 on the list is in the shower. This got 25% of the votes and yes this is a wonderful surprise too. If your partner is in the shower why not sneak up on him whip your clothes off and jump into the shower and surprise him with some wet slippery action. Yes nothing better than getting all soapy together.

#3 was very close and this one got 23% of the votes and it is at the door when he gets home. Yes as soon as he comes through that door just tell him what you have planned. Maybe even start taking his clothes off for him as he comes in the door or better still greet him naked or wearing some sexy lingerie. If he’s had a bad day he will love you for this.

#4 Last but not least on this list with 11% of the votes was in the car. I have to say this is a real turn on. You can just stretch your hand across and rub his groin whilst he is driving and this is sure to get him going. One word of advice though, be sure to stop the car before you start doing anything else and be careful where you park too you don’t want to get caught like the Hugh Grant now do you. Being groped in the car really is a big turn on for most men but unfortunately with the law the way it is we don’t always get what we want. But it still gets the votes so don’t rule it out.

So ladies there you have it some great ways to plan a sexual surprise ambush for your man. There are four ways listed here so you have four ways to have a lot of fun and really treat your man and let’s face it we deserve it because we are always treating you. Isn’t it time you gave some back.

Until next time,

Start ambushing

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A Great Foreplay Tip That Any Woman Can Use

I get a lot of emails from women who complain that more foreplay tips and foreplay techniques just don’t work for them.  They complain saying that the foreplay ideas that are mentioned on most websites are just not for them.  One of the most common questions that I get asked in emails is:

“What are some foreplay tips that an average ordinary woman can use on her man?”

So for all you average ordinary women out there this post is for you.  I have to ask though, what is an ordinary average woman anyway?  What makes a woman ordinary and average?  To me when I get these emails what these women are really saying is that they are women who are not confident with their bodies and not overly confident when it comes to sex either.  Why?  What’s wrong with your body or with enjoying sex for that matter?

From a man’s point of view, we just don’t get this.  If we are with you and having sex with you then we love and enjoy your body and let’s face it if we’re having sex and we’ve seen you naked what the hell have you got to be embarrassed about?

I guess this is something that us men will never understand but in order to answer your questions below is a great foreplay tip that even the shyest of women can use.

All you need for this foreplay tip is your partner and a couch or chair.  You won’t have to do a striptease or be naked for this one I promise……well not initially anyway.

So here goes.

With your partner sitting on the couch or chair all you have to do is move in close to him, or sit on his knee if you want and very slowly and lightly I want you to begin kissing his face.  Make your lips as wet as possible and kiss every part of his face except his lips.  Don’t kiss his lips even if he tries to kiss yours I want you to pull away and just keep kissing his face, his neck, his ears…..just not the lips.  You can then slowly start to move down his body slowly though you don’t want to rush things.  You can start by kissing his neck and moving down his chest.  You can even use your tongue to circle his nipples (men’s nipples are sensitive too and yes we enjoy have them kissed and sucked).  If you are enjoying yourself let us know too and a few subtle moans can really help things along.

Remember slow is the key to these foreplay tips and foreplay techniques.  Once you have kissed you want down as far as his stomach you can start moving up again until you reach his face.  This is a real killer by the way but it works really well and by the time you get back down to his stomach again he is bound to grab you and drag you down onto the couch so be prepared.  There is only so much foreplay that us guys can handle you know.

Foreplay ideas don’t have to be raunchy and this foreplay tip is one that every woman can use.  You don’t have to strip naked to start….that comes later.

I mean come on now ladies can I really make things any simpler for you.  Kissing…that’s really all there is to it and of course the fact that he knows you want him.  Once a man knows that you want him and that you are enjoying yourself that’s enough to get any of us going.

Once you get comfortable with this you can move on to the striptease and naked house cleaning if you like.

Before I wrap up on this one I really do just want to say again……men are not focusing on the parts of your body that you don’t like…..we probably can’t even see them…….you are the one who is criticizing your own body and if you just stopped doing this and had more confidence in yourself your sex life would be a million times better.  Start loving your body and I guarantee you will be able to have the best sex ever.

Until next time,

Get Kissing

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A Powerful Seduction Tip Every Woman Should Know

Are you one of the many women out there that thinks that you need to buy books so that you will know how to seduce your other half?  If so then I’m so glad you have stopped by this blog today.  Ladies there is no book that is going to tell you how to get him aroused, well not one that is written by a woman anyway.  I have seen these books on the shelves and to be honest with you most of them are pure dribble.  If you really want an exciting idea to seduce him then please just keep reading.

One of the best ways you can get him aroused is to tell him.  Yes I actually mean going up to your boyfriend/husband whatever he may be and actually telling him that you want to have sex.  You know there really is nothing more seductive that your girlfriend/wife coming up to you and saying:

“Honey, I’m horny can you help me out?”

This is such a powerful seduction tool and one that everyman wishes was used more often.  If you want to seduce a man then he has to know you want him and what better way than to tell him.  You just walk up to us and tell us that you want us and that’s all you need to do.  No matter what time of the day or night it is, wow this really is mind blowing.  To know that you want us, to know that we make you feel horny, it really is everyman’s fantasy.  Of course the reaction you will get is instant too and Peter as I like to call him will respond instantly.  You know he is always ready for action.

Ladies are always asking how to get him aroused and they envisage scenes where they have to dress in sexy lingerie, do a stripteases, clean the house naked……and yes these are all really great ideas to seduce us but you don’t even have to make it that difficult on yourself.  All you have to do is ask and tell.

Think of it like school when you had show and tell only this time you are showing and telling your partner what you want to do to get him aroused.  Here’s a sample scenario:

Your other half is sitting watching TV.
You come into the room acting normal.
You sit down beside him and either whisper in his ear that you are feeling horny and want to rip his clothes off, or, you can just tell him out loud that you are feeling horny and would he like to help you to rectify the situation.

From here you can do pretty much whatever you like because believe me once he knows that you want him he is going to be willing to do whatever you want.

Whilst this might not sound to women like the most exciting idea to seduce him and believe me from a man’s perspective this works and it really is an excellent way to get him aroused.

As for stripteases, naked house cleaning, a role play, don’t rule these out because these are some pretty great ways to seduce and arouse us too.

So ladies today’s homework is to tell your man that you want him and what you are going to do and I expect to see your feedback in the comments section here tomorrow.

Until next time,

Let’s show and tell

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The Number 1 Sex Position For Men Revealed

This is one question that I get all the time.  It usually goes something like:

“I really want to have better sex with my partner, what sex position do men enjoy best?”

Or

“Is it true that doggy style is a man’s favourite sex position?

Well for all you ladies out there going on all fours thinking that you are giving your man exactly what he wants I am here to disappoint you.  It’s not that we don’t enjoy the doggy style position, of course we do but there is another sex position that tops this in terms of male satisfaction.

Want to know what it is?

Believe it or not, it’s actually the woman on top.  Congratulations to all you ladies out there who got this right and for the rest of you, keep reading to see why.

So you all know what the woman on top position is but the sad fact is that so many of you women are so paranoid and hung up about your bodies that you don’t do it often enough.  If you want to have better sex with your man then it really is time to lighten up.

So woman on top.  Well it’s like this, it’s not very often that us guys get to lie back and really enjoy the pleasure of having you take control.  Having you writhing your hips on top of us, maybe even leaning over and holding our arms (or tying them) over our head so that we can’t touch you or move.  Having you in full control, letting you set the pace and of course being able to have your delicious breasts hanging in front of our faces.

Oh yes, this really is pure bliss.

Sadly it doesn’t happen often enough.

I remember asking a number of my exs why they weren’t up for the woman on top position more often.  You won’t believe the excuses I got.

“I don’t want you to see my flabby stomach.”

“I don’t like the way my boobs wobble.”

“I don’t want you to see me.”

Such pathetic excuses ladies.  Let me set your straight on a few things.  We don’t care if you have a flabby stomach, it’s the last thing we are going to be looking at or even thinking about while you’re on top of us.  As for your boobs wobbling, this one really makes me laugh.  If only you could realize just how turned on we get watching your boobs as you call them bobbing up and down in front of our faces as you trash back and forth on top of us.  Oh just lean forward and let us nibble on them would you.

Let’s face it ladies, we aren’t looking at your bodily imperfections, we’re focused on what is happening and you should be too.  We are engrossed in the pleasure we are receiving and you are the one giving it to us.  We love having you take control and putting us in our place.  We love the feeling of you sitting on top of us, controlling how far inside you we can get, we really really do.

So if it’s better sex you want and a sex position that is going to work for you then ladies, start putting more of the woman on top position on your sex calendar.  I’m sure after a few minutes you’ll forget all about your body too, well except for the parts that are going to be exploding with pleasure.

Until next time,

Ride Em Cowboy

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Are You In Kneed Of Some Foreplay Tips?

If you think that it’s just you women who need foreplay then let me set the record straight.  Men enjoy foreplay too you know and coming from a man I can tell you that there is nothing nicer every now and then than a woman taking the initiative and controlling the sex situation.  This post today is going to give you ladies some foreplay tips and techniques that you can use.

Most women assume that us men get turned on at just the idea of sex and yes 99% of the time you are right but sometimes it really is nice to have you turn us on too and I don’t mean that you have to do a lap dance, mind you the idea of this is rather exciting too…..but I’m getting a little off track here.  What I want to take about today is some foreplay techniques that even the shyest of women can.

I’m going to call this foreplay tip the Kneeding – as in needing some foreplay and using your knees.  Get it!

So let’s get to it:

Foreplay ideas can be a simple as you like but for this one I want to take things slow, get things going, and show you just how easy it is for a woman to induce one hell of a hard on and ladies you don’t have to take your clothes off, wear stockings, of pull out your vibrator, but if you want to then that’s fine too.

With Kneeding (this is what I am going to refer to this foreplay tip as) all you need is a chair, sofa, whatever as long as you can both sit down.

I suggest waiting for a time when your male counterpart will be least suspecting so try this when he is watching TV or just chilling out on the sofa.  This way you will know my technique works.  What I want you to do is go into the room where he is and just sit very casually on his knee with your arm around his neck.  If he asks what you are doing just say oh nothing just thought you might fancy some playtime.  Watch his reaction, I guarantee you he will give you his full attention.

Next start gently but slowly grinding against his crotch with your ass and watch the smile spread across his face.  You can start kissing his neck too if you like because us men really do love the sensation of having our necks kissed too It’s not all about our Peter you know.

Once you have my (sorry I mean his) attention you can start getting more aggressive with your grinding especially once you feel his hardon starting to bulge in his trousers.  It won’t take long but stay with it and keep things as slow as possible.  If he starts to get anxious you can just whisper softly in his ear and tell him to relax and enjoy himself.  This will really turn him on.  Telling him what you plan on doing and how naughty you are going to be is a great turn on too one of the best foreplay ideas I could give you.  Us men love visuals and if you tell us what to expect…..well you don’t need me to tell just try it and see.

You might want to get on your knees at this stage and start working on his now really bulging hardon at this point but make sure you do it through his pants…you don’t want to rush things.  Start grabbing and massaging his hardon with your hands and remember to keep up the grinding action too.  You should of course be feeling very turned on yourself now at this stage but resist the urge to rip your clothes of just yet.  Maybe removing your top so that you man can get in on the action by playing with your boobs but keep the bottom half covered until you are sure that he is fully hard.  You’ll know when because we can’t stand to have a full hardon trapped in your pants.

When he starts squirming and getting uncomfortable then you can unzip his pants and slowly let his crushed and throbbing Peter out to play.  You really do need to make a big deal out of this part and be sure to take your time when releasing him.  A few ummm noises wouldn’t hurt either as you place your hand around his throbbing member.  Remember for men it’s all about audio and visual.

So by now you are both probably dying to get down to it and if you are both ready then by all means just go for it.  Don’t under any circumstance stop things so that you can go upstairs, stay right where you are.  Some women can work wonders with foreplay but then stop everything while they move the action upstairs.  If you are one of these then I need to let you in on a little secret – STOP doing this because you are ruining the pleasure, we don’t want to stop, we don’t want to move rooms to have sex, if you are going to start things on the sofa, then finish them there too.

As far as foreplay tips go, us men really don’t mind what you do once you make the effort and you instigate things.  Having a woman start playing with us and instigating things when it comes to sex is one of the biggest turn ons ever and you don’t even have to take your clothes off to do this, well not at the beginning anyway.

Well that’s it for my Kneeding foreplay tip but don’t worry I’ll be back with a hell of a lot more and next time I’m going to tell you what the best sex position is and how you can have better sex with your man.

Until then,

Get Kneeding Ladies

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