Everything Men Know About Women

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A bit of fun. Obviously, a bit of an exaggeration but…almost true. If you want to know how to understand your man start with understanding that he may not really understand women, so be a bit gentle on the poor guy, OK?

I wish I could claim this idea as my own but it was inspire by a novelty book I saw years ago by the same title by Alan Francis.

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All my husband wants is sex!

“Help! All my husband wants is sex.”

Woa, woa! OK, let’s clarify a few things, shall we?

1) What do you mean by all he wants is sex?

He doesn’t want anything else from you? You mean he won’t talk, sit and watch a show, have a meal, entertain, visit with friends or family or read beside you in bed?

Do you literally mean he sees you, immediately tries to bend you over a chair and mount you…Every time?

I mean, if you have NO communication or interaction with him other than sex — then maybe you have something to be concerned about. But, I get the feeling you may be exaggerating.

2) How often does he want sex?

Be specific…how often does he ask, approach or initiate sex?

The majority of men in my sex survey said they wanted sex 4-6 times a week. How often do they actually have it? Zero to 1 time per week.

Yikes! According to that survey, there are a lot of sexually unsatisfied married guys out there, aren’t there?

Maybe that statistic will give you some sexual perspective.

3) How often do you actually have sex?

Are you having sex more less than 5x per week?

For most married couples, having sex 5x per week would be active but not excessive or unhealthy.

I would agree that 3x a day, every day would be hard to sustain long term…especially if you had kids.

4) What is the real issue here? How is this effecting your life negatively?

Is sex preventing you from doing something else you really want to do? I get that, if you’re a real task oriented person.

Are you not attracted to him? That could be a problem.

Do you feel unattractive? That is very common and something that’s within your power to change. Learn to love yourself and/or work on the issues that contribute to making you feel unattractive.

HINT: All of us have something about ourselves we don’t like. Don’t let it ruin your relationship.

Are you attracted to someone else?

Do you have in your head a maximum sex sessions per week…”anything else is dirty, slutty, unnecessary etc..” belief? Look into that.

5) Why don’t you take it as a compliment?

It could be worse, right?

Some women who are reading this right now would gladly have your problem. They’re asking themselves why…

“My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me” and “Why doesn’t my boyfriend want sex with me?”

Apparently your husband finds you sexually attractive. Isn’t that why you got married? Why don’t you try reframing it as a compliment?

6) Amount or time?

What is it you don’t like about sex with your husband…

a) the amount of times per week? or

b) the time each session?

If every sexual encounter turns into a marathon I can see how that would be burdensome. Just tell him you like quickies and give him permission to set ‘marathon man’ aside.

Hey, I’m not ruling out that your husband may be a sex addict or that he doesn’t know how to relate to you in non-physical ways.  But I’m also not ruling out that he loves you, is attracted to you, finds you irresistible and that you may be exaggerating a tiny bit.

I’m also not ruling out that you don’t like sex or that he’s awful in bed (I have to fair, don’t I?)

But, thanks for asking for help.

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Guest Writers OR No?

In the recent past I welcomed an enthusiastic, passionate amateur guest writer. Brave, brave Lucy stepped up, wrote an article and took a bit of a stomping comment wise. (Welcome to my world)

I don’t pretend to have all the answers, just an Alpha Male view and some experience. I would love to facilitate

Being a guest contributor could be a great opportunity for some budding writers, experts or passionate individuals. Why not tap into the ‘wisdom of crowds’

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• Men or women?
• Sex or relationship?
• Q & A
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Where have all the men gone?

Where have all the real men gone?

A friend of mine was complaining about how hard it was to meet a decent man these days (not only a good man, just a decent one).

After schooling her on some classic dating mistakes (refer to the article ‘Is technology destroying your love life?‘) I found myself empathizing with her.

This rant was inspired by all the guys I see walking paris Hilton’s dog, drinking a low fat caramel cappuccino, wearing $400 jeans, too many rings, have a shaved chest, no stubble on their face, texting on their phone to 4 different women while blubbering to his friend about how this girl he’s dating doesn’t respect him and treats him like a doormat.

This is a rant about men…

In my opinion, today single men are either totally clued out or have taken the metro-sexual thing way too far. To me, a lot of men seem much less manly today, don’t they?

An Alpha Male’s Understanding of Real Men

A real man respects women and doesn’t treat them as a conquest.

Men approach women. They don’t smile and sit there waiting for women to make a move. Yes, we get shot down sometimes. Yes it stings but that’s part of being a man.

Real men only go out with women they can be proud of.

A real man isn’t just concerned with “getting off.” He enjoys pleasuring his woman as much as getting off.

Men don’t over groom. Yes, dress well, manscape if you’re overgrown but if a man shouldn’t have more than 2 salon/spa appoiments a month or take longer than 10 min to get ready.

Men don’t walk their girlfriend’s dog.

Real men don’t walk Paris Hilton, tiny teacup type dogs. Here’s a tip – if your dog can be leashed with dental floss its not a pet – its bait! Come on, get a man dog! (Dog lovers let this one slide,OK? I’m just tired of the small dog fad…especially with men)

Question: What’s the male version of Paris Hilton?

Men spend time with other real men. Meeting his male friends will tell you a lot about him.

Real men don’t over text message or facebook – they know how to speak and use a phone.

A real man doesn’t string women along and doesn’t get hung up on a woman that’s not good for him. He knows what he wants in a woman, will date her to find out if she’s the one and be man enough to admit she’s not his type, tell her and move on. This is hard, it stings but mature and very fair.

Guys, if you’re just not into her, TELL HER. No hard feelings. Don’t string her along.

A man wants a woman like his dear mother. (Weird but true)

A real man wants to be a provider, treats a woman, but appreciates it when a woman reciprocates or sincerely attempts to pay from time to time.

Men don’t drink fruity, slushy, colourful belini drinks. (I drink single malt scotch and beer)

A real man isn’t afraid to break a sweat or get a little dirty. AKA a real man doesn’t get manicures and pedicures. Come on, guys!

A real man knows how to hit the toilet and not make a mess when he urinates. IF not, he’s got no dick control or just in inconsiderate pig!

A real man’s career is a high priority because he wants to be a provider for his family.

Man up, guys!

Once men start acting like men again (an ladies like ladies) I feel the world will get back into balance and back to normal.

(Feeeewwww! That feels better) As always I’d love to read your comments.

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Attract a Man, Be a Lady

Looking for the article “Where have all the REAL men gone?”

Whether you want to attract a man or just be more attractive to your man this tip is for you.

When I was in college they showed us a video in psychology class of a boy playing with a ball.

When the it was over the professor asked the class how man had seen the woman in the video.

The women in the class laughed and looked at the prof like he had 2 heads. But their laughter quickly died down when they saw that 85% of the guys had their hands in the air.

As the boy was playing a ghost like female figure appeared in the video slowly walking from the right side of screen to the left. Although faint she immediately caught my eye and apparently the majority of the other men in the class.

Why had the men in class seen the female apparition in the video and not the women? Primal nature…we couldn’t help ourselves.

Did you know that frogs can’t see a fly if it doesn’t move? For a frog to see it and recognize it as food the fly has to buzz around and act like a fly.

The male brain is hardwired to recognize and size-up female mates. Because there is competition from other males our brains need to be sharp, tuned and fast.

The male brain is hardwired to notice woman …it’s primal

Woa! Don’t worry, ladies. Just because a man’s attention is momentarily caught by a woman doesn’t men he wants to sprint over to her and mount-up and start a family, so relax. It’s simply a primal knee jerk reaction.

What can you learn from the ghost lady and the frog and the fly? NO, that that women are food or men are animals…well, some are animals. But simply, if you are interested in attracting a man, attract men or want your man to be more attracted to you…act like a lady. (This goes back to the article on the ways of Geisha & maximizing your femininity.)

To attract a man you you need to ‘act’ like a lady and maximizing your femininity triggers the primal recording in his head that’s been wired into him for 1000’s of years.

That means:

• Dress like a lady
• Wear your makeup and hair like a lady
• Walk like a lady
• Talk like a lady
• Smell like a lady
• Think like a lady (But smart enough to understand men)
• Maintain feminine body proportions. (Men are wired for to be attracted to specific body dimensions (more about this an a future article)
• Love your femininity

If you don’t know how to do 1 or more of the above here’s a hint. The woman with the MOST amount of feminine characteristics in the room wins the most amount  male attention.

This may explain why women seem to be more interested in competing with each other than focusing on the men they want to attract. Case in point – womens’ obsession with shoes and purses. Men REALLY don’t care about these things. So ask yourself who you’re trying to impress because it’s not us, ladies.

If you want to be the hardest drinking, smoking, swearing, dominant woman in the room who can lift any man over your head and only dress  for comfort that’s a personal choice. BUT don’t blame men if they aren’t showing you the love.  Blame 1000’s of years of conditioning.

As always I’d love to read your questions and feedback.

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Is Porn Natural?

Is Porn Natural or Just a Human Phenomena?

A Duke University study revealed that some people’s attraction to porn may not be solely a human thing.

In the study, monkeys who were given a choice between their favorite fruit juice and pictures of the behinds of female monkeys…turned down the juice for the pictures.

Male monkeys turn down favorite juice for naughty pictures of female monkeys

Maybe we shouldn’t be so quick to condemn or judge people who watch pornography. After all, monkeys made me do it.

Bad monkey!

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Bleaching Your Backdoor

Brighten up with anal bleaching

Q: What is anal bleaching and should I be doing it?

Anal bleaching or ‘anal brightening‘ is the practice of using a gentle cosmetic bleach on your anus to reduce the brown contrast – otherwise referred to as the ‘chocolate starfish.’ The practice of anal bleaching was popularized by female porn stars.

My guess is some porn stars where sitting around thinking…

“I’ve got my lips, hair and breasts done. I’ve got a Brazilian…what other primping can I do with my time?”

Anal bleaching in adult video is an attempt to make an anus more attractive on camera.

“Is her ass ready for it’s close up? Lights, camera, action!”

Now, don’t freak out or feel self-conscious that you have yet one more beauty task to add to your routine. Do men even like it?

The practice of anal bleaching was popularized by female porn stars

Alpha Male Man Answer

Your question at this point may be “What do men think about anal bleaching?”

Do I, a man, think you should bleach your anus?

If you’re ass is on camera or in front of a group of people enough that the colour of your anus is a concern and your competing against other pinker anuses, OK sure brightening it is probably a good idea. In this case YES.

Anal bleaching

In most cases I’d so NO it’s not necessary. Listen, I’ve cringed at the amount of pubic hair, recoiled from her aroma, even questioned the size of her panties BUT I’ve never been with a woman and said, “Dude, her asshole was sooooo brown!”

Truthfully, it’s not something most men obsess about. Men are usually quite honored to get the bird’s eye view of your butt and too busy

Would it be a hot, fun little treat…hmmm…I’d personally say YES but I’m an ass man.

If you’re getting Brazilian waxes or wax your bikini line already the girl will usually ask you if you’d like anal bleaching as ’side order.’ They use a gently cosmetic skin bleach. There are also consumer products you can use at home.

Don’t try this at home by cracking a bottle of Clorox and start splashing bleach on your backdoor or you’re going to get a nasty burn.

Bottom line LOL as a man and an ass man I’m more interested in the ‘package’ around her anus.

(I’m not in the business of taking anal bleaching photos otherwise I’d show you examples. The results are quite nice.)

What do you think? As always, I love reading your comments.

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Understanding Your Man Facts on Twitter…Win Prize

“Man Facts on Twitter”

If you like convenience of text messaging, you’ll love Twitter…a micro-blog that anyone can signup and use in 5 min flat.

Initially, I thought this was a total waste of time despite my affection for mobile text messages. But I found it a perfect use as a news stream that keeps me updated in real-time. I simply ‘follow’ industry websites, pundits, financial gurus, entertainers, products (like Apple’s iPhone) and Twitter displays a live, scrolling news feed.

(BTW anyone can use Twitter, totally free, to tell the world what they feel is important…from politics, celebrity gossip to your passion for unicorns)

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Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha – 12 Highlights

by Kim Conant

Great title and creative angle … but, what I liked most about Geisha is that it was surprising bang on the money!  She echoes most of my own beliefs about healthy sex and relationships.

As a man, I can’t argue with too much of what she’s teaching. All I can say is…her man, Mr. Conant, must be very happy.

Feminist will NOT like this book. It can easily be misunderstood as being submissive to your man and giving away your power. I disagree. I think it’s more about building power by building up your femininity.

1) Develop the Geisha Mindset

Yin is feminine energy. Yang is masculine.

Men love and are attracted to the opposite Yin feminine energy. Therefor to be Geisha is the expertly develop your Yin or feminine side. Yang is attracted in Yin.

But some people make the mistake of trying to force, manipulate or mold their lover into being the ‘way they want.’ Geishas understand it is much better to ‘inspire’ using her personality, kindness, beauty and femininity to treat her like a worshiped woman.

Ah ha! This could be the reason some men fall all over themselves for some women and not others….some are overtly more feminine than others….and are expert at displaying it.

2) Stay sexy, feminine and beautiful

Above all do what is required to be and stay your feminine best and ladylike.

Although Kim discusses strategies for smart eating, weight loss and keeping ‘fit’ she says it is not necessary to be ‘thin’ to be feminine.

Bottom line…want to attract a/your man you need to cultivate and develop your femininity.

ie. ‘Build it and men will come!’

3) Give all credit for your orgasms to your man.

I’ll give Kim credit, she knows men. She’s right on the money with this one and I’ve mentioned it often. She realizes its important to do this because nothing boosts a man’s ego more than truly pleasing his woman.

If you claim all the credit for your orgasm you can damage his already delicate male ego. It’s such a small thing to ask to make a man happy. Give him the credit! Why not? You already got the orgasm…do your really need the credit, too?

4) Enthusiasm

Basically, if his enthusiasm for sex is unmatched (and visa versa) there will likely be problems. Match his enthusiasm. If your man senses an lack of real enthusiasm or passion in the bedroom he’ll likely translate it as ‘you’re just not into him.’

5) Discover your g-spot (if you haven’t already) & learn female ejaculation (squirting)

Kim knows how to squirt. She goes into great detail about her own female ejaculation, how wonderful it is, how much men enjoy it and how it was desirable even in ancient times BUT doesn’t get into detail about how to squirt.

6) Ancient Sex Advice About Pubic Hair

Su Nu, one of at least 3 sex advisors to Chinese emporer Huang Ti in 2678 bc ( it’s good to be king) advised that the desirable female lover has a hairless Venus (vagina). So I guess mowing the front lawn is not as new as I thought.

She also suggest to look at your vagina and be proud of it. (She actually uses the C word. Geez!)

7) Use Toys But…

Kim empowers women to own their pleasure and orgasms. She is is a big advocate of watching adult videos (she even says ‘the kind without stories’)  and sex toys. BUT again, just because you got a battery operated assist you still need to give him all the credit for your orgasm.

4 Characteristics of a Good Man

1. He has good values
2. He is aware, conscious and responsible. (I hope so, especially #2 lol)
3. He’s nice and supportive of you
4. Positive optimistic and happy.

Make a list of what each characteristic and specifically what it means to you.

Key: Pay attention to what you does NOT what he says

Be on the lookout for this man, always. When dating Discover if he has these things ASAP…before wasting time, money, energy and reputation on him.

Reputation…I’d agree that I’ve lost interest in a few women after learning about a past love interest. “She went out with that douche bag? Gross!”

9) Single Ladies: Speak up for your need to get married.

Take it from a guy…men will delay getting married (if you let him get away with it) for as long as he can unless you apply at least a little bit of pressure.

Kim suggests telling him you expect to be married within 12-18 months and he should be ready to propose 2 months of your suggestion OR he’s not a good man, ready to commit or dragging his feet. Either way you deserve his commitment.

10) Sex Before Marriage

Kim is OK with sex before marriage BUT not without commitment.

She explains that Geisha are primarily for companionship not sex. In fact, sex is bad for business. If a Geisha sleeps around with any and all clients, especially some of ’social lower status’ it lowers her worth. She must therefor save the privilege of sex for the 1 client with the ‘highest status.’ Other men may pursue but never achieve the prize if she wants to stay in business long-term.

Geisha lesson for women who want to get a guy to commit to her…HOLD OUT and make him work for it, prove himself with his actions and pursue.

How long? She suggests waiting several weeks or months. (I’d agree that would weed out most guys looking to just get their rocks off with you)

She also emphasized, wisely, that don’t get commitment in the heat of the moment ie. when his pants are around his ankles and he’s throbbing. “Do you love me and promise to marry me?”

Kim says…“you definitely want to avoid having sex at any time with any man who is not a Good Man”

…doing so will increase your social ’stature’ to other ‘Good Men’

11) His Greatest Fear is that you’ll change after you get married

I don’t think I need to explain this one. You likely have the same fear about your man.

12) Be Different And Better than other women

I know a woman who’s goal it is to always to be the most feminine and beautiful woman in the room for her man. Great goal…takes hard work and determination but good goal. I believe men and women have the ability to age like a fine wine or scotch.

‘Create a Shrine To His Cock’ – LOL!

OK, frankly, I think this is kind of overboard and I’m not on board with this suggestion of Kim’s.She suggests to literally ‘build a shrine’ with photos and candles.

Yikes! I hope her worship doesn’t involve blood sacrifice. I don’t think I’d like to wake up looking at my own personal cock shrine.

What I think she’s getting at is learn to love HIS cock and express it to him.

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Kim has some great ideas on eating, grooming, beauty and personal development that I confess to just glancing over.

Kim also has guidelines for men too like wearing his wedding ring 24/7, let her spend time with her girlfriends and doing chores to name a few.

[Editor Jay Archer: As always I welcome and look forward to your feedback below]

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Who Wants To Have Cock Tales?

I’m curious, who is interested in getting to together for ‘Cock Tales?’

NO, this is not some indecent proposal. Let me explain…

A seminar for woman only?

1. I was going to hold a seminar for women only on ‘Building Sexual Confidence‘ but felt it was a bit dry.

2. Then I thought, what about making it a fun evening for women only?

3. Then, someone suggested I combine the idea. SO, What about this…?

- Cocktails and wine
- Decadent chocolate
- Massages, manicures etc..
- Prizes, swag bags and lots of free stuff
- Fun games
- OH, let’s not forget Expert talks and presentations on strategies to ‘Build Sexual Confidence’ affectionately dubbed (by yours truly) ‘Cock Tales‘

Concept: The idea is more of a ladies night out, meets spa party, meets seminar, meets naughty Oprah.

Where: Beautiful Vancouver, BC, Canada

When: Early to mid July on a weekday evening.

I realize you live all over the world and may not have the opportunity to come and I’m very sorry.

Who’s In? By a show of  ‘comments’, below…

1. Is this a stupid idea?
2. Would you like to attend?
3. Will you try to attend?
4. Suggestions?

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My Man Loves It When I…

Ladies, start your keyboards! Share a tip on how to satisfy your man

Why?

1. Based on some of the comments I’ve read there are some pretty knowledgeable lovers among us.
2. Sharing tips is fun, isn’t it?

How to Satisfy Your Man?

How? Finish this sentence… “My man loves it when I…”

Now, let ‘er rip!

Remember to come back and feel free to comment on tips.

[Editor: I will do my best to stay on top of comments and put my Alpha Male seal of approval on deserving tips. To ALL contributors - thanks in advance]

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Is Technology Hurting Your Love Life?

I’ve been hearing these kinds of comments from single people more and more recently:

“He won’t friend me on facebook”

“She is still friends with with her ex on facebook!?”

“We have been texting back and forth for 3 weeks now. I can’t understand why it hasn’t gone to the next level”

These are comments you’d expect from teenagers NOT your lawyer friend, aren’t they?

Technology, especially social media, are seductive forms of communication without really connecting with someone. Facebook and text messaging are just electronic flirting. And it’s all BS!

People measure and judge their popularity by the amount of people who have Facebook ‘friended’ them. They measure how much they’re loved by the number of messages they receive both on Facebook and mobile.

It’s disturbing when I go out in the evening and see beautiful women, dressed to kill, sitting in groups of other beautiful women, faces down starring into glowing mobiles sending and receiving messages. All the while neglecting the chance to make real connections with flesh and blood standing all around them. Then, they complain about how they can’t find anyone.

Gaaaaaaaaa! Sorry, I’m choking on irony.

Facebook and texting are are just ways to give yourself a false sense of popularity and feel loved.   (Yikes! That’s going to sting for some ladies reading this). They require:

1. No courage

How much courage aka ‘balls’ does it take to text a woman versus call to ask her out?

2. No Skill

How much easier is it to juggle several women/men versus arrange to meet, have an engaging conversation and really get to know someone?

3. No Commitment

It’s easy for you or him to juggle multiple interested parties without really committing with today’s technology, isn’t it? You can admit it.

Where’s the chivalry?

How will you get engaged to be married or at least have a deep, meaningful relationship if you don’t truthfully engage with people?

Nobody wants to be in a relationship with your avatar! (Avatar = An electronic likeness of you)

Get Some Standards

This is the advice I gave to a friend.

I’d draw a firm line in the sand and drop anyone who is not willing to accept your line. Be strong, committed and expect resistance.

1. Long Text Messages

Text messages longer than “I’ll be 10 min late” or “I had a wonderful time last night. xoxo” require both of you to pick up the phone. If he wants a conversation he has to call you.

Text him that reply to his long winded text messages.

BTW, if he’s not willing to talk to you on the phone he’s probably texting and juggling several women at once.

2. No getting to know you over email or facebook.

If he wants to know all about you you need to meet in person – unless he has a good excuse like being in prison or living on the other side of the world. So keep the phone conversations short and sweet, arrange to meet in person, if you discover after a few dates he’s he’s not the one – DROP HIM politely and move on.

I mean, come on, if you are considering having sex with someone, have their children or would you make that decision based on the quality of their messages? You have to meet in person.

Develop some standards, draw a hard line in the sand AND stick to it! Trust me, your status as a single woman and quality of your relationships depend on it.

And if nothing else you will be a strong, rare women amongst a flock of texting sheep.

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The Joys Of Gagging?

I often get asked Q: “How do I stop gagging during blow jobs?”

Sometimes I reply “Why would you want to?” Let me explain…

‘Gagging’ Definition - when the head of his penis triggers your gag reflex during oral sex – causing one to make the sound ‘gaaaa.’

Ironically, to men gagging is a compliment. Like belching after a meal is a compliment to the host or cook is in some cultures. (OK…gross analogy. Sorry)

Is it juvenile? YES. Does it feel good for our stupid male ego? Yes. It’s like saying “Wow! Your cock is so big! I can’t take it!” Actions speak louder than words, don’t they?

No, gagging is not the most pleasant thing or the most comfortable. In fact it’s kind of counter intuitive that something normally associated with something disgusting or being sick can be a compliment.

Am I saying men want you to gag or you should gag? NO! I’m simply hoping to ease your anxiety or embarrassment about it. Hey, gagging happens! Don’t worry. Men understand and it’s kind of cute. Just be mindful to not let gagging get in the way of being enthusiastic about oral sex, OK?

You may want to give a deepthroat blow job and that skill can be learned. Absolutely! (Let me tell you, there is nothing quite like a good deep throat)  But for now, until you can master the deep throat just work it into your routine…Look up at him with your teary, doe eyes and say “It’s so big.”

To a man that phrase is like standing on a podium in front of an audience, accepting an award and flash bulbs are going off all around!

by an Alpha Male – Jay Archer
Master Your Man.com

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Wax, Trim or Bikini Shave – A Man’s View

Do men prefer an unshaved or bare kitty?

(Actually, I like the nickname ‘bunny’ because…come to think of it, I don’t know why. It must have been something I came up with in a moment of passion. LOL)

I can tell you from my personal male experience, there is a moment of sheer terror when removing a woman’s panties just thinking about the possibility that I could be going down a road and come across a big mess of hairy…roadkill. (The opposite of that adorable, cute, pink bunny)

Every man I’ve ever discussed this with agrees we all do a silent prayer at the pantie removal moment of truth…

Please shave bikini line. Please be shaved. Please be shaved. SHAVE!

Do I like a women to have a 100% clean and bare kitty ? Yes.

Is it critical to me to have 100% biking hair removal? NO. I’m a big fan of bikini shaving a landing strip about 1 or 2 finger widths – but shaved or waxed on both sides and underneath.

Do I prefer bikini shaving or waxing? Personally, I’m not picky. I appreciate a Brazilian wax is not the most pleasant experience since I’ve been on the receiving end. But, every man can appreciate a freshly waxed kitty that’s ripe to be pet, love and dined on.

Bottom line (pardon the pun) no guy I know enjoys a hair salad. Listed from Hot=1 to Not=4:

1. Brazilian
2. Landing Strip (shaved or waxed)
3. 100% Shaved
4. Trimmed short
5. Oh Natural

When your kitty is 100% bare it looks great, it feels greatduring oral and sex. If you’ve never done it you’ll notice you’ll feel more ‘wet’ during sex. This could be a subtle little trick to up the passion because us stupid men think ‘more wet’ means more excited – and that makes us feel more…manly.

“Look! Me do that. Me big man.” [beating chest]

It also shows you care about the little details and you went the extra mile just for us. That’s hot!

Don’t believe me? Ask some men what they think.

To men, it doesn’t really matter what hair removal system or method you use. Try different bikini hair removal systems and see what works for you, but keep your kitty pretty.

Isn’t it ironic, the bikini hair removal style men most like is also the most difficulty or uncomfortable to achieve?

For the record – I think men should show the same courtesy and manscape their front lawn, too. It’s just polite.

TIP: I find shaving my face in a hot shower gives me the best shave.

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Hey, I just came up with a clever slogan…

When you’re bare – it shows you care.

A man’s view by an Alpha Male

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Mars and Venus In The Bedroom – Book Highlights

by John Gray, PhD

If I had to summarize this book – in a nutshell it would be 1. Men and women are different so 2. only when you strive to understand how the other sex is different and either get over your misunderstandings OR work around their ‘being different’ can you achieve a fulfilling sex life and loving relationship.

With day-to-day life survival taking precedence over relationship men forget their feelings and women forget their sensual longings.

A secret of great sex is for the man to slowly tease his woman into a state of hightened arousal.

Men need sex to feel. Women like to talk about feelings – men experience feelings through sex.

Sexual confidence is the absolute ultimate turn-on.

* A woman’s greatest ability to please her husband or fulfill a man is through helping him be successful in fulfilling her. (Archer:: So assist him in achieving his goal!)

a good male lover puts her orgasm first before his.

As a relationship goes on some men forget it was the slower approach that help her reach maximum arousal.

What makes sex fulfilling for a man is a woman’s fulfillment. (Archer: Ladies, the best thing you could do for your sex life is to relax and learn to become more orgasmic)

Quickies – have them.

Men who feel repeatedly rejected – begin to have wandering eyes. (Not that they’ll actually cheat)

To maintain passion and attraction men need CLEAR messages that she loves and enjoys sex with him.

#1 Reason couple having less sex…men feel rejected and women don’t feel romanced & understood.

#1 Reason men have affairs is they don’t understand they have the ability to reawaken their partners sexuality.

Generally, a loving relationship comes first BUT sometimes a exceptional sex life can reignite your relationship.

When a woman initiates sex in an indirect manner, she ensures that her partner can find his masculine side that desires her and seeks to pursue her.

** To keep a man attracted to her, a woman does not need to compete with the fantasy woman of the media and strive to create a perfect body. Instead, she needs to work toward communicating positive and nonrejecting messages about sex.

A woman can better understand a man’s sexual sensitivities about feelings, communication, and intimacy.

Just as great communication opens a woman up to enjoy great sex, the possibility of great sex directly helps a man to be more loving in a relationship.

Because a man cannot fake his arousal as a woman can, he feels a greater pressure to perform.

Take responsibility for your own pleasure. (This is a profound statement)

Predictability is a turn-off. Shift rhythms and movements

Jay Archer: Is ‘Mars and Venus in the Bedroom‘ by John Gray worth the read? Maybe. I personally think it would be helpful to include more detailed techniques and ‘how-to’ – but it is easy to read and insightful.

As always – I love your feedback so keep it coming.

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How To Make Your Man Jealous

It’s no secret that a jealous man will do anything to please you so today’s post is all about how to make your man jealous. A word of caution first for all you ladies that think the only way to make a man jealous is to flirt and be with other men.  This is the wrong thing to do and if this was your initial though then keep reading.

If you want to build a good relationship with your man then don’t try to make him jealous by being with other men.  This only shows that you are insecure and an insecure or needy woman is enough to drive any man away.

There are 3 things I am going to share with you in this post that will show you how to make your man jealous in a good way and if you do this correctly you should be having steamy passionate sex in no time.

The first thing that I have to point out is that to men jealousy is ugly and it is a sign of insecurity and very unattractive so you have to be a little bit sneaky on this one.  I am going to give you a couple of tips on how to make your man jealous without being unattractive.

The key to this is to have fun and enjoy yourself.  Men love women who have fun and let’s face it, attractive energy is attracting and if you can do this properly you will be able to lure him in with your energy.

So what’s the main thing that you need to do ladies?  First off the whole point of making your man jealous is so that he will want you even more and the best way that I know for you to do this is through pleasure.  Yes pleasure.

Here’s what I want you to try and be sure to come back and let me know how you get on too.  This is really simple and you are going to have fun too.  You all know how to please yourselves right?  Well what I want you to do is please yourself and have fun doing it.  You can do it alone or in front of him if you prefer.  Actually it is probably best if you do it with the door open.  What you want to show him is that you are having fun and getting pleasure but that he is welcome to join you if he wants.  No man can resist believe me.  There is nothing that makes a man more jealous than knowing that you can have all the pleasure you want without him.

You might like to say that you are going up to relax in the bath and say forget your towel or something.  You can call down to him to bring your towel in from the bedroom and purposely have a vibrator sitting on top of the towel.  When he brings in your towel you could already be pleasing yourself….

There are plenty of scenarios that you can use for this one but the main thing is that he knows that you are getting pleasure without him. This is going to make your man jealous and he will want to join in believe me.

[OK, let me know how you get on with this little experiment and how it improves your sex life - Comment below, please]

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A Unique Way To Please Your Man

Editor Archer: Lucy, a lovely reader emailed me …

[Editor Jay Archer: 1. This is Lucy's 1st article. She chose the topic and I haven't edited a word. (Yikes - this should stir interesting reactions) Please give her feedback, below]

PLEASE DON’T SHOOT THE MESSENGER … ie. ME! As always, your valuable feedback, comments and ratings will guide future content. Thank you all.

Guest Article by Lucy

There are many unusual activities to please a man…

…Stand at the door naked with just on your high-heels to welcome him when he comes back at home, put on a sexy dress without undies when he takes you out for dinner or some party, allow him to kiss you and touch your private parts in public, have an energetic sex on bed, give an intimate blowjob, swallow his cum, etc. Besides these, the most intensified way to please him is “Cum-facial”.

Everyone knows that men love to cum on a girl’s pretty face – and why not? Cumfacial is an enjoyable activity for both. It is a demand of a man and a desire of a woman. Most of the girls like the feeling of cum on their face. And it’s only on girls’ hand to make it look good. You just need to make a little effort to please him with Cum-facial.

Follow these guidelines to make it effective and beautiful:

1. Cumfacial looks good only on beautiful faces. So, each girl must do some make-up and beautify herself before attempting it. Put on a red or pink coloured lipstick, long earrings, darken your eye-lashes, hair open or a nice bun and use bronzers (if necessary).

2. Usually guys prefer to shoot their load on a bare body, but a nice sexy black dress is a turn on – especially when he notice the stains of his cum later.

2. Most important part – position – you must be in a correct pose when he shoots. There are three best positions: 1) when on your knees – Open mouth, tongue touching right at the tip of the cock and make eye-contact open. 2) If you don’t want to open your mouth and eyes, close them, but make sure your lips are just below the cock-head so as you may get cum on your lips and chin. And 3) lie down and let him sit on you or stand beside while shooting.

4.  Some guys lose their control while ejaculating – thus they don’t know where cum is falling, so you need to adjust your face accordingly and make sure cum hit all around and across your face. Cum on both cheeks, nose, eyes, lips, chin, forehead & hair makes a good facial.

After the cum-facial, don’t spoil the mood of you man by wiping it off with a tissue-paper or towel. Guys cum on your face, because they like to see their cum dripping down your chin. They like to see what they have done to you.

5. Laugh or giggle after cum-facial often spoils the romance away. Give him a sweet and sexy smile – it’s a turn on. Tell him you liked it. Trickily show him that you even have his cum on your tongue. Take the dripping cum on your finger and suck it and wink at him.

[Editor Archer: I'm not convinced this is medical fact OR humor, but it's pretty funny.] And it’s medically proven fact that wiping or washing the cum off instantly is harmful for the skin. So better keep it there on you face for 10-15mint.

[Editor Archer: Don't agree BUT leaving it in just to see your comments - LOL] Add-ons: guys would also like if you go and fetch him water with cum on your face or you cooking with cum-facial on. Show him that you really like and don’t care if cum is on your face.

You can be more innovative and creative to these ideas and make your Him please with CUM-FACIAL.

Guest Article by Lucy

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“Men never approach me”

“Men never approach me!” she insisted.

“It’s your fault!” I replied.

Hear me out.

A friend of mine is a tall, exotic beauty who is unhappy she’s single and isn’t meeting any men.

“Hey! What am I?” I protested? “Taken!” she said. And she’s right but that takes me to my first point.

First, I pointed out that she does meet men just not the kind she considers relationship material.

Being clear is so important in getting what you want and attracting a man.

Second, most men are intimidated by beautiful women and want to approach but choke up.

Third, men often assume that beautiful women are in a relationship already so the attitude can sometimes be “why bother.”

Fourth, if you look high maintenance some men will consider you a lot of effort, upkeep and work.

Are you ‘high maintenance?’ Ask around but not your back patting friends, OK?

Here’s my advice to her:

1. Create the opening

Getting men to approach you is mostly about creating an opening or giving them a good excuse for them to approach and start conversation.

This allows you yo be a women and him the man – but really it was all you, girl!

2. Learn to approach

She needs take responsibility fo her single status and learn to approach men she suspects are relationship material.

Ten years ago a beautiful women approached me to ask how long until the ferry boat to the island arrived. That simple question turned into a night of passion and a fantastic 3 year relationship. And we continue to be friends to this day.

Sometimes, ladies, you have to approach them.

3. The biggest secret

Smile!

I’m not talking about going around grinning like someone who was raised on a daily diet of paint chips.

Throw generous and genuine smiles at targeted men. If he doesn’t take the bait he’s either gay, taken or a complete pussy.

Nothing ventured nothing gained. Smile – cast out your man bait and see what you can reel in.

Truthfully,
The Alpha Male

PS 1. Share this post, please – Single women everywhere need to hear this!!! 2. Shout out your comment below – let’s here it!

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Female Ejaculation – Fact or Fiction?

To squirt or not to squirt – for some – that is the question.

I’m sure I am bound to get a lot of comments on this post so if I am wrong let me know and if I am right let me know too.

Female ejaculation is commonly referred to as squirting and women who squirt quite literally exploded onto our screens thanks to those pornstars who began squirting on camera.  I’ll be completely honest with you here and say that men find this amazing and they would love every single woman they are with to be able to do it too.  This squirting proves to men that:

1. You are not faking your orgasm which is a common problem for a lot of men.  There are women who pretend that they are having an orgasm and to be totally honest sometimes men really can’t tell the difference.  With female ejaculation men know for certain that you have had an orgasm and that you have enjoyed yourself.

2. You are so turned on by them and what they are doing that you are literally exploding with excitement.  Yep the male ego kicks in here too and we love to know that we are doing something that you are really enjoying, what better way to end a late night session that to see the woman you are with losing all control and squirting.

There is no scientific evidence when it comes to female ejaculation but according to surveys carried out between 35 and 50% of females have experienced this at one time or another.  Some do it during an orgasm others don’t.  I’m not an expert here so please feel free to comment and correct any of my information and maybe you could even let us all know exactly what it feels like too.

So really the question that we are trying to explore here today is whether or not women can actually ejaculate like a man and if so what the $&*” is this all about and when did it start to happen.  According to Wikipedia the history of women actually squirting goes right the way back to the ancient world and there are even reports of this in the bible.  There are also mentions of female ejaculation in Indian texts and of course the Karma Sutra.  Even as far back as Greek and Roman times this was mentioned so there really must be some truth to it and of course if seeing is believing then we have all seen it on porn films.

NOTE: Some of movies cheat and use fake squirters. It’s easy – just cut camera – insert water from bottle – roll camera – fake orgasm and commence fake squirt.

Now that you know the ins and outs of female ejaculation and how to squirt all you have to do is get in some practice and make it happen for you.

QUESTION I’m curious to know – are you at all interested in learning how to squirt or completely put off by this idea? Tell me, below.

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Suggest A T-Shirt

What would you love to see on a t-shirt or tight tank top?

Soon I’ll be offering my own line of Master Your Man t-shirts BUT I need your help…

I’ve seen some cute, cheeky and very funny T-shirts lately. BUT I want to know what YOU would wear.

Here a few of my own t-shirt ideas…

Who needs XYZ when you have breasts like these? (front)

Who needs XYZ when you have a booty like this? (back)

Wanted: Real Man

Men: Can’t live with them…pass me another martini

Got Man?

100% Woman

100% MILF

100% Satisified

Hey, my eyes are up here

For Your Eyes Only (panties)

Made For Lovin’

Post Your Idea

Some are bad taste, I know. That’s why I want your help.

Post your suggestion for T-shirts, tanks, panties, booty shorts etc… below.

Important: Make sure post your suggestion with the correct email – so I can give you credit and maybe even send you a shirt.

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Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man – Book Summary

It’s hard not to like Steve Harvey – he’s a funny comedian, an alpha male and gives bang on advice to women.

OK I’m going to do my best to summarize the ideas in Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady Think Like A Man in as few words possible.

BOOK SUMMARY

What drives men?
To be a provider. The less he feels like a provider the less of a man he feels. A man has to be #1 or feel in charge of something.

Men’s love is different than women.
Don’t project your idea of love on him. Men show love differently by what Steve calls Professing, Providing and Protecting.

Three things he needs:
1. Support
2. Loyalty
3. The ‘cookie’ which is sex which is how men connect.
Without the above 3 your relationship will not survive or last long.

He wants to sleep with you. Duh!
Advice for single, unmarried women on the dating scene. Everything he says and does is designed to get you in bed. So:
- Set your ‘price’ or your standard.
If you want to get married set your price high
- Tell him what the ‘price’ is and see if he is willing to pay it

Note: ‘price’ is not money – it’s a measure of sating/courting time, respect, effort, romance, commitment, expectations etc

How men distinguish the marrying type of women
There are 2 Different types of women in mens eyes
1. Sport fish – catch and thenrelease them
2. Keepers
Which are you? Which do you want to be?

Beware Mamma’s Boys
- A wife should never be second to his mother
- if he is a mamma’s boy you need to tell him to become the man and protector of his woman and family that you need him to be

Why Men Cheat?
1. If he’s not getting it from you may go looking for it
2. He thinks he can get away with it
3. Hasnt become the man he wants to be yet
4. There’s always a willing woman – somewhere

Get Some Stabdards..
Or he won’t respect you. What do you stand for?

Strong Independent Women
- If you don’t need us and tell us that we can’t be fulfilled and we’ll walk away.
- Dont give up your success – be a lady and ALLOW him to be a man.

90-day Rule – If your looking for Mr. Right – hold out on sex

There are a few more handy sections like ‘Getting The Ring’  and ‘Questions to Ask Him’  – but I did my best to cover the most juicy topics for you.

Is ‘Act Like a Lady Think Like A Man‘ by Steve Harvey worth the read? Absolutely! Hey, I read it and I’m a guy.

As always – I love your feedback so keep it coming.

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Why Men Stop Wanting Sex

There are numerous reasons couples stop having sex. One of the big reasons is either the man stops initiating sex OR the woman initiates too much.

What the *^%# you say?

Yes, you read that correctly -  “when the woman initiates sex too much.”

There’s no secret I’m a big advocate of women initiating sex to kick start your love life, mainly because:

1. I’m a man. (Call it a conspiracy if you want)
2. One of my surveys men place ‘Initiating Sex’ at the top of the list of things they wanted from their lover

MAN FACT – Men like it when women initiate sex. It makes life easy, makes us feel attractive, desired and a valued man.

BUT, if you (a woman) initiate the MAJORITY of sex your man may gradually lose interest in sex with you. Yikes!

Initiating too much could cause your man to lose his motivation, the passion for the thrill of the hunt and the rush of the conquest. Or, most likely, it could condition him to be lazy – a sort of ‘learned laziness.’

And the worst part is a man may not even realize what has happened and misinterpret it as feeling less attracted to you. Yikes x2!

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I bet you’re confused now, aren’t you? “OK, let me understand men correctly…my man wants me to initiate sex BUT I could screw up our love life if I initiate too much?!” YES  you understand!

TEST Here’s the key…. Ask yourself ‘Do you initiate sex MORE than him?’ If ‘yes’ there could be a potential problem brewing.

My suggestions is to change your focus. Instead of being the 1st to initiate sex – be the 1st to give the hint to initiate – that the time is right and ready for sex. In other words, shift from being the ‘initiator’ to the ‘hinter.’

This is good news too all the women who have wrote me saying “I’m tired of initiating sex ALL the time! Why can’t he?”

Don’t misunderstand my message. YES initiate sex BUT not more often than him.

Understanding men is the name of the game – and key to a passionate love life. I hoped I helped you understanding men in relationships just a little big better

Jay Archer

PS As always – I’d love your comments below.

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How You Can Get Away With Anything

…  OR the key to understanding men

Last time I told you the story of Chris and Kim’s and  “How to Reject a Man…The Wrong way”

UPDATE: Chris begged to take me for drinks and get my advice.

I won’t bore you with the details but it turns out she is still actively playing the field & keeping her options open with an active profile on a popular dating site plus some suspect facebook flirting. He confronted her about it with some facts – she lied to his face. Big blow-out. They broke up.

My response, “Look Chris, maybe she’s just not into you as much as you are into her. I know you want to believe otherwise but your gut instinct told you she wasn’t trustworthy and now you have proof. I know you feel for her but she did you a favour – move on. ”

Well guess what – they’re back together again! Want to know why?

He told me, “Well, I DO have feelings for her and the sex is way too good.”

To summarize…

1) He is more committed to her than she is to him.

2) She lied to him about something BIG

3) He is a doormat

Why?

What is the lesson you need to understand about men?  You can get away with almost anything…if the sex is amazing together.

Ask yourself ‘How amazing and passionate is your sex life?’

Telling like it is,
The Alpha Male

PS: This is NOT implying or encouraging cheating OR being unfaithful. If you didn’t get the point – backup and read it again – slower!

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Why To Striptease Demystified

“Why do some men love to watch a woman strip? What is it that they find so seductive and sexy?”

Let’s face it! Men are very visual in their approach and appreciation of the female form. The answer, however, is much deeper than the hardwiring of male visual cues.

Some men…perhaps most men if they are being honest without fear of a girlfriend or wife…love to watch a woman strip because it turns them on. If that answer seems too simplistic, then step inside my ride because we are about to peel away the depth of male sexuality to discover exactly what men find so seductive and sexy about watching a woman strip.

From the beginning of time, women knew that removing clothing was the way to a man’s libido because it was the visual promise of sexual favors and fantasies. By stimulating a man to visualize the slow removal of choice bits of clothing while swaying suggestively to a rhythmic bump and grind, women entice men to step beyond their want to touch straight into the pleasure of participation.

Similar to a football game, most of the fun for men is vicarious participation. Not to say that they don’t love the act of sex, because we all know they do, but having an uninhibited, sexually charged woman show them direct attention and focus on matching his sexual side with her own is a powerful potion of adrenaline spiked visuals of sex mingled with a healthy dose of ego masturbation.

In short, it makes a man feel like a stud if a woman is so taken with him that she slips past the sexual taboos of every social norm, willing to remove her clothes for him, as he sits back to be treated like a King to watch the show.

Again, overly simplistic perhaps…but, there is one reality of the concept is not readily grasped by most women: confidence. Since the first seductive dance of Salomé, women confident enough about their bodies and their sexuality to remove their clothes have made men shuffle in their seats from a tightening in their pants.

Watching a woman strip feeds directly into the male sense of where sexuality and sensuality meet!

Yes indeed…the biggest of all sexual organs: the brain. With a swaying of hips as bits of cloth drop suggestively over rounded breasts to hang for a moment on the end of a hard nipple, lips pouted in promises of oral pleasures with eyes speaking invitations just for him, the male brain is primed and ready to go well before the rest of him feels the pending explosion!

So go forth and learn how to strip for your man.

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