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Whether you want to attract a man or just be more attractive to your man this tip is for you.
When I was in college they showed us a video in psychology class of a boy playing with a ball.
When the it was over the professor asked the class how man had seen the woman in the video.
The women in the class laughed and looked at the prof like he had 2 heads. But their laughter quickly died down when they saw that 85% of the guys had their hands in the air.
As the boy was playing a ghost like female figure appeared in the video slowly walking from the right side of screen to the left. Although faint she immediately caught my eye and apparently the majority of the other men in the class.
Why had the men in class seen the female apparition in the video and not the women? Primal nature…we couldn’t help ourselves.
Did you know that frogs can’t see a fly if it doesn’t move? For a frog to see it and recognize it as food the fly has to buzz around and act like a fly.
The male brain is hardwired to recognize and size-up female mates. Because there is competition from other males our brains need to be sharp, tuned and fast.
The male brain is hardwired to notice woman …it’s primal
Woa! Don’t worry, ladies. Just because a man’s attention is momentarily caught by a woman doesn’t men he wants to sprint over to her and mount-up and start a family, so relax. It’s simply a primal knee jerk reaction.
What can you learn from the ghost lady and the frog and the fly? NO, that that women are food or men are animals…well, some are animals. But simply, if you are interested in attracting a man, attract men or want your man to be more attracted to you…act like a lady. (This goes back to the article on the ways of Geisha & maximizing your femininity.)
To attract a man you you need to ‘act’ like a lady and maximizing your femininity triggers the primal recording in his head that’s been wired into him for 1000′s of years.
That means:
- Dress like a lady
- Wear your makeup and hair like a lady
- Walk like a lady
- Talk like a lady
- Smell like a lady
- Think like a lady (But smart enough to understand men)
- Maintain feminine body proportions. (Men are wired for to be attracted to specific body dimensions (more about this an a future article)
- Love your femininity
If you don’t know how to do 1 or more of the above here’s a hint. The woman with the MOST amount of feminine characteristics in the room wins the most amount male attention.
This may explain why women seem to be more interested in competing with each other than focusing on the men they want to attract. Case in point – womens’ obsession with shoes and purses. Men REALLY don’t care about these things. So ask yourself who you’re trying to impress because it’s not us, ladies.
If you want to be the hardest drinking, smoking, swearing, dominant woman in the room who can lift any man over your head and only dress for comfort that’s a personal choice. BUT don’t blame men if they aren’t showing you the love. Blame 1000′s of years of conditioning.
As always I’d love to read your questions and feedback.
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Ok… then why do men always pay attention to scantily clad women.. they are not “dressing like a lady”?
Laurie,
Do you think men would look if a woman walked down the street naked?
Is that being a lady. NO.
Some women go a bit further to get male attention – healthy or not.
If I wore a top hat a feather boa would women look at me. Yes. Should I take that as I’m attracting women?
Laurie,
what is important to remember is the maximize your femininity. That is what attracts man.
LOL… though you’ll think from my name I’m a man, I’m not… they pay attention to the scantily clad women for the same reason… they are OBVIOUSLY female… and they need to size up specific body types so they can ‘find’ a mate…
Think like a lady, but smart enough? Just because we think differently doesn’t make us less or more intelligent. Are we supposed to dumb down to be attractive?
Raphi I believe I said or at least meant “smarter than a man” not “smart enough”
I love thisone Jay! Always remember ladies, you don’t have to be knock out and scantily clad to attract men, and you don’t have to be a buxom bombshell. But be a lady. Stand tall,even if you are not. Do not slouch or stand wih poor posture. That will insantly make you look 10 pounds heavier! Keep your chin up! Do not look down all the time, not only does it make you look weak, but it gives the aura that you are closed off.
Learn to walk like a lady. When I got my first pair of heels my father would not let me out of the house until I mastered the walk. If you haven’t mastered it yet, here’s what I had to do. Put a thin piece of masking tape on the floor in a straight line. Walk back and forth one foot in front of the other. Once that is comfortable do it without looking down ~ chin up. After that, with books on your head. It sounds tedious, but believe me men notice when I walk in the room.
The other piece of advice he gave me. Be mysterious, always leave something to the imagination. Men like to fantasize. You do not have to dress like a slut. Try wearing a longer skirt with heels and fishnets or stockings with the lines up the back. Men will be attracted and curious. Their imaginations will go crazy….she looks like a lady but is she really wearing a garter under that? I call it the present affect. You look like a lady but they are dying to unwrap you to see what suprises are underneath. Not only does it drive them crazy, but it boosts your inner vixen to think how lucky he is going to be!
My girlfriend has been reading this website and she talks about it quite a lot an so I decided to come to check.
When I found this article I couldn’t help myself to agreed with you. It is true that a lady-like woman will catch right away our eyes and our interest, but tomboys can also be charming in their own way. I hope you don’t mind the advice, but maybe you could “examine” the vital points of their charm.
I’m not sure I totally agree with this…. Every guy I talk to says they prefer women don’t wear alot of makeup and overdo it with all the fancy clothes…I’m a girl, I shoot guns, don’t own alot of sexy heels and clothes, and swear all the time but lots of guys are still into me… All I do is highlight and style my hair, and wear cute shorts with a tight tank or yoga pants and walk like I’m the hot shit hahahaha
I think as long as you don’t let yourself go and have self confidence your good to go!
It also helps if you have good body language like sitting up right and not crossing your arms, etc
KH,
Youbread too much Into it. I didn’t say to wear a lot of makeup or wear an evening gown everywhere – I said to dress and act like a lady – not a hooker.
I agree. The more I feel good about myself and hold my shoulders up and the more feminine I feel the more people are attracted to me. Not only men but women even take notice. They say like- “you just have a light radiating out of you” or “Wow, you seems so vibrant”. My Aunt says I look like I’m dressed ‘to the nines’ all the time. I’m not but just the aura that comes out from being feminine. Feel confident in yourself. And yes don’t look like a slut, keep a feminine classy lady look. I think longer hair, a little longer dress, heels and light make up with a sweet smile go a long way.
Ladies, read Gaylene’s comment. Now that’s what I’m talking about!
You know, it is interesting though. I am a summer dress wearer, and coming from Montreal which is frigid to cold 5-6 months out the year, as soon as it gets warm enough, I’m LIVING in them! And I usually turn heads. I walk more confidently, hold myself more regally, and free sexier in them than jeans or anything else. My boyfriend and former partners have always loved that I wear summer dresses, particularly long flowy ones. Of course a man will look at a woman with great legs in a short skirt! I do believe and have seen much proof of male brain hard-wiring, but a feminine look and leaving something to the imagination (even if they’ve seen you nude a zillion times) seems to be even more appealing. My boyfriend loves this long white very feminine dress I wear. He calls it his “horny” dress! He also knows I often wear a lacy thong underneath, but sometimes I might surprise him with something (or nothing!) else. And, I barely wear makeup. Hair in a pony tail. I just seem sexier and more feminine because I FEEL it! The swish of a long skirt around my legs feels nice! And I exude the feelings which men pick up on like Pavlov’s dog! Ladies, do we not enjoy a man who smells good, dresses well, and carries himself confidently? These are hard-wired female desires. Of course its all subjective, but certainly evolution and the continuation of the species proves this to some degree!
I was always taught to look, dress, and talk like a lady but act like a Tom boy. Not very many guys like a girl that is afraid of breaking a nail. They like the girls that are confident and put a little time into themselves but still like to go hiking or fishing. I ride a street bike and my boyfriend loves that. You can’t be girly all the time.
i agree with alot of the things said i wanted to add that i think a guys taste in women usually reflects his mother or someone he looked up to or thought of as pretty when they were younger.
I dont wear make up much, i attract mommas boys lol all natural
I can agree with most of what has been said. I’m not “built” great, however I know that my arms, legs and my eyes are my biggest assets & as such, I make it a point to play up those areas. As for how I dress, I dress how I like, which is comfortable. I don’t wear shorts that are extremely short, nor do I wear tops that are tight! It alls comes down to feeling confident in your own skin and having the confidence come through.
I went on a girls trip and me & a friend were hanging out at midnight & go hit on by two 20-something guys! Now mind you, we were old enough to be their mom and we weren’t even trying to pick anyone up. I guess the fact that we looked like we were just out having a good time is what attracted them to us. We were dressed in casual cruise type clothes, had windblown hair & very little make-up on, but it must have been the laughter and the smiles we had that did it ! BTW, we aren’t small, petite or even close to that! The fact is that everytime I go out with all the girls for a get-away, I alway manage to get hit on, which feels pretty darn good when you are in your mid-40′s! I still get told I’m like the “girl nextdoor type” which I’ve been told is very attractive. I can be a girly girl or I can be a tom boy — doesn’t matter to me, just as long as I’m comfortable and I’m having fun!
Of course I’m also the type that even when I break things off with someone, I always manage to remain friends with them & this includes my “ex” husband and old boyfriends.
So my advice is to be comfortable in your own skin, because when you are yourself, you’ll exude sex appeal to attract someone!
Ladies I think we just need to accept that men LOOK! But what they come back to again and again is the important issue here. With all the media, other blokes etc “telling them” what they should like/ not like I am sure that the men are just as confused as us sometimes as to what they want/like etc.
I also think we all have to stop being so sensitive, eg about being “smarter than men”. WE ARE DIFFERENT embrace that!!!! Love being who you are, confidence is pretty darn attractive!!!!
you know tyranny banks just had a show about how men want a lady to act like a lady!! Great stuff and it went right along with everything Jay was saying
I like the sound of that. I like my dresses and my heels, although I walk funny in heels lol.. So I dont always dress to standed.. I’ll agree though being a lady, just being yourself, really is the key to anything actually.. I know my boyfriend likes the whole dress idea although I figured that one on the last business trip if went on half way around the world, we would write some naughty stories for the lonely nights and in all his stories i’m always wearing a dress, either black or red.. I wonder makes sense now..
I always try and be d lady no matter who i’m around..
Mmm interesting.. Xx
I love dressing and feeling like a woman. When I was younger, I was quite the tomboy. But I’m in my fifties now and love everything there is to being a woman. Men also love it. Men love lingerie and it makes me feel so sexy as well.