Understand What Men Want
February 24, 2010 by Archer
“If Only I Could Understand What Men Want….”
Understand Men
by Bob Grant, Licensed Professional Counselor - aka “The Relationship Doctor”
Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. What’s a woman to do?w
Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.
1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”
2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.
3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.
by Bob Grant, L.P.C “The Relationship Doctor”
[Editor Note: Bob Grant, L.P.C., has taken his 17 years of private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach and condensed only the best information into a mouth-watering, powerful handbook on what men find themselves powerless to resist in a woman. The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave ]
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Romantic Mood Killers For Men
February 23, 2010 by A_man
Don’t want to be the one to kill the romantic mood?
Most women know how to get a man going but do you know that there are some little things that you do that can be a real romantic mood killer. It doesn’t matter whether you are just dating or in a serious relationship if you do these things you are essentially turning him off.
When asked about romantic mood killers the top answer from most men was:
1. When she wants to have a “talk”
Yep, that’s it. We’re all ready for a nice romantic evening. We have it all planned out in our minds. The nice dinner (just to help put you in the mood), the bubble bath, the sexy lingerie, the new handcuffs, yes it’s all planned out and we can’t wait and then you says those four little words: “Can we talk?” and our fragile male world crumbles.
The romantic mood – gone, the anticipation of a night of pure indulgent sex – gone. Why do you have to do it? Do you even realize that you are?
When you say “let’s talk”, it’s as if you have just dropped a brick right into our crotch. Yes it’s painful.
Come on we’re planning to have a nice romantic evening why do you have to spoil it by wanting to TALK. When women say TALK it’s never about something trivial and nice and nine times out of ten it’s the serious talk when you want to know about getting married or having children. We really don’t want to talk about those things on a romantic night. When we do you will be the first to know believe me.
SECRET : Here’s the truth about men – we don’t want to THINK about love or how we feel OR use our memory to recall how you or we were feeling at a certain place at a specific moment. Gaaaaa!
Men communicate through physical actions. Being intimate with a woman is the secret to how men tap into their deepest emotions – allowing themselves to really feel – and really CONNECT with YOU! Sad but true. Sorry ladies. But that’s the way it is.
If you want to ‘have the talk’ I suggest you keep it light and talk about what you plan on doing to him later on and what he can do back to you. I guarantee you won’t spoil the mood and you will have the best romantic night ever.
2. Running to the bathroom to ‘clean up’
When you rush away to clean up any stickiness or sweat – you’re sending the message “Yuk, boy germs!” which sends him straight back to grade school.
After lovin’ – don’t panic , it won’t leave a stain just give it a few minutes and enjoy being next to him. Heck – snuggle next to him and let him enjoy his own sticky mess! With luck he’ll ask you to go clean up – LOL!
Until next time,
Less talk – more inter-action
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How Long Do Men Want Sex To Last?
February 10, 2010 by A_man
Have you ever wondered how long men really want sex to last?
I recently carried out a survey where I put this very question to a group of men. The results were amazing and the time duration that men specified didn’t include foreplay either.
If you are looking to really put a smile on your man’s face then take note of these results and try helping him to reach that goal. It’s a great experiment to try and of course there is a lot of fun to be had trying it too.
Survey Results:
50% of men said they wanted sex to last 30 minutes
25% of men said they wanted sex to last 15 minutes
21% of men said they wanted sex to last 60 minutes
4% of men said they wanted sex to last 10 minutes
As you can see from these results under 10 minutes doesn’t even feature. Men really do want the whole sex thing to last longer than what most reports claim. I know that there are a lot of reports and articles out there that say the average time couples spend actually having sex is five minutes and if this is true then there really are a lot of very unhappy men out there.
Why not try an experiment. Time your next sex session and see what the results are. This will give you are starting point to work from. IF you fall under the 10 minutes then might I suggest that you find ways to make him last longer. There are plenty of thing that you can do. You might want to try buying a penis ring. These are great for helping a man last longer and for you ladies the good news is that they also make him feel a lot bigger too. Us men love these cock rings because they enhance the sensations of sex too. You can buy these from all sex shops and if you really want to make it fun might I suggest that you get one that has a vibe built in so that you can maximize your own pleasure too.
When all is said and done, the reason you visit this blog and read these posts is so that you can pick up some valuable tips and information on how to please your man and have the best sex ever. I tell it like it is and with that said here’s a little tid bit for you to chew on.
There is a really strong correlation with the frequency of sex and your health and happiness. The reason for this is that sex is a high intensity exercise and therefore the longer you spend doing it the better it is for you. Makes sense right?
So my advice for today: Get a stopwatch, time your next sex session and then work on getting up to at least 30 minutes or more.
Believe me he will love you for it and a happy man means a lot more pleasure for you too.
To passion,
Archer
PS as always – Please comment. I love your comments, questions and feedback.
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He Never Wants Sex!
February 10, 2010 by Archer
QUESTION: What if you’re completely comfortable with your body like few of us women are, BUT your boyfriend never seems to want sex?
How long should you wait before you jump him? In two months he’s never even tried sliding his hand under my top. He always says stuff like he’s too tired or just drinks so much he passes out. – Carmy
ANSWER:
Carmy, let me get this straight – you’ve only been together for 2 months, you love your body and want to have lots of sex BUT he’s not interested, is that right?
Aaahhh…why are you with this guy?!
No sex?! Might as well spend your time with your good girlfriends or a gay man.
Don’t invest too much time in this guy, OK? Seems to me like your boyfriend is either depressed, stressed or straight-up has a drinking problem.
It’s hard not to take things like this personally – but sometimes it’s not about you. He could have deeper personal issues that you can’t help him with.
One suggestion is to take the lead. Get passionately inspired about your life, work, play, relationships. If he doesn’t follow your lead you may find he doesn’t fit into your life. PLUS the above idea is just a great way to live, isn’t it?
Who knows, your new improved life may help you find that new improved man…who loves passionate sex with you.
My alpha male advice…Get real, get inspired or get rid of him!
Don’t ‘jump him’ – dump him!
And that’s the Alpha Male answer.
[ If a better blow job doesn't get him inspired - nothing will! Check his pulse! How to give a better blow job ]
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4 Tips To End Sexual Boredom
February 4, 2010 by A_man
Yaaawn. Bedroom boredom
If you have been with your partner for a while (let’s say years) then there is bound to come a stage where both of you are going to get bored. You might not mention it to one another but believe me if you have been doing the same position every time for the past year or so then your partner is bored stupid.
The fact of the matter is that sex should be exciting and passionate and there is nothing exciting or passionate about constantly doing the military position and not even attempting to try anything else. Couples can get lazy. You find a comfortable sex position that you enjoy and that brings you to orgasm and that’s it. Every other position goes out the window and you don’t even want to try it. Don’t get me started on this ladies. The point is you need to spice up your sex life because if you are not both enjoying it what’s the point.
What I have devised for you is 4 great tips on how to break the sexual boredom, routine, rut or whatever you want to call it. These tips come from real men and there are the results of my latest survey.
Tip #1: Have Sex More Often
This was the top answer amongst the men I surveyed. It seems like after the honeymoon period most men are lucky if they get to have sex once a week. This just won’t do, come on, sex once a week, that is just ridiculous. When you start seeing someone you are probably have sex once a day if not more so why is it that when you get comfortable you take away this pleasure. I have a question for you ladies – do you not enjoy sex after the initial first couple of months with someone?
Tip #2: Have Sex At Different Times
If you only ever have sex when you go to bed at night then you will at some stage get bored. Why not try having sex first thing in the morning. Most men myself included love having sex first thing in the morning. It is a great start to the day. A quickie at lunch time, when the dinner is being prepared or whenever you can fit it in is a sure fire way to remove any boredom. Why not try grabbing your partner when he comes home from work and trying this out. I guarantee any boredom will soon be removed.
Tip #3: Use More Sex Positions
There are so many different sex positions to try and yet most of the women I know tend to find one they like and stick with it Boring…..Here’s a challenge for you. For an entire month you are not allowed to use your normal sexual position. Are you up for the challenge? Do you think you will be able to do it? I guarantee that if you take up this challenge you will find some really great positions and if there was any boredom or routine in your sex life it will have vanished by the end of the month and your relationship will be so much better too.
Tip #4: More Oral Sex
Oral sex is an important part of sex for both men and women but often when a relationship reaches the comfortable stage the oral sex takes a back seat. Why is this? I have heard women say things like, “I only gave you a blowjob because I was trying to impress you.” Or “That was when we first met.” Is there a rule that says you only give blowjobs when you first start having sex with your partner and then you can stop? I don’t think so. What is wrong with oral sex? You enjoy it don’t you?
If you have reached a plateau in your sexual life and you find that you are stuck in a routine then it is up to you to change it. You can see from the survey results what men want more of so why not take the initiative and put some of these tips into action. You’ll be surprised how quickly that boredom will fade.
FEEDBACK: What bores YOU in the bedroom? And/or share your suggestions below
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Pork Better For Sex Than Viagra?
February 4, 2010 by Archer
Oh, Miss Piggy, you're so naughty
Hey, I love pork as much as the next guy but could pork be the secret ingredient to spice up your sex life?
(Please be true – please be true – OH please!)
I had a good laugh at this recent article.
BUENOS AIRES – Argentina’s president recommended pork as an alternative to Viagra Wednesday, saying she spent a satisfying weekend with her husband after eating barbecued pork.
“I’ve just been told something I didn’t know; that eating pork improves your sex life . . . I’d say it’s a lot nicer to eat a bit of grilled pork than take Viagra,” President Cristina Fernandez said to leaders of the pig farming industry.
She said she recently ate pork and “things went very well that weekend, so it could well be true.”
Argentines are the world’s biggest per capita consumers of beef, but the government has sought to promote pork as an alternative in recent years due to rising steak prices and as a way to diversify the meat industry.
“Trying it doesn’t cost anything, so let’s give it a go,” Fernandez said in the televised speech.
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