5 Keys to Passionate Quickies

Let’s face it – sometimes a busy life gets in the way of a fulfilling love life, doesn’t it?

Sadly, many men have revealed to me they would rather take 5 min to ‘pleasure themselves’ than actually have sex. It’s not that he doesn’t want sex with you… sometimes men get put off thinking about the effort involved in sex – it just seems daunting when he’s stressed or tired.

The good news is men are built for quickies… use this info to your advantage.

Quicky: A passionate, intense 5-10 minute lovemaking session.

Want to have a good quickies every time? Here are 5 passionate tips:

1. Make it Spontaneous

Don’t think. Don’t plan. Don’t second guess. Do just jump him.

Quickies are about living out your animalistic, sexual impulses – unappologetically.

Next time you have the sexual urge and the window of opportunity jump on it by turning to your man and saying “Let’s do it – right here, right now!”  Don’t let your man wiggle or worm his way out of it. Take charge and demand it. 

Ladies, when the quicky is your idea – it is 10x hotter to a man than when he has to suggest it or drop hints.

Make the quickie easy and effortless for him. I’ve never met the guy who’ll turn down – easy, effortless sex. 

2. Clothing Not Optional

Getting undressed is strictly forbidden!

Because a quicky is a spontaneous, passionate impulse you don’t want to take time to carefully remove clothing. Leave the clothes on. Only expose enough skin to get the job done and get out. 

Pull up your skirt and push your panties aside or let them dangle just between your knees. Hey, you may need quick access to them – just in case.

3. Public and Pressure

Make things even more exciting and passionate by adding some time pressure or risk of getting caught. 

Have a quickie when guests are in the other room, just as you’re rushing out the door for work, in the car, just before you step out the door for the show, in a park etc…

Warning: Don’t do anything that is going to get you fired or arrested – although it may be exciting nothing is worth ruining your life over – that would be stupid.

4. Penetration Optional

Don’t feel pressure to always make penetration the ultimate goal of having a quicky.

A quick, surprise BJ or give a hand job will definitely ring his bell.

Next time he’ll be more likely reciprocate and make it all about you by getting you off with some passionate, g-spot fingering stimulation. 

5. Position

From behind and up against a wall or bent over something is the by far the ultimate access position for the quicky. This position was built for the quicky, so use it. 

Don’t waste any time making the positions pretty or getting comfy – your goal is to get it on and get it done. Your legs won’t have time to get tired either.

Learning the art of the quicky can save or reignite your love life.

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How to Make Everything Better

Want to give him a better lap dance? Be a better, more passionate lover? Even make relationships with everyone around you better?

There is a simple but powerful habit you need to practice.

The importance of this habit hit me when I was watching a musical theater performance last night. Watching one of the female performers do a hot, sensual, teasing number I thought to myself…

“She’s good; very sensual BUT there was something special missing that would make it outstanding.”

That something was ‘connection’ with the audience.

Sure, she was beautiful, knew her lines and dance routine but she was stuck in her head – thinking, judging, analyzing…

“Do I look stupid? I feel stupid! I wonder if they think I’m good. What’s my next line? I feel fat! etc.”

She never fully let go, enjoyed herself or saw the audience reactions to her. She was just going through the motions. Empty.

When your attention is focused on yourself and away from the person you’re trying to communicate with you might as well be talking to yourself because there is no connection.

We’ve all had the experience of trying to stay interested and polite while listening to someone but your mind is wandering, right? You’re disconnected! And most humans can sense it in others.

To avoid the impersonal, disconnected way we usually operate in the hustle and bustle of daily living practice going into a situation with a simple and clear objective.

1) I want to ________ my boyfriend/husband.

For example “I want to AROUSE my husband” or “I want to TEASE my boyfriend”

2) While you’re doing whatever it is your doing – talking, dancing, stimulating, stripping – continue to look at him and check in with your objective. Are you achieving it? Are they responding? Do you need to change tactics to achieve your objective?

The information you’re looking for to fulfill your objective lies with him NOT in your head. So this simple but powerful practice forces you to put you focus on the other person – to connect – and get out of your judging, analyzing, critical mind.

So – set an objective, focus your attention on the other person and connect, check-in “is this landing with them?”

Developing this habit will not only help in your love life but in all interpersonal relationships, parenting and in business.

COMING SOON…

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