When couples are together a while the first thing that seems to slip is the sex life and believe me I know. Some couples have children and so a decrease in sex is probably something to be expected but sometimes sex just seems to take a back seat after a while regardless of whether or not children are involved.
In a survey a number of men were asked “What’s the 1 thing that would boost your sex life?”
Here are the results:
According to 30% of men having sex more frequently would work.
29% a very close second claimed that breaking the routine and having sec at different times and in different places would help.
20% of men wanted to try new positions.
19% wanted to have more oral sex.
All of these items would in fact improve your sex life but if I had to pick the number one way then I would definitely have to agree with the 30% of men who said having sex more frequently.
Do you remember back to when you first started seeing your partner? Sex was a major thing. You went to bed for sex. You woke up in the middle of the night for sex. You had sex in the morning. You had sex….
Do you remember the different positions you tried out? The ice cream antics, the neighbours banging on the wall, the laughter as you both fell out of bed in the throws of passion and of course the amazing sex.
If you can think back to that and then look at the way your sex life is now I’m sure you will notice some differences. You see the things is that women seem to get comfortable, they find a sexual position that they enjoy and they just stick to it. It’s as if sex becomes regimented and scheduled and to be quite honest with you this is not the way it should be. Men don’t get comfortable not in the way women do. We don’t just pick a position we like and stick to it we love trying out new ones. We love spontaneous sex, we love quickies, and if anything all we want is to keep sex as fun and exciting as it once was.
Is having sex more frequently a big deal? I don’t think so. Do we have to schedule it with you? We shouldn’t.
If you want to spice things up in your relationship then why not try doing some of these things. When was the last time you tried a different position or had sex outside the bedroom? When was the last time you gave your partner a blowjob? If you can’t answer these questions straight off then you need to do some serious work on your partner. It’s time to break out the baby oil, send the kids to a family member and re-christen the rooms in your home all over again.
Sex is important and if you want to have great sex with your partner then first and foremost you need to have sex. I will leave you with this – start remembering what it was like and start doing it again.
Until next time,
Have plenty of sex
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“You see the things is that women seem to get comfortable, they find a sexual position that they enjoy and they just stick to it. It’s as if sex becomes regimented and scheduled and to be quite honest with you this is not the way it should be. Men don’t get comfortable not in the way women do. We don’t just pick a position we like and stick to it we love trying out new ones. We love spontaneous sex, we love quickies, and if anything all we want is to keep sex as fun and exciting as it once was. “…
Have you even spoken to any women while writing your opinions. Truth be told, I am usually the more adventurous in my relationships. And I know from talking to other female friends that I am not alone in this! I could easily have sex several times a day, but it has been my MALE partners who are too tired to perform.
You are supposedly trying to encourage women to be more adventurous and spontaneous. How can you acheive this if you make sweeping generalisations based upon sexual stereo-types that are out-of-date.
Instead of resorting to old-fashioned attitudes, why don’t you encourage MEN to stop demanding ‘more sex now’ and to start paying attention to their partners rather than whinging about how the wife doesn’t understand them anymore. …
Sara,
Good to hear that you’re the adventurous one.
Unfortunately I have to generalize a bit because I’m not talking to 1 person, so I apologize.
I conduct surveys of men an women – compile their answers and share them with you.
I’d love you to share what I can write about specifically for you?
sincerely,
J Archer
this is sexist what about what women want?
When Darrell and I first started seeing each other things were really fun and exciting. I was very new to this, I had never given a guy a blowjob before. Darrell was really nice, patient and willing to teach me how to please him. I don’t know if it was my technique or my attitude but he slowly stopped coming over as much as when we first started dating. When I told him about getting your “Blowjob Tutorial” it really got him interested again. I now have the confidence to totally get into our lovemaking. I am so happy we are getting together almost every night. Meeting for lunch time quickies has been a lot of fun too lately! More sex is better especially if you can let yourself go and really enjoy it.